To want to change my whatsapp settings to remove my last seen?

[Ponystories]

My friend stalks me on whatsapp. She stalks everyone. She will send a message and then:
If you have been last seen but either not read or replied to her message she will get arsey. She will then regularly check your last seen. She will get arsey in that you'll either get a short reply or she will purposely wait ages to reply, like you did to her (her words).

She will comment that I was up late ie she saw my last seen at eg 1/2am

If I turn off my last seen she will get the arse. But I'm tired of her games and feeling like I'm being watched. I feel like I need an excuse to turn off my last seen. She will 100% ask me why I did it.

Just block her and tell her why you don't need people like this in your life.
Why are you so worried about upsetting her?

Just do it.

You have to be strong here. Tell her the truth - you're sick of being stalked on WhatsApp! Absolutely no way would I put up with that shit.

Why is she your friend? I couldn't be bothered with someone like this.

Jesus she needs to get a life! Yeah 100% turn it off, and when she asks tell her straight that apart from the fact it’s none of her business you can’t deal with her weird stalker behaviour.

If she asks tell the truth. No need to make up excuses. You don't like her checking up on you. She can't deny it as you have proof that she does.

I literally don’t know anyone on WhatsApp who has their ‘last seen’ switched on any more. But I’d be ditching the weird friend either way.

She doesn’t need to see it…..but do you want others to see it?
before I go to bed every night I check my 3 AC and my DM to see whether they been on WhatsApp that day….that way I feel they are safe and I can’t sleep easy….mad I know!

Only use whatsap for family now but seems that some wont contact u if they see you arent online so how do u win🤔

Just do it and when she asks just say you have changed your privacy settings on all your apps to give you some space from it all.

Do you really care if she gets the arse? She sounds like a massive pain in one.

@Kitkat1523

The op can select who sees the ‘last seen/online’ status - ‘contacts except,

Ugh tell her to get a life. Ask her if she fancies you or something. Ask her why she's so invested in the minutiae of your life. Ask her why your last seen status bothers her so much. Tell her your life doesn't revolve around her and she doesn't get to dictate when you reply to her messages and even if she did, having a tantrum because she's not getting what she wants when she wants isn't the way to go about it.

TLDR; Do it. She's not worried about pissing you off and/or hurting your feelings so don't worry about hers. Just tell her if she asks why.

You can select that only she can't see when you've last been online and she won't get read receipts. However I echo the other PPs why is she your friend and why are you putting up with this?

What is ‘last seen’ and how are you seeing it?!

Thanks all. I've purposely not been going on whatsapp as much, just because she will see I've been online and that I'm around etc and she will message galore. But this means I am missing out on other friends/family messages. As soon as I am seen online on a weekend morning i.e. I am up/awake, then she is messaging. FFS I am still in bed sometimes.
If I go abroad I leave my phone in aeroplane mode for a few extra hours even when I have landed back in the UK. Otherwise she will see my last seen/anything she has sent me in flight will then be shown as delivered and it will be 'you're back' type of thing.

I turned mine of years ago and wouldn’t turn it back on. It gave me anxiety!

By all means turn it off, I have. But tell her to
get lost and block her-why are you so passive?!

You should not have to change the way you live your life just to appease your arsy friend. You sound scared of her. That, in my book, isn't a friendship.

I turned mine off years ago, that said your friend is treating you like her property. I'd get rid of the friend!

The 'friend' is the problem not the app settings. Why are you giving her so much power?

Honestly, this is a non problem. Just turn off, your phone settings have got fuck all to do with anyone else

She thinks she's your boss. Do you want her to be your boss? Do you already have one that you endure because they pay you?

Does your friend pay you?

THIS

It totally gives me anxiety.

This friend is obsessed with messaging, imo.
I feel watched/stalked/like I am being checked up on
I feel slightly violated too

Have you issues with being assertive?