When me and my husband got together, I knew he smoked. He tried to hide it but I told him I knew. only smoked outdoors and away from me which is fine. When I got pregnant he decided to give up smoking and vaped instead. Again outside, with a coat on, takes coat off when he comes into house. I didn’t ask him to stop, he took the decision.
over a year ago I found empty cigarette boxes in his car and confronted him. Its not the smoking I care about, its the lying.
Since this, our son is suspected asthmatic and since this I have been really strict with him re smoking. He smoked on our honeymoon which was fine because our son wasn’t there. However, as someone who suffers pleurisy very often I told him I know what it’s like to feel like your chest is tight and no smoking is allowed because it’s a risk to our son’s health. He agreed and said it was fine anyway because he’s vaping outside and isn’t smoking anymore anyway.
today I went to open his boot and he said ‘no, I’ll do it’. I’ve grown up with enough liars to know when someone is hiding something so I opened the boot. Long and behold there’s the cigarettes.
i’m angry because I’ve said to him a few times over the last few weeks that I could smell smoke and he said no it was just strong vapes. I’m angry too because of the conversation we had about our son. I’m angry because he lied.
I know he’s a grown man, it’s his choice but don’t fucking lie to me then. Haven’t spoken to him since just disgusted at him to be honest. He said why can you not just leave it but I grew up in a house with a mother who turned a blind eye to everything and it made her look so naive, I won’t be that woman.