Should we stop DC seeings in laws?

[wishuponamoon21]

Long story but to make it as short as possible

DH one of 2 children, both have 1 DC each, so there is our DN and our DC as the 2 grandchildren. 1 year apart, the same sex.

Our DC has had one visit since they were born 6 months ago for 4 hours. We live 100 miles away from them.

Our DN gets 6x weeks spent with him 3-4 times a year. They live 10k miles away from them. As I said, 1 year older than ours.

In laws never ask after our child from one month to the next.

All of a sudden they have asked to see our DC in December - as they are coming back this way to see their friends. Feels a bit like a tick box exercise and considering the little effort, time and energy they give to our DC over their other DGC. I feel like saying no. AIBU?

That's kinda harsh, if they can't be bothered about OP or her child why should she be arsed if they now want to see them suddenly especially when they will most likely ignore them for another 6 months while continuing to spend time with their other grandchild?

Their other GC is halfway across the world. They're not exactly going to do that flight multiple times a year.

OP says they are apparently 3 or 4 times a year.

They have and they do. 3 trips planned for next year already!

No, that’s not what I said at all. What a bizarre take on my comments.

You don't want to let them visit, because you are mad at them for.... not visiting?
It all sounds pretty awkward, if you don't get along with them it makes sense that it's been difficult. Their relationship with their other grandchild is not really anything to do with it - presumably they get along better with those parents?

If they are like this I could keep it at the lowest possible level. We tried in a difficult situation and it has just been unpleasant and damaging.

Good luck.