To want to just avoid people as much as I can until I die now

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Sure there are still some great people out there but most are awful stressful thick rude shovey mean argggg

Friends can still come to me but no outside

Wait! I volunteer!

not sure what you’re saying it for. But jumping on the band wagon! ♥️

I have to sheepishly admit I both volunteer and sing in a choir.

I am so uncool!

Very uncool. Being a hermit and hating other people is on trend.

Wait. What’s going on? Did I miss something?

bit ironic that the thread is about people being mean. I mean there’s some kind of argument going on

I hope that your lifestyle is one of choice rather than necessity. I don't think I can quite articulate how horrendous that would be for me.

The more I meet people, the more I agree op. I used to love people but there’s no ‘characters’ left. Everyone is a clone of another. I do still like meeting people but I’m much more choosy.

I’m sort of in agreement with this. I think it boils down to the fact that we haven’t evolved to interact with 100s of different people. I work in an open plan office and absolutely hate it, all the noise and different faces that you recognise but don’t really know. Over thousands of years humans lived in family groups and saw others in the immediate area. Now we can hop in a car/train/plane and see thousands of new people over a lifetime, travel to work and see hundreds of different people daily, have to interact with strangers daily to get things done in life. The human lifestyle has changed rapidly in a shortish space of time, population has grown dramatically, we just aren’t designed for all this interaction and I’m not surprised that a lot of us don’t cope well with it.

Oh. I love that! That sounds beautiful. ♥️♥️♥️♥️

Yes!!! Love her!

I bitterly regret living at a time when the world’s population has exploded. In 1900 there were a billion people. By 1960 that had trebled to three billion. It’s now eight billion and heading for ten. Africa’s birth rate is so high the African population is going to double. I yearn to live in a quieter, slower, emptier world. A few weeks ago I took a drive with my dog and found a lovely little woodland clearing. The sun was shining through the Autumn leaves and everything was so beautiful I could have cried. Humans are mad. We just f-ing ruin everything. How long before that bit of woodland is wrecked? As I sat there, instead of bird song I could hear the screeching and exploding of boy racer idiots. The woods near me have been hacked down to make way for a disgusting new estate, and now the fields in the centre of the village are going to be built on. The traffic is a living hell, and it never ends. No matter how many red brick rabbit hutches they jam on top of one another, we always need more, more, more.

I’m becoming increasingly misanthropic as I age. But I don’t think it’s because I hate people (though I do dislike the majority of them). It’s more that I hate the way we’ve swarmed all over the planet.

Oh, but of course!

It's not that you're a misanthrope, in fact you're positively drowning in "curated and beloved" relationships.

But most people, the inadequate who don't meet your lofty standards, "suck".

Got it.

I think you've over egged the pudding there.

On the off-chance that this thread is not a joke, I do hope that you consider therapy or the like. I don't think this level of antipathy towards people is at all healthy. You sound profoundly depressed, and you don't need to be.

Excellent word!!

misanthropic.

Great times! If we could only reverse the clock.

I do believe there are lots of benefits from detaching from 24/7 news, and Insta, and FB and ads and smartphones. I find it relatively easy to do though, I have a paper diary, and I never have notifications on or the ringtone. Messages are there when I want to check them and I look at missed calls and call people back.

I think there's too many people and too much stuff, but it's not as hard to avoid some of this as you think. If you have to take public transport to work though, I am kind of sympathetic to hating everyone, as it seems to me all the worst aspects of humans (up close with strangers) without the benefits (feeling collective, interacting in a positive way).

I agree. OP sounds exactly like the sort of person I would not want in my life, and I'm not surprised other people aren't clamouring to belong to their sorry little club. I generally find that if you are nice to others they will be nice to you. Many on this thread sound unpleasant/miserable, it's no wonder they find other people reacting the same back at them.

I agree with this, when you have a positive purpose like charity or an organisation you see good in people.

I don’t think this thread is about saying all humans are awful.

I think and my guess is that on the whole, in terms of certain communities or work environments there’s not a lot of warmth. I think we are an increasingly lonely, superficial and selfish society. People don’t feel that obligated to be kind for the sake of being kind or be open minded and accepting.

I feel like people are kind to me when I tick all the boxes - I present as a happy, middle class Mum that is smiling and thriving. I don’t feel like I get the same acceptance or welcome when things aren’t going well.

I've definitely come to appreciate other women as I've got older. In my 20s I was a bit of a cool girl/ liked being friends with blokes etc. that has massively changed now. I'm mid 40s, treasure my female friendships and think that men as a collective are the root cause of all the world's problems. I still love and respect some men as individuals but as a collective, they're awful.

This “hate people” posturing has become very tiresome and old hat. You have had your post COVID moment in the sun: can we all stop talking about it now? It’s not big or clever.

What do you actually do to enhance your life or the life of people around you? Do you do anything of value to society or do you just sit around telling strangers on the internet how much you hate people because you think it makes you sound edgy?

You all epitomise the maxim that if everyone seems like the arsehole it’s almost certainly you that’s the arsehole. Sorry but it’s true.

There have been misfits and oddballs for years and that’s absolutely fine. I am fine with that. What I can’t bear is the weaponisation of the resentment of the more socially gifted people to turn them into the enemy which is based on envy and resentment.

And it’s so boring. No one is interested in the fact you “hate people”. You are not significant enough for anyone to care and your perspective is an unbelievable cliche.

And no one buys it either, we can see through it. If you really hated people you wouldn’t spend hours on the internet showing off to other misanthropic losers.

Can you all just start a community somewhere for people haters and let the rest of us crack on with our lives?

This is the community, the title of the thread should act as a deterrent for positive social butterflies.

Nobody is saying they hate people, just that people are hard.

Anyone not feeling down about social occasions or busy places is labelled a loser - I mean you’re really just supporting the evidence that the world can be a harsh place. Can’t even share views without being attacked.

These are comments about society and socialising and feeling despondent. It’s not about you or a personal attack yet you’ve attacked back.

I’m becoming increasingly misanthropic as I age. But I don’t think it’s because I hate people (though I do dislike the majority of them). It’s more that I hate the way we’ve swarmed all over the planet.

This is how I feel. Thanks for posting this. There is too many of us.

You don't seem socially gifted you seem like a big blunderbuss.

I agree there are too many of us. But n one ever applies that to themselves, do they? I myself have 2 DC. What gives me the right to say other people shouldnt?
And birth rates are declining across the world anyway.

Well good for you liking meeting people, are we preventing you somehow?

I dont think enough of us have commented on this thread for you to extrapolate that people are becoming more and more introverted, I've always been introverted.

Most of us cannot in fact hide away, we have jobs, the shopping to do, the limited but necessary events to attend, even sometimes see the neighbours.

Even if we managed to wfh, do all shopping online and never ever attend any events, you still get sick and must meet drs, others in the waiting room, get your eyes checked, see the dentist, take your pet to the vets, take your children and/or parents to many appointments, walk your dogs, pay the milkman, see the window cleaner and more.

I dont mind negative interactions, but people get mighty pissed off when I say what I really think. And menopause makes it way easier to say what I think.

I dont have any opinion on other people, I'm just perfectly happy with my own company. I dont need extraneous people, I'm perfectly fine as I am. I'm not depressed or anxious, I just prefer my own company.
If i suddenly decided i needed someone with me right now, I'd go to the pub for today, if I decided I needed people longer term, I'd find a club to join. It's not like I decide now to be a loner and forever more I must be a loner. I can (but wont) change my mind.

I'm exactly the same. I was a "women are too much drama" type of person but really I just liked the sexual attention of my many male friends.

Now I'm older (and have a daughter) I realise how awful so many men are and how the majority of them see us as second class citizens and sex objects. We need to stand together.

Tbf OP did say most people are boring and horrible.

I'm generally very introverted and intolerant so I get it but OP has been quite rude to and about people.