To ask if your life changed in an exciting or good way after 45?

[Teeeppp]

Just that really. I’m stagnant. I’m lonely. My good years feel gone. Single parent to an 11 year old and 43 tomorrow. Just don’t really have any hope for the future anymore

Yes, loads of nice things, but down to my own actions not sitting around waiting for something to fall into my lap.

Yes, definitely. 48 and nearly finished my first novel which I started last year. Lost 4 stone in the past two years and look and feel great.

Oooh we literally lived down the road from there…..thanks v much. Very tempting!!

Ooh know this road well!

For me it was two fold. Started HRT and also went out dancing at clubs, gigs and festivals.
I also got a new job, took up new sports and singing.
For me change is always needed

You could try listening to the shift podcast it’s about women over 40. Although interviewees are famous (ish) it is good for seeing there are possibilities.

🙄 have you read any posts?

You misunderstood me.
People on this thread are very positive about ageing. On others, a very different view where many say that as soon as you turn 40, everything goes to shit.

Well that's just not true, unless your idea of yourself is forever 21, in which case you might have to do some big thinking work.

But people on this thread are on this thread and are as you say very positive about life post 45+. We didn’t misunderstand you. Perhaps you misunderstood which thread you put your negative message on?

I for one love this thread. Life begins again ❤️

You are confusing me now.
On OTHER threads people talk constantly about how awful it is to reach 38 onwards and how everything goes to shit. I was saying how positive this thread was about ageing which is odd for MN who often say the opposite.

I'm 4 years into a role within a sector which has just emerged. Great hobbies. Writing a book and I adore writing so much. Lovely house. Family (although my 3 parents have health issues). Go to shows. But I just feel like I'm filling up time.

@DaemonMoon I felt like you a year ago. Fabulous man, great job, lovely family, financially comfortable, world my oyster..... but felt utterly pointless and uninteresting. I couldn't think of anything I wanted to do or cared about much. Just wanted to be left in peace. For me it was my peri hormones. Within a week of starting Oastragel, I felt glimmers of interest in life again. Six months after, I'm feeling excited by all the things I might do and have lots of energy to do them.

I'm not normally a medicine person. But this has truly given me my appetite for life back. Might not be the answer for you, but if this listlessness is a relatively new thing for you, then it might be worth looking into. I also had some therapy, but truly feel the biological tweak was the massive deciding factor.

I am loving this thread.... it is so inspiring! I feel like it should be in classics..... it would be so useful when going through that transition/dip to know there are new, exciting chapters possibly waiting.

Massive kudos to all the amazing women achieving so much joy and adventure!

Agree it should be in classics!