Would it annoy you if you kept getting visitors after 5pm on a Sunday

[phanjm]

In laws keep doing this recently and it's just not a great time.

Kids are 4 ( at school ) and 2.

They do so unannounced.

My sis and bro in law keep doing it as well, same time. But on a Saturday, which isn't as annoying.

In laws does the same...every fucking sunday. I have started to ignore them and get on with my chores. Last Sunday I only offered one cup of tea and when they finished I cleared it away
She swiftly left. Making a mental note to not do this to my children.

My dm was a terrible one. The only thing I ever took from my upbringing was never to be at anyone's home when they spouse gets in.... Or at dc's tea time...

I'm a bit puzzled by this. What is wrong with family visiting at 5 pm on a Sunday? If they just stay for an hour or two, and don't expect a full meal, I don't see the issue.

Every relative, friend and acquaintance I have knows that Sunday afternoons are absolutely sacrosanct in my house.

Do not call me, do not arrange to visit.... no one would dare to just "pop in" unannounced.

I just like quiet Sunday afternoons, pottering about and relaxing. No guests or interruptions allowed.

Set the ground rules early and let everyone know it's your time. Sometimes you need to be a cantankerous old bag about boundaries.

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Some people I'm sure would just love to have some family around to visit and wouldn't worry about the time.
If they weren't here anymore you'd miss them and wouldn't care what time they called.
First World Problems.

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I'm not a tidy enough person to cope without at least 15 minutes notice. This would cause me massive stress and if it's becoming regular I'd be asking them to let you know in advance as evenings are very rushed for you.

That's me, I love having guests and really don't mind drop ins. It's what life is all about. But recently it's been grating on me a bit at that time.

I think it depends if they would be helpful! For example I have family or friends who will do the kids bath for me which means I can clear up downstairs. Absolutely godsend when I'm alone as DH does long shifts. Means once kid is in bed, my house is fairly tidy, we have a cuppa before they head off!

😂👌🏻 perfect

I wouldn’t mind mine dropping in but for me, that’s never going to happen because I upset my mil and we’re not close like we were. SIL is busy with her kids in a different town. I think if it annoys you much more then you need to say something because you said lately it’s grating on you.
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