To not want to work with someone because...

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They can't spell my name correctly. A service provider has engaged with me at work and he can't spell my name right - multiple emails, not once has he got it right.
My name is in my email. I find it so off putting, it shows a lack of care. AIBU not to engage with him because of this, or am I being petty?
His level of service is pretty average at best, and I'm not tied to a PSA.

Happens to me all the time

Try deliberately spelling his name wrong.

you are being petty

I'd just correct him in an email reply.

Really petty.

Correct him once as its right there in the email

Happens to me all the time. I ignore it once, if it happens the second time I put a "gentle reminder" into my next email. Typically, this is enough for the person not to do it again..

Not petty at all. Basic respect dictates that you make the effort to say and write someone's name properly. The fact that you communicate via email, and your name is in the email, means that you are actually dealing with a pleb.

Not petty at all. Basic manners and intelligence. Shows a lack of care and interest. YANBU. Correct him. Or avoid.

But why so? If your name is say Amanda but I keep referring to you as Omando, so in this case, within a professional setting, and also refer to you like this to other colleagues, you would not be pissed off?

I don’t think it’s petty at all. Repeatedly spelling someone’s name incorrectly when it’s in black and white in front of you is disrespectful but also suggests low intelligence and / or lack of basic professionalism.

Its not as if they are being asked to guess a complicated spelling: it’s in front of them and they can’t be arsed to apply a bit of basic due diligence. I would feel the same.

I’d point it out but also do it carefully as I work with many dyslexic folk plus I have a mental block with a couple of names and switch letters round so I make myself double check the email name each time as I’m scared I’ll get it wrong.

Yep - YABU and petty.

Just tell him plainly if it bugs you so much - in writing? He might forget again

I have a very good friend (for over 20 years) who has spelt my daughter's name wrong (and different each time 😅) in many birthday cards etc. It doesn't show a 'lack of repect' - it shows that she's still dyslexic and always will be.

People on mumsnet are incredibly thick sometimes

Oh - and she doesn't have 'low intelligence' but works as a consultant doctor.

I worked with someone who got my name wrong for about 8 years. A man, of course. I corrected him every time. Both via email and in person. Btw my work email had my name in it!!

Everyone gets my name wrong. It's not an unusual name but there are names that sound or are spelt similar. My name is said exactly as it sounds. Both my DC, again with recognisable names, get the same. I just think people cba getting it right.

I correct people but don't let it irritate me. I also make an extra effort to get client's names right.

Drives me insane when it's in my email, email signature, Google profile, and on Slack...

I would mention it.
If it continued I would assume dyslexia or neurodivergence.

My name gets spelt wrong 80% of the time with a letter missing. I don't get offended. It's a first world problem.

Writing a name in a card once or twice a year is really very different to communicating by email with the persons name right there in front of you. If it's difficult you can c&p it.

I worked with someone who did this to any colleague that she perceived had a foreign name, other colleagues ignored, some corrected, I used to reply with things like “oh dear colleague you’ve sent the email to the wrong person, I’m not mihamid”

Annoying yes, but not sure it means anything other than the person is busy, typing too fast and doesn't proof read something like a quick email. Depends on the name and mistake made I think.

Made me think of Chandandaler Bong

I find this weird and frustrating too especially when it’s RIGHT THERE.

i have a couple of friends who do it even when I’ve just put a name in the previous message,

eg. Me: Eloise is not feeling well today
them: oh sorry to hear Elouise is not well

me: we’re going out for Sophie’s birthday
them; wish Sofie happy birthday from me!!

In my very first job I wrote a document and handed it to the head of service, for her information. There were lots of names of companies and organisations. I’m generally pretty good at spelling but two of the names had atypical spellings, for example -en rather than -on.

On my way back to my desk I popped into the loo or made some other stop. When I got back there was a teeny piece of paper on my chair, with two names written correctly in pencil and the appropriate letter underlined.

Perhaps a bit mean of her but I never made that mistake again!

I think it is important to get it right if at all possible - especially in a client facing role - keep a list of you have to.

I have to do it all the time, despite people mentioning me, hearing my name constantly at work. I get half of it, or a different name entirely, it was constant at school and I was told off for not responding to somebody else’s similar name in the same class! It’s frustrating but if he’s doing it in an email, just put in a sentence on your next communication ’Hey Sam, my name is spelt….., not…… Thanks.’