To want to change my whatsapp settings to remove my last seen?

[Ponystories]

My friend stalks me on whatsapp. She stalks everyone. She will send a message and then:
If you have been last seen but either not read or replied to her message she will get arsey. She will then regularly check your last seen. She will get arsey in that you'll either get a short reply or she will purposely wait ages to reply, like you did to her (her words).

She will comment that I was up late ie she saw my last seen at eg 1/2am

If I turn off my last seen she will get the arse. But I'm tired of her games and feeling like I'm being watched. I feel like I need an excuse to turn off my last seen. She will 100% ask me why I did it.

She's not a friend if she's making you feel like you're being stalked.

I would actually send her a message next time she moans and say to her why is she so obsessed with stalking your online status and that it's creeping you out.
I'd then block her. You'll feel much better.

I have my last seen off and also no blue ticks…I cba with the bullshit that people feel entitled to a message back straight away. If I’ve read it but requires a quick reply fine, but if I’m busy I can read and reply when I want because they can’t see I’ve read it

Doesn't sound like much of a friend! But if you're looking for an excuse, tell her that your manager can see your WhatsApp and you'd prefer them not to see your last seen if you're using it on work time etc

Turn it off - but be aware that it still shows you as online when you are. So if she is online at the same time as you, she will be able to see.

You can read messages without them ticking blue - you just pull them down.

Then you can reply when you want to.

Have to say I like the last seen pictures when Dsis was seriously ill I could see she was still about - not to message but just to see she was awake or alive!!

Good advice Betty !
Obviously a very mental challenge going on sadly

I would distance yourself from this “friend” asap. Does it really matter if she takes offence. Sounds like you’d be much happier without her in your life.

You can turn the online status off as well.

I turned off my last seen, online status and my read receipts a while ago and I hadn't realised how tense they made me feel until they were gone.

Just turn it off. I did this ages ago, and also the blue ticks. They're totally pointless and just trigger crazy people like your friend.

All of mine are also turned off. It helps others mind their own business a bit more. I didn't like feeling obligated to reply quickly, or at all , depending on who it was. No need for people to be able to check if you've read their messages.

I switched mine off years ago - just do it you will feel better

I also see a lot of people switching off their blue read ticks now. That is slightly more annoying but I would never be arsey with someone if they did that as they obviously have their reasons

you can't turn off read receipts for group chats though, those always show.

I wish you could turn then off for one person & it wasn't just on/off for everyone.

What does this friend bring to your life? It seems like a whole lot of stress.

Agree with u completely purplecorkheart !

Nobody in my contacts has 'last seen' switched on. Who cares if she gets the frigging arse if you disable it? You're being crackers avoiding WhatsApp and missing other people's messages because of her.

I know several people who have turned theirs off due to particular people like family members or partners. I couldn’t live with having to explain myself to someone, it sounds so stressful and intrusive! If I were you I’d turn it off and tell her why as it’s not normal behaviour for an adult

Turned mine off a couple of years ago and don’t regret it one bit.

I get a comment from 1 relative every now and again saying well they did message but couldn’t tell if I read it because I don’t have blue ticks. I just smile and continue with my day.

@AutumnLeaves24
You can.

Why haven’t you blocked her?

Turn it off - it is freeing!

This “friend” is a separate issue though - I think it’s time to tell her straight or simply get rid. Sounds far too much like hard work! It is none of her business what you’re doing!

I really hope this isn't one of those threads where the OP doesn't actually want to change anything and has just posted about it for a good moan/pity party,

I say this because I realise she hasn't actually asked a question or for a solution to this problem.

I had a friend like this if she couldn't get me on WhatsApp then she'd go to all my socials to see was I online , I turned the last seen off on anything I could find . The constant messages and phonecalls were exhausting and if she couldn't get me there she'd show up to my house. It's not normal behaviour. The ping of messenger used to make me feel so anxious.

Just switch it off!
Tell her you don’t like using it if she asks.
It’s extremely weird brand I’m. It quite sure why you’re feeding into it.

I don't understand why you would even feel the need to justify to her what you do with your WhatsApp settings?