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To wonder if you are against private schools…

657 replies

Unsrr · 02/11/2024 12:16

Why is this? As in against their existence?

I was brought up in a reasonably poor area and my education was not good. I sometimes went to the nearest private school for swimming lessons and remember being in awe of it. We have one dc now age 7 and can’t afford private but there is maybe a chance we could for secondary. I wouldn’t give it a second thought if we could make it work.

I have never felt private schools should disappear because surely that’s what we should be aspiring to? An education that is excellent (yes I know not all private schools are good and lots of state schools are better), isn’t that what we should aim for?

I feel sad that this country has now made it harder to access this education. What is the reason people are against private schools existing at all? I don’t think it can be jealousy, I think many people are genuinely opposed to it from an ideological perspective and I can’t understand it at all. Just interested really as there’s been so much talk about schools recently.

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Didimum · 04/11/2024 16:49

Given what Kemi Badenoch has said about reversing the VAT, it would be interesting to see, if she ever gets to be PM, what would happen. Because I doubt school fees would drop by 20% in a few years if that happened.

ntmdino · 04/11/2024 17:30

Didimum · 04/11/2024 16:49

Given what Kemi Badenoch has said about reversing the VAT, it would be interesting to see, if she ever gets to be PM, what would happen. Because I doubt school fees would drop by 20% in a few years if that happened.

I'd very much rather that she - or Labour - introduced an option for the schools to offset the VAT by giving fully-paid scholarships to local residents. Lightening the load on local schools is inevitably going to be a key part of improving education in this country.

Didimum · 04/11/2024 17:38

ntmdino · 04/11/2024 17:30

I'd very much rather that she - or Labour - introduced an option for the schools to offset the VAT by giving fully-paid scholarships to local residents. Lightening the load on local schools is inevitably going to be a key part of improving education in this country.

But lightening the load on local schools should not involve giving some children extreme privilege, and if scholarships are by academic achievement then you get into the grammar school situation whereby grammars have been long shown to degrade the quality of their nearby state schools.

Blaggoshpereish · 04/11/2024 17:53

Regarding some learning needs, bright kids, mainstream - perhaps adhd, slow processing, dyslexia, poor organizational processing, asd.etc etc. Can do the work, can get the grades, but not as easily,

If you are a MN who doesn’t believe these learning differences exist, skip this post.

Some private schools support accessing national curriculum for these kids thru learning support, study skills sessions, extra help sessions, quiet study/exam areas. Parents usually pay extra to have child supported until they can learn strategies for academic success. It’s not special needs, but another area of education where it benefits kids to have parents who can afford private school.

Wouldn’t it be nice state schools could identify and support these kids too …. Without waiting years & years for an nhs/camhs assessment and then too little support, too late.

SleeplessInWherever · 04/11/2024 18:13

Blaggoshpereish · 04/11/2024 17:53

Regarding some learning needs, bright kids, mainstream - perhaps adhd, slow processing, dyslexia, poor organizational processing, asd.etc etc. Can do the work, can get the grades, but not as easily,

If you are a MN who doesn’t believe these learning differences exist, skip this post.

Some private schools support accessing national curriculum for these kids thru learning support, study skills sessions, extra help sessions, quiet study/exam areas. Parents usually pay extra to have child supported until they can learn strategies for academic success. It’s not special needs, but another area of education where it benefits kids to have parents who can afford private school.

Wouldn’t it be nice state schools could identify and support these kids too …. Without waiting years & years for an nhs/camhs assessment and then too little support, too late.

Just to clarify - the confusion I had earlier was around children who have an ECHP and higher needs funding, and if they were in that group of children we were talking about in private education by parent choice.

In work, it’s those children I work with LAs and schools to provide support packages for, and at home… well he wouldn’t fit in a private mainstream setting, and none of you would want him there either tbh. The child brings the chaos, he’s not in the demographic you’re talking about.

I wasn’t in anyway dismissing children with any other form of need, learning or otherwise. I am of course aware that children with different needs to the ones I’ve encountered exist, and deserve an education.

BackForABit · 04/11/2024 18:17

Solent123 · 02/11/2024 12:33

Michaela has the best progress 8 in the country and incredible results, its in a poorer area and non selective - and yet they get a lot of hate for their behaviour policy.

Yeah, but a) wonder what their exclusions are like and b) if your kid has SEN I wonder if most parents would actively choose not to send their child there so it sort of becomes self selective.

DuoLingoStreak · 04/11/2024 19:12

NothingMatterss · 03/11/2024 22:43

That’s great to know, thank you!

In fact it was a government initiate to get as many schools into a MAT (multi-academy trust) as possible. I lose track of where that is these days.

Bushmillsbabe · 04/11/2024 19:21

Blaggoshpereish · 04/11/2024 15:53

assessments can take years, many local SEN authorities won’t accept a private assessment. Make up every excuse and delay so that years pass before can get an ehcp even if child disability a confirmed medical diagnosis.

Local SEN at council likes to decide what child needs which seems to be exactly what every other SEN child needs.

often local education people (do question their qualifications …) turn the SEN into parenting “needs”

That is a huge issue, those deciding on placements often have very limited professional knowledge. As a health professional I write reports for ehcps, and you can see they just pull random phrases from each professionals report which looses context and ends up with the report making no sense.

NothingMatterss · 04/11/2024 19:46

DuoLingoStreak · 04/11/2024 19:12

In fact it was a government initiate to get as many schools into a MAT (multi-academy trust) as possible. I lose track of where that is these days.

Edited

They tend to be better than state maintained ones (primary level). I don’t know about secondary quality for academy yet.

DuoLingoStreak · 04/11/2024 19:53

NothingMatterss · 04/11/2024 19:46

They tend to be better than state maintained ones (primary level). I don’t know about secondary quality for academy yet.

I think it’s variable (state school governor).

Philosophically I’m conflicted about MATs. On the one hand curriculum and policy autonomy is good and poor support from the LA gives them buying power and other economies of scale etc. However, the size of some MATs are akin to publicly listed companies yet trustees remain largely volunteers who are unable to adequately challenge. There’s an issue with span of control.

EalingLucy · 04/11/2024 19:56

Sad they are needed really. All education should be great. But don’t blame people who can afford them for picking the best for their child.

LeopardPrintIsNeutral · 04/11/2024 20:01

Ednoreilojal · 02/11/2024 12:25

I think the general feeling is that all children should be entitled to a good education, not just those with rich parents. If there weren't private schools rich parents would have reason to support the state school system.

The same with grammar schools in areas which have them, the reason people are so desperate to get kids into grammar schools is because the non grammars have a bad reputation. This is largely down to the fact that the top 20 per cent of achievers go to the grammars. Which includes large proportion of better off families who can afford tutoring for 11 plus and to support their kids with educational extra curricular activities.

In an ideal world, all schools would be good and everyone would go to their closest school.

This

Drom · 04/11/2024 20:26

EalingLucy · 04/11/2024 19:56

Sad they are needed really. All education should be great. But don’t blame people who can afford them for picking the best for their child.

I do blame them. I can afford it, but wouldn’t consider sending DS private. To do so wpuld be participating in a system that perpetuates inequality.

EalingLucy · 04/11/2024 20:29

Drom · 04/11/2024 20:26

I do blame them. I can afford it, but wouldn’t consider sending DS private. To do so wpuld be participating in a system that perpetuates inequality.

Some, such as those with SEN, would struggle in mainstream but get more support in private schools. I’m not going to flame those who want to do that when they have zero support in traditional schools.

RhaenysRocks · 04/11/2024 20:29

Drom · 04/11/2024 20:26

I do blame them. I can afford it, but wouldn’t consider sending DS private. To do so wpuld be participating in a system that perpetuates inequality.

But you might if your child had unmet needs in state. Do you really not understand that? Loads of us had no intention of beggaring ourselves to do this until our kids were utterly broken. Anyone who hand on heart would leave their child in a setting in which they were terrorised and then developed EBSA and didn't move them if they could is a bloody terrible parent in my view.

Xenia · 04/11/2024 20:30

I support private schools. Hopefully the litigation will be won and Labour will not be able to go ahead. We save teh state a small fortune and have our children educated well which benefits the nation which relieving the state sector of the cost of 500,000 children a year.

Singinginthespring · 04/11/2024 20:30

Drom · 04/11/2024 20:26

I do blame them. I can afford it, but wouldn’t consider sending DS private. To do so wpuld be participating in a system that perpetuates inequality.

So you’d put up with your child being kicked black and blue every day for your smug ‘perpetuating inequality’ values? I’d doubt it.

Hoppinggreen · 04/11/2024 20:31

Drom · 04/11/2024 20:26

I do blame them. I can afford it, but wouldn’t consider sending DS private. To do so wpuld be participating in a system that perpetuates inequality.

Is your child at a failing State school?

Singinginthespring · 04/11/2024 20:32

Blaggoshpereish · 04/11/2024 15:53

assessments can take years, many local SEN authorities won’t accept a private assessment. Make up every excuse and delay so that years pass before can get an ehcp even if child disability a confirmed medical diagnosis.

Local SEN at council likes to decide what child needs which seems to be exactly what every other SEN child needs.

often local education people (do question their qualifications …) turn the SEN into parenting “needs”

It’s the endless fighting your child’s corner. It’s so draining!!! You become such an expert in your child’s rights!

Singinginthespring · 04/11/2024 20:32

Hoppinggreen · 04/11/2024 20:31

Is your child at a failing State school?

London Oratory perhaps?

Singinginthespring · 04/11/2024 20:36

noblegiraffe · 04/11/2024 16:11

And yet you still seem to think that the teaching at a state school and a private school will be the same.

Look at the teacher trainee recruitment figures below. They have been massively below target for years. What do you think this looks like on the ground?

In state schools there are many, many classes that don't have a permanent, qualified teacher. They will have an adult in the room for safeguarding reasons, but that doesn't mean it is someone who knows the class or the subject, or who is even a qualified teacher. It may be a different adult every week. This may even be for exam classes who are basically left to teach themselves the syllabus. At A-level there is a box on the UCAS form for extenuating circumstances where you can write, and I have had to write, that a student did not have a teacher for a significant proportion of the course and had to teach themselves. This is not unusual.

I would strongly, strongly doubt that this is the case in private schools, because if it is, what are the parents paying for?

Agreed. What I meant was the teachers are no better at private. It’s the same standard of actual teachers. But nice to have one that has knowledge of the subject.

Id say the private school teacher turnover must be much lower as so many of the teachers are committed to staying until their kids leave the school (and they no longer need the staff discount).

Hoppinggreen · 04/11/2024 20:44

Singinginthespring · 04/11/2024 20:36

Agreed. What I meant was the teachers are no better at private. It’s the same standard of actual teachers. But nice to have one that has knowledge of the subject.

Id say the private school teacher turnover must be much lower as so many of the teachers are committed to staying until their kids leave the school (and they no longer need the staff discount).

But when they don't have to deal with disruptive behaviour, have small classes, excellent resources and parents who are generally engaged with their childs education its much easier to teach.
DDs GCSE History class had 10 kids in, DS's classes have between 15 and 20 tops.

DuoLingoStreak · 04/11/2024 20:45

Xenia · 04/11/2024 20:30

I support private schools. Hopefully the litigation will be won and Labour will not be able to go ahead. We save teh state a small fortune and have our children educated well which benefits the nation which relieving the state sector of the cost of 500,000 children a year.

Not commenting on private vs state but the reality is more complex than going private saves the state money.

Pupils = state funded income for schools. True.

However, there are many fixed costs to running a school. Whether the class has 24 or 30 students it’s still requires 1 x teacher. It requires the same building, utilities and lots of other overheads associated with it. So the variance between fixed and variable costs is less than you might think.

Schools are in deficit budget in some areas due to falling pupil rolls. This is either propped
up by the state or schools are having to scrimp in other areas because they still have high fixed overheads. An influx of some ‘private’ students will be the opposite of a burden. It will be funding/income that as a ratio makes fixed overheads more bearable.

JudgeJ · 04/11/2024 20:54

I am absolutely opposed to private schools, it puts certain children at a significant advantage than other children just because mummy or daddy or rich grandparents etc can fork out an eye watering amount of money each year

Where do you want to stop though? My late OH spend ages helping our granddaughter to develop her reading, I spent some time this weekend talking to my grandson about a problem he was having with his Maths, my son-in-law almost ran private revision classes in his subject at half term. for his daughter and her boyfriend. Is the suggestion that able and caring family should not try to give their children an advantage? Shall we ban selling children's books because not all can afford them or bother to direct their resources in that direction?

noworklifebalance · 04/11/2024 22:50

Drom · 04/11/2024 20:26

I do blame them. I can afford it, but wouldn’t consider sending DS private. To do so wpuld be participating in a system that perpetuates inequality.

I presume you do not enrich your children’s lives in any other way - no instrument lessons, sports, trips to museums or theatre, no books at home or visits to the library, no cooking together, exploring cusines, visiting different parts of the UK or going abroad. Where do you stop?
Do they have a warm home, full stomachs, a quiet place to study, broadband, devices?

You already are part of the system that perpetuates inequality. We all are.