To let me nephew see me naked?

[Whoknowsnotmeshrug]

Sounds goady, didn’t know how else to word it.

im a 40 year old lady. No children of my own.

I have a 3.5 year old nephew. I have a good relationship with him, see him regularly and have him overnight/ take him swimming and for weekends away.

When do you need to start worrying about little kids seeing you naked?! As I say I’ve been taking him swimming since before he could walk so I’ve just taken him in the shower with me/ washed myself and him (in a private shower cubicle!) and not even thought about it. When he stays over I wear pyjamas as he’s often in my bed (he had his own bed but prefers mine- that’s what he does at home too!!) but just quickly get changed in the morning so I guess he sees a flash of my bits and pieces.. I have recently started to leave him in a pretty safe room whilst I use the toilet but he’d much sooner come and chat with me whilst I’m on the loo..

He’s started talking about bodies and making observations about mine. I wasn’t really bothered but now I’m thinking he’s going to be 4 before I know it and maybe I need to be more modest!!

So:
YABU- you should always be covered when you have a 3.5 year old over that isn’t your child
YANBU- it’s fine. He’s a little kid and family

The last option: (can’t vote!) it’s fine if he happens to see something quickly but try to be covered where possible with towels/ ask him to not look.. I think I’m going down this route but would like advise!

what are others take on this?!

Spot on! Some people are so weird.

This reminds me of a time, pre my own kids, I was looking for my nephew for a weekend, who was about 3.5 at the time. I used to look after him quite regularly, and I wasn’t walking around naked in front of him, but being little he would follow me into the bedroom when I was dressing etc but I thought nothing of it, until one time, he opened the bathroom door when I was having a shower and came in (it was just me and him in the home so I had left him watching TV and left the bathroom door unlocked). I tried to be as discreet at possible as I finished washing and getting myself sorted and he chattered away about things unrelated, but then to my horror, he said “Auntie , you’ve got hair on your willy!” (I’m a woman, but he didn’t know the name for female parts at the time)

I think I responded with something about that being private and we don’t look at other peoples “willies” but I was completely mortified!

And of course, to make matters even worse when his father collected him from me later that day (my sisters husband) he of course repeated this new found discovery to his daddy, as I hastily explained how he had come into the bathroom while I was showering, in case he thought I was some kind of abuser deliberately flashing myself to his child. So then my brother law knew the unshaven status of my ‘gina, and I just wanted to die of embarrassment, and I think he did too.

I was very intentional about locking the bathroom door and not letting my nephew or subsequent nieces, nephews and godchildren etc see me naked after that! But for my own (now 1) it’s no issue.

The his is such a weird post.... makes me think it's been created just so that people will actively discuss being naked in-front of young kids.

MissionaryMumtoOne
Your post made me laugh :-).
Kids are so funny.

I remember seeing my cousin's very long and droopy boobs. I was about 7 at the time, she had a couple of babies.

I thought everyone's boobs were droopy like that. I'd never seen my mum completely undressed (this was the 1950s).

At school I described the boobs to another girl who said that they all dropped like that at the age of 22!

Look, I made a post asking for some advice. People gave me advice. I’ve taken it all on board and it’s been appreciated.

This thread finished DAYS ago.. it had been quiet. No one else was posting. You came on to the post to put your weird slant in it and made it active again. Maybe you’re the weird one enjoying talking about being naked in front of little kids?!

Go away and stop being dirty minded.

Massive thanks to those that gave me some useful advice and agreed with what I felt would be the right next steps.

Please don’t write any more comments on this thread as there seems to be some increasingly strange contributions from people with dirty minds.

You have said and done nothing wrong, op, there was absolutely nothing sleazy about your post. Forget it now and hopefully the thread will slide down the list.

Ask their parents what they feel comfortable with?