After GCSEs my now 18yr ds left school to work a few shifts a week in a cafe. A levels would have been a struggle academically. I’d hoped he’d complete a qualification alongside this very part time work in the cafe but he doesn’t seem interested. I’ve said he needs to find something full time now. He’s now saying he wants to work in a local warehouse where his mate works. This is full time, but hours at 1pm to 10pm.
He’s already in a strange routine where he picks this mate up from work at 10pm and then they drive around for hours - going McDonald’s, 24hr gym, car meets etc. We have life 360 and I can see he’s where he says he’s been. This is almost every night and ds doesn’t get home until 1am-3am. They’re not doing anything wrong, but it worries me. I can’t really sleep soundly until he is home.
He then goes to bed, phones his gf, and they fall asleep on face time!!
My Dh has just had to go into his room to wake him up for his shift at the cafe (ds’s alarm isn’t working), the gf is sleeping on the phone on ds’s chest! We then hear him cracking open a can of monster - he’s clearly knackered.
He’s not doing anything wrong. He’s 18. But me and Dh are finding his routine unsettling. I’m worried if he takes this job in the warehouse it’ll cement this routine even further and he’ll have no motivation to move onwards and upwards.
How would you tackle this? Or do I leave him to it?!