9 year old served ‘birthday drinks’ at sleepover

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My daughter recently attended a birthday sleepover. The girls are 9 years old which I thought was slightly on the young side so I was a little hesitant but agreed.

I have just seen some pictures and I really am not happy. The girls were given ‘birthday drinks’. They were only squash and obviously no alcohol was used but they were served in actual plastic flutes. The drink was bright pink with fizzy sweets in the glass but I’m not happy.

The mum in question parents very differently. Her 9 year old gets bought VERY expensive skincare products. And her daughter acts like a
full on teen - we’re talking crop tops, Stanley cups, skincare, TikTok dances, eyeshadow etc. I have been in the girl’s bedroom and she has a dressing table completely covered in drunk elephant etc. The mum is into that overconsumption stuff she sees online. Fine, parent how you want but I want my daughter to have a childhood and to not be adultified.

AIBU in thinking this was massively inappropriate? Why couldn’t they have just made milkshakes or smoothies? Or an ice cream sundae?

Pretty sure I had a Bucks Fizz at Christmas from that age.

You are going to get a shock when she starts experimenting with alcohol in her teens which really isn’t far away!!

OP. If this is real you need to take it as an opportunity to reflect and unclench. The children were drinking soft drinks in fancy glasses.

I think your life and DD’s life will be happier if you can relax a little bit.

Jeez I thought she had been given booze

Instead

Fizzy drinks in nice plastic glasses

Wow. The outrage. !!

Yet you allow your 9yr to have sips of alcohol

Def no need for that tbh

14/15 a maybe small glass of wine and lemonade at home for special occasion

But def not at 9

Why

And this

The mum in question parents very differently. Her 9 year old gets bought VERY expensive skincare products. And her daughter acts like a
full on teen - we’re talking crop tops, Stanley cups, skincare, TikTok dances, eyeshadow etc.

You have just described my 7 nearly 8yr at home minus the Stanley cup. I refuse to buy a cup for £50

Don't see the issue - or maybe I'm a bad lax parent

What’s wrong with a normal drink in a different? Love some cucumber water in a G&T glass… makes me feel fancy 😂

I don’t drink, am definitely in the “don’t grow up too soon” camp, and I would not have a problem with this

it sounds more like you don’t like the way this mum parents. You SAY “you do you” but you need to practice that as well. Let it goooooo

By then she will be used to the taste of wine so no problem downing it. 😂

Oop I remember my sister being 9 the Xmas before COVID and quaffing lemonade out of a plastic flute all day whilst we had prosecco. I thought it was cute

The context definitely is playing a part for you here.. I’m a big believer in not adultifying kids but the soft drinks in flutes is not even something I would think about!

OP, your DD is the one kid who will lie to you, sneak out and hide things. Fancy getting your knickers in a twist over a fizzy drink!

My 9 year old has sips of wine from me

But you have a problem with squash in a pretty glass? 😁🤪

When I was living in Spain it was pretty normal to have a Kalimotxo (red wine diluted with cola) for a special occasion from about 10!

This mum gave my 9 year old a [non alcoholic] birthday drink as part of a party and I'm not happy.

I give my 9 year old actual wine

People call me out for this

I don't really give her wine

fiveflyingfish
Yeah it’s much better to actually serve your nine-year old real alcohol.

Sometimes I wonder whether people realise that their stupid knee-jerk remarks are here for all the world to see for ever.

Only someone seriously deranged would suggest serving nine-year-olds alcohol. Even in jest, if that's what your post aspires to be.

Kids like to play at being grown ups! They have and always will.

I assume the problem is you don't like this child mum! That's fine you don't have to like everyone, we are all different.

Kids have always played dress up and pretend.

You sound uptight. They were having fun drinking from a special glass.

So you've a problem with the birthday host mum letting the kids have fun with fruit juice in fancy glass, but you gave your 9 year old daughter wine to taste - some seriously fucked up thinking here!!

Crikey I make cocktails for all the younger family members .proper glasses fancy straws and umbrellas. It's just a bit of fun .We make all different colours and favours .I don't drink by the way.

I thought this was going to be that your kid was served alcohol.
while I see your point, you knew the parenting style was not what you approved and allowed anyway. I really do see what you’re saying but I still think yabu! Especially as you have given your daughter actual alcohol and normalised it. This was juice. Yabvu!

You are being ridiculous

This is a lot worse than a bit of squash with an umbrella in it. I would never in a million years be giving a 9yo sips of wine. You’ve got some cheek to be pissed off about a bit of soft drink when you’re giving a 9yo wine.

Drinks at a birthday party = birthday drinks.

She hasn't made it into anything untoward or weird.

It is purely soft drinks in a nice glass at a birthday party.

You clearly have an issue with this parent and their family /way of living their lives. Don't let your bias impact on the idea that someone has given a soft drink to your child at a birthday party.

Yeah my 4 year old has a flute of shloer at Christmas. I make him mocktails sometimes on special occasions too. Somehow he’s managing not to turn into a raging alcoholic.

Well I think we can safely conclude the OP got what they wanted from this thread

Did you mean 9 months and not 9 years?