To choose the high pressure job

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2 job offers on table. Both are same money.

Job A. 90 min/2 hr commute (v expensive train) Could WFH a bit. High pressure. Huge workload. Would need to travel round the country. No time to do hobbies. Where I've wanted to work for long time. Bit scary. Doing stuff ive never done before. Lots of opportunities. V early starts. Lots of breakfast clubs etc for kids.

Job B. 10 min commute in car. Could WFH half the week. Low pressure. Normal workload. Similar organisation and job to what I've done before. Also some career opportunities but not as much. Nice working environment. Good perks. Because it's so close no breakfast clubs. Could do all school stuff easily.

I have 2 kids. One about to start school next year. One with autism. A useless husband and challenging marriage. I'm overweight and tired all the time. I'm the breadwinner in the house and quite career driven

I want to go for Job A. But husband and friend telling me im being mad.

What do you think? A or B.

That’s true. The kids would also not see their Mum and would it be the useless DH who is doing school run, after school activities, homework, cooking dinner? And if he’s not up to all that how would that be for the kids? All things to consider and would add to the stress.

If you made a 4 hour commute work as a single parent - so I’m guessing someone else was looking after your children all week whilst you got in at 8? And left before they went to school?

Be helpful to tell OP how this was possible?

Good decision - stability for you and the kids for a few years whilst you fix or ditch the useless husband. It's so sad that he's holding you back. Get angry, get sorted and get rid!!!!