AIBU to keep my baby with me when she’s unwell?

[MojitoNoIce69]

My MIL has come to stay for 10 weeks and spend time with our 6 month old.
She normally takes the baby to her room and I won’t see her all day.
This annoys me but I let it slide.
Baby unfortunately has developed scarlet fever and is pretty miserable.
I have a medical background so I’m monitoring her to see if she needs antibiotics.
I refused when MIL wanted to take baby to her room for a few hours.
I’m happy for baby to be held in the living room with me around.
MIL is angry and saying I’m unreasonable. Am I unreasonable to want to watch my only baby when she’s unwell?

I agree! Its upsetting tbh.

Bur what is she doing with your baby? She sounds completely overbearing. It’s YOUR baby. Only if it’s helpful let her take the baby.

Are you ok OP?
I think the everyone's responses show the strength of feeling about this.
It would be my worst nightmare to be honest.

Start making changes right now. Can we help? Let us know.

For the love of god just give the baby the antibiotics

Why are you allowing her to take your baby to sit in her room all day? That's really not normal and it's not good for your baby to be separated From you all day because her grandma wants to play mummy. You need to learn to stand up to her for the sake of your baby.

She's YOUR baby..tell mil to sod off

Even if she isn't in a forced or arrange marriage, why should her DH's culture take precedence in relation to the role of his mother in the raising of their baby?

Why can't OP's culture take precedence?

I wasn't discussing whose culture should take precedence. We don't know how OP has found herself in this situation.

I'm saying it isn't as easy as everyone leaping in to say it's wrong and telling OP what she needs to do. I think there is significant information we don't know about the relationship that led to this situation.

I don't think OP is able to act upon the "take your baby back" or "why are you allowing this" comments. We have no idea what her DH's part in this set up is.

My biggest worry here is that as a mother you aren’t sticking up for your own child and your bond and letting someone else gatekeep her. Your DD has no voice, you are meant to be it and advocate for her. Most mums would be outraged at this but yet you seem to be allowing it and that bothers me as another parent.

You need to tell MIL to leave and you need to start sticking up for yourself and looking after your baby.

I hope OP is OK.

It's weird to take the baby into a bedroom for the whole day, especially when you are at home.

Very weird. If you’re a guest in someone’s house, it normal to socialise with them. If they have a baby, you help if required , you don’t disappear with the baby.

Are you ok OP? I hope you managed to stand up for yourself.