ExH brought his dog in my house without permission

[CfCfCftooMuch]

ExH just dropped off his dog in my house. For me to look after, even though i had said no to looking after him. The dc let Exh and dog in when i was out. They love that dog and of course had no knowledge of anything.

ExH is gone now for two weeks. Abroad. He just walked out and took off to the airport, leaving dog behind.

I've got two dc and two cats and work long hours. The cats have never spent a night/day alone in the house with this dog. He is kind and mellow, but a large breed. Size of a wolf.
I've contacted a dog shelter and might have to go to go through rspca.

Posting to tell someone. This is just one of many many ways he always finds a way to use me or control my life. I didn't want any of this. And now im left here calling shelters (which im asked to pay for), calling womens aid, calling rspca, figuring out how to do this without upsetting the dc, texting exH to sort out care if he doesn't want me to take this further, posting here for support, trying to figure out tomorrow with sorting out the kids, my work, other stuff, business meeting and my actual day job. Honestly?! Wtf!!!

I said lie to her ex, ruin his holiday.
Not anybody else. I wasn't advocating doing anything cruel to the dog. Just his abusive owners.

@AllstarFacilier yes he is. Gaslighting me. Telling me i agreed (i didn't). Telling me im extreme in my reactions, crazy.. the latest msg being this happened because of MY poor communication skills.. Im not entrertaining any of that. Laid out the facts and conversations i had with rspca/kennels/womens aid..

The problem OP has is while her ex has done a shitty thing, the dog warden may not see it as abandoned per se since it is currently in a house with someone who knows it and could - albeit reluctantly and with difficulty - care for it, and the owner is known and intends to come back for it.

This really. The poor thing is 'foisted off' on the OP, not abandoned as such. It's bloody awful behaviour from OPs ex absolutely but that doesnt change the facts. Also, however ill advisedly, the OPs DCs (albeit manipulated by an asshat) accepted the animal.

Just book it into kennels and he can pay when he gets back. I don't see why the dig should suffer just because your ex is a twat.

I like the idea of letting someone else stay in his house to look after his dog.

Definitely sounds like the best thing is to leave the dog at his house and go round with the kids after school/work each day to let it out for a run around in the garden and top up food and water.

Oh cry a river.
Why should OP suffer for two weeks and put her cats at risk?
Dump dog at his place, feed it and ex will 100% not pull this shit again.
Too many men count of overly sentimental women like you. It is a dog, surelly OPs mental health, job and two "living sentient" cats don't have to suffer bcs ex is an idiot.

To those saying a vet won't take it, my partner and I found a dog running lost off lead one day. Clearly frightened. Looked for it's owner but no sign of them so we took it to the vets so they could scan it's microchip. We offered to keep it at our house until they could find the owner but they were willing to take it in. Just tell a vet you found it and no owner in sight, can they scan it's chip if there's no dog warden near you. How old are your kids though? I'd be really cross with mine if they'd let someone dump a dog on me without asking.

What kennels are going to take a random dog at no notice, with no history, and no payment?

If she takes it to the vet, tells them it’s not hers, they’re very likely to take it.

Long shot but are there any churches nearby? Especially Franciscans

OP you have some very kind animal lovers on this thread that sound like they would love to care for the dog for two weeks. Find one nearby, problem solved 😬

Awful to leave a dog alone for two weeks. Just awful.

It'll likely howl the house down with loneliness- neighbours could well phone the dog warden then- I agree with PP- he has done a cunt move on OP, dumping a dog on her kids without enough food to last for two weeks, knowing she works and has cats.

No one will ''house sit'' without payment, either.

Find some random you vaguely know. Offer them free board and lodgings if they ddog sit at exes house...

How many of you have found a kennel happy to take a pet with no proof of agreement to pay from the owner, no payment upfront and no card details on file...as well as no vaccination or medical history? I've honestly never come across a business willing to operate that way.

This topic will probably have international Mumsnetters who can help, @CfCfCftooMuch, if you move the thread...
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What a stupid and insensitive comment.

It’s a dog not an object. A living breathing animal and should not be sold off to any Tom Dick or Harry.

Obviously the OP’s Ex is being totally unreasonable and should have booked a dog sitter or a stay in Kennels as soon as the holiday was booked.

The best thing for the OP to do is to find a local kennels that has space and send an invoice to her Ex. Not selling the dog off FFS.

@oakleaffy absolutely, couldnt agree more. But kennels won't accept the dog without proof of vaccination, payment or otherwise, as it contravenes their insurance. If the OP can't demonstrate this then advising her to look into kennels, as others have done, is a time suck that she doesn't have resources for and she's best off looking at alternatives

Depends...I don't know anyone who's been paid for house sitting (I've seen the websites for house sitters, though), but I know plenty who would pay low rent for a house with some pet care, and feel lucky to do it for free. For example students, or freelancers, or people living alone in small flats or bedsits.

This is accurate.

It's worth understanding the RSPCA doesn't actually have any legal power to seize animals without the owner's consent, they can only do so with police support and permission which means the bar for seizure is high - the conditions an animal is in has to be literally illegal, not just less than ideal. Unfortunately there's a wide range of scenarios that are not great for the animal but not technically in breach of the law.

His key rescue is a good shout. Tell them the truth. That the dog has been dumped on you. Hopefully they will help. And also persuade ex on his return that leaving dogs alone for nine hours a day is fucking cruel and get him to sign it over to them. Yup. Defo try them.

Yep, poor dog to have such a shitty owner. Hopefully he will get a dog sitter.

This. Except I wouldn't tell him I'd let it out to toilet. If he wants anything more than food and water (hopefully there is more than 3 days food for the dog in his house) he can fucking well sort his own pet sitter or come home.

Be as dull and repetitive as you can. The dog is in his house and won't be getting anything more then food and water from you. His shit (literally) to sort out. Don't get drawn or guilt tripped. This is the situation. The dog's welfare is back in his hands as of right now.

Worst case scenario the dog doesn't get a walk for two weeks. Is it fair in the dog? No, but nor is it animal cruelty from OP of she has firmly and explicitly in writing TOLD the wanker that she's handing the dog's walks and company needs back to him, the dog's owner.

If OP doesn't stand up and refuse this, the wanker is going to have yet again won and will continue.

I dont have the dogs vaccination history or vet details. I don't know anyone wanting to exchange free boarding for dogsitting, but that is a good idea. Maybe i can ask around. Its shitty that this is now on ME to use my energy on.