If you could say something out loud you knew you could never say, what would it be?

[twistandshoutloud]

I'll go first.

I wish I could tell my SIL that I dislike her so much and I wish she'd never met my BIL. I hate that she is now part of our family. She came to disrupt our (far from perfect but lovely) family. I hate the way she treats my BIL. I hate how she makes everyone pander to her every whim. How all her messages are passive aggressive and how rude she is to my MIL. I could never say this out loud of course, but I dream of it often.

Feels good getting that out of my chest.

Anyone else feel free to add.

When the time comes, it will be very evident. Just sit and wait...

My SIL

Listen to yourself, you are aggressive and opinionated and you have alienated family and friends around my brother with your awful views. You are a horrible woman and I truly wish he'd never met and married you.

He deserved someone so much better in all ways than you and so did your child.

You have always been exceptionally lucky in so many ways - why can’t you count your many blessings for once?

Building on what @CrowleyKitten and @XChrome said: if you call yourself an empath, you aren't one.

If as many people were people pleasers as say they are, everybody would be pleased all the time.

Beginning a sentence 'I'm the sort of person who...' tells me more about you than whatever you follow it up with.

I would tell my brother that he isn’t the edgy cool guy he thinks he is. He is a big loud mouthed idiot with no ability to listen to anyone. Also that if he knew/known what his parents really thought of him and his family he might be quite surprised, and not in a good way.

To my mother. The reason you are lonely is because you add nothing to people's lives and they don't want to spend time with you, you are a negative, judgemental, sexist, misogynistic,racist, and bitter old woman.
You have had 25 years to develop relationships, hobbies, and a life since Dad left, but you have sat on your arse and done nothing but drive your family and friends away with your horrible manipulation and whinging.

I have two

Work colleague,you are the only person I know that's shagged both husband and wife (separately)

Why didn't you listen to me when I said 'do not marry him or get pregnant'

You are too young and your now sucked into the relationship with them both-you married him and she's going to be around until the kids are a lot older

He needs to step up-your pregnant and working 50+ hours in a job where your on your feet all day

His 4-hours-a week-if-i-can-be-bothered-to-show-up is a joke (I'm not buying the whole 'he needs to see his kids'-he doesn't see them through the week)

He's spends your money like its water on himself while you worry about paying the rent and other bills

And why didn't you listen to me when I said 'he's only paying £30 a month for the two kids he's already got-he can,and will do the same to you'

He's taking the piss out of you and you are the only person who can't see it

My other friend

If your wondering why I don't want to see you in person,it's because your the most self centred person I've ever met

All you do all day is send me endless messages about your new bloke-i dont care-you couldn't even bring yourself to say congratulations at the birth of my first grandchild-you couldn't answer a question about what's going on in my life as you never ask or listen

Your not 'a strong,independent woman' at all

You spend all your money on utter crap and take money from your new bloke,disabled son and elderly mother to pay your bills and debts (and while I'm at it,I can't afford to pay for your endless coffee in posh coffee shops,I'm sick of you pleading poverty,but youve always got money for weed or tattoos)

Get up and get a job-i don't know the reason you got the sack but it won't have been for no reason

And while I'm at it,stop stalking your ex

He left you before you had a chance to dump him-does it matter who finished who?

Stop stalking him via his family and let him go-its been 9 years and I'm sick of hearing about him and the girlfriend (makes a change to new man I guess)

And the problems I was having in my own relationship 5 years ago?

I didn't (and still dont) appreciate the fact I thought I could trust you to keep your mouth shut,but you where laughing at me behind my back and had blabbed to everyone as it was the best gossip you'd ever heard

Your that thick and self-centred,you think I don't know what you said

I do and I'm biding my time

That mother should be jailed.

@reesewithoutaspoon I would second that. Mine has done nothing but alienate good people with her ‘opinions’ and ‘high standards’ that frankly no human could ever live up to. Always known better and now is isolated and lonely as I think you and I have discussed on the Elderly parents thread.

That I find being a parent so very hard and it makes me sad that I think this. I have a 11 year old DD and 4 year old DS, I wish I'd had them closer together....by the time my DD finishes school/sixth form by DS will only just be starting and we'll have to go through it all again.

Occasionally I regret having children but I would never say it out loud to anyone.

Without sounding like I'm jumping on a bandwagon I'm pretty sure I'm autistic and can't speak to anyone about it but the more I think about it the more my struggles make sense. Feel like I've wasted so much of my life trying to fit in.

I miss you. I'm sorry.

I wish I could back and make it all right.

That is one of the saddest, worst things I’ve ever read.

Do we have the same SIL? 😂😂

To my colleague who sits next to me 3 days a week, "you are very loud on the phone and when in Teams meetings to the point you make me jump with your loud voice and you even louder laugh, you obviously have a hearing issue, something you have admitted, you are fully aware of it but vanity is stopping you from getting a bloody hearing aid, as you have already told me more than once" fucking get a hearing aid and be done with it.

Why can't you say that to them?

I wish I could say to customers ‘yes, you are stupid’ when they say ‘I’m not stupid you know’. (regular occurrence due to the role I do).

No-one wants to take responsibility for their actions anymore and no-one thinks they’re an idiot, but there’s plenty of them around.

And I wish I could say ‘stop spreading right wing propaganda’ whenever I see people I know sharing those bloody awful ‘stop giving our money to the migrants and give it to our armed forces service members instead’ posts.

I wish I could say ‘you’re poor because of the billionaires, stop blaming the wrong people’.

"I'm agreeing with you on the Empath thing, BIG TIME. one of my friends that talks about how hard it is for her as an empath once phoned me up. I'd just had one of my rats put to sleep, and I said, sorry, I can't really talk, xxxx has been put to sleep. it's like she didn't even hear me, started offloading about how awful her day was, unloading and unloading and unloading, not even noticing that I was just crying while she did that. got to her bus stop, she said bye, and hung up.
I love her to bits, she's a really kind person, but she talks over me, doesn't hear me if she's focused on her own thing, and definitely ISN'T an empath, if she didn't notice the person she was talking to was crying, and too fragile to take on her burdens of the day on top of losing a much loved pet." @CrowleyKitten

I can never understand these kind of people. How horribly self centred of her.
I have a similar friend. She phoned me once, around 3 years ago and I could tell by the sound of her voice that she didn't seem 'right' but when she said 'hows you? how are things?' I told her that my DH had been with his Dad in the early hours of that day as his Dad had passed away and he'd been helping his Mum so we were all very tired, emotional and upset. Do you know what she said? 'oh how sad...<bursts into tears>...the guy I've been seeing [relationship that was about 3 months long] has turned into a real arsehole...he did XYZ back in April and I forgave him and then he did ABC last week!!....omg he's such an arse'. I put the phone down and very rarely engage with her now. Some people!!

Being a woman is crap. From periods to pregnancy to ending up doing all night feeds and all the housework!

You are an alcoholic, you did abuse your kids and husband you may have mental health problems but that's no excuse . You've ruined both sides of your family you have ruined family occasions all I have for you is pity and I'm not sorry I cut you off. I am sorry I didn't believe people when they told me things and I was so easy to manipulate that's on me . If you don't stop drinking that is not my fault .

To the lady at work whose husband left her for OW and divorced her over 30 years ago to stop mithering about what he/she/they might be doing and LIVE YOUR BLOODY LIFE!!! Stop wasting what life you have left on bitching about what he did; yes it was horrible, no he shouldn't have done it but MOVE ON! And stop taking it out on everyone at work for Christ sake!

And to a friend who insists that slimming world is god's gift to weight loss - no it fucking isn't; not to everyone it's not so stop banging on about it to me! If it was, you wouldn't still be a size 22 after 20 years of starting a diet and stopping every six months plus you'd be a lot richer.

That I often wish I hadn't left my unpleasant exh and instead stayed for my DD's sake. Whilst my life is 100 times better without exh, hers is no doubt more complicated and nothing makes up for missing out on time with her when she's with her dad. I often imagine how much easy and simpler things would have been had I'd stayed.

Your lip filler makes you look like you’ve either 1) been punched in the face, or 2) have had an allergic reaction and are in need of an emergency epi pen.

You look ridiculous.

Just because you are "scatty"
Forgetful
Shy
Awkward
Take things literally
Don't make eye contact
Like only beige food
Does not mean you are autistic FFS (however much you want to jump on this particular bandwagon/up your celebrity status) 🙄

I'm glad that my mum is dead she was a narcissist and made my life hell . I would like to also tell my dad to take of his rose tinted glasses and see the women for what she was. And no myself and my poor dead brother did not have a wonderful childhood

That I don't stand up for myself, feel weak and bullied. I know it comes from my childhood but I'm a grown adult and can't blame everything on things that happened decades ago. I can't get over the abuse and i let people walk all over me.

I don't want to be here any more, but can't do anything about it as I have a severly disabled child that my dh wouldn't be able to look after and he'd end up hospitalised in a unit and it would screw up my other ds' life.

That not all autism is the same and severe autism is completely different to being a bit quirky and having mh issues.