Inappropriate movies at sleepovers

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Curiousitykillsthecat · 20/10/2024 22:39

I can't decide if I'm being ridiculous or not. DS12 has been invited to a Halloween sleepover. I was delighted as doesn't get many invites. But the other kids are planning the movies they will watch and they are all 18+ including things like the SAW movies, etc. Hosting mum is pretty relaxed about it. But I don't think it's appropriate. My DS doesn't want to watch really scary films but does want to go to the party. I'm sad to say he can't go but I also don't feel it's right to be watching those movies at 12. Aibu to say DS can't go?

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Limesodaagain · 22/10/2024 13:14

Cogsworth99 · 22/10/2024 12:49

People were saying exactly the same about horror films in the 1920s and 1930s, though.. And again about Hammer in the 1950s, and again about 'video nasties' in the 1980s and violent films in the 1990s. None of this is new.

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It doesn’t matter what people were saying back them - there is a massive difference between the “horror “ films of 1930’s and the torture porn of today .
I can’t believe there are parents who would allow 12 year olds to watch this stuff. It’s child abuse . A serious safe guarding issue .

Thommasina · 22/10/2024 13:16

Yes it's listed as one of our red flags in child safeguarding.

Fairislesweater · 22/10/2024 16:40

Whatafustercluck · 20/10/2024 23:18

Just to add, I think it's Wolf Creek that has an horrific rape scene in it and is rated 18. I'd be absolutely horrified if my 12yo was watching something like that with another parent's knowledge. It's not just the gory 'horror' violence (which, let's face it, many kids are desensitised to at an early age) but the sexual violence that often comes with an 18. I don't want my child becoming desensitised to graphic sexual violence.

I agree, and I think there is a vast difference between horrors with jump scares and the torture porn that’s available

Whatafustercluck · 22/10/2024 18:11

Qncts · 21/10/2024 20:27

Amazed at how many people think it’s ridiculous to have qualms about showing 12 year olds a graphic film about sadistic murders. Let alone other people’s 12 year olds. Interesting that some of those parents have different boundaries around sexual content, I assume though that based on their own logic they’d have to be cool if their kid was shown Deep Throat at someone else’s sleepover.

Of course children push boundaries, but we’re supposed to nevertheless give them boundaries to push against. Watching a psychological thriller rated 15 is boundary pushing enough for 12 year olds, what’s the need to actively encourage them to go straight to the most gory violent films with the highest rating? If the ‘limit’ set by parents is fucking Saw then to push boundaries the kids are going to have to find something worse than that on their phones, and end up traumatised by a friend showing them real beheadings or disturbing porn.

Completely agree with this. Many 12 year olds are able to handle a psychological thriller/ horror that's rated 15. Woman in Black is brilliant for atmosphere and jump scares even though it's just a 12! The Visit is very good for slightly older teens. There are many, many others that we've enjoyed with our ds (having watched them first). I personally draw the line at torture porn and sexual violence, however much ds protests. One day I'd love to watch Se7en with him. I love a film with an intelligent fucked up central villain. It's my favourite film, but the ending has stayed with me since 17yo. No way is he ready for the kind of character development that leaves you feeling bereft.

PixieLaLar · 22/10/2024 19:19

I wouldn’t be surprised if the mum isn’t even aware of the actual films they are planning to watch and it’s just the kid showing off to his mates that his parents are so ‘cool’
and laid back.

I’m a bit surprised so many PP are horrified at the idea of 12 year olds watching 18 rated horror movies (like most of us did at their age and live to tell the tale!)

I would be much more concerned about all the shit they watch on Tik Tok and readily available porn messing them up psychologically rather than a horror movie that’s not real. But each to their own…..

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