Need a hand hold

[Imbluedalale]

That’s just it really. I really need a cuddle but that’s not possible so can anybody just support me right now? My mental health is on the floor right now I’ve never felt as low it’s making me feel so ill

This is so powerful. Please god let things change so others don’t have to go through this. It’s just horrific treatment for someone who, through no fault of their own, is very vulnerable.

Thinking of you @Imbluedalale , desperately hoping your next phone call brings good news.

I have just read your whole thread and I’m in awe of you, of what an incredible person you are, to be able to be so kind, compassionate and even funny while you’re living through such horrific circumstances. I really hope you get better news today and that your MP goes on the warpath on your behalf.

Absolutely this!!

It's one thing for councils to lack funding and houses and whatever, but its the total and utter lack of compassion from them that astounds me. How can anyone with a heart say the things they have said?

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Have they had the manager call you back yet love? Any progress?

Hope you get to speak with the manager soon @Imbluedalale
They are taking their time 😕

I have everything still crossed for you @Imbluedalale for a phone call soon with some good news. Hope you've managed a few cups of tea and to eat something. Sending some hugs.

All fingers, and spoons, crossed for you!!

Glad MP office was responsive. Was strong of you to contact them yourself. I’m in non-stop meetings today but will check in on thread later to see where things have got to. Try not to take the bureaucracy/snideness to heart, easier said than done I know, I always get upset with this stuff especially when at a low ebb

It’s ok HopeMumsnet,
I am genuine and I am me and everything I have said is genuine and what I’m going through is genuine unfortunately.
Also I have never asked for any help nor would I ever ask people for money/gifts.
But thank you for checking and thank you for allowing me to use your network to be able to talk to people and not feel so alone .

Hi all,
I thought I’d give you all an update.
I was on and off napping as feel exhausted but had a few phone calls in between.
So the manager at the council homeless team called me , she really really doesn’t like me and her tone with me wasn’t very nice at all.
She said she wanted to get things from my perspective as she had spoken to my mental health team and creative support about everything. Creative support the lady who’s helping me bless her has been on her day off today but she’s been on the phone and emailing from home all day about this . She has sent the council every single bit of medical evidence re the cancer, mental health and my paralysis. (Even though this had already been sent ) . The council then turned around and did a complete 360 on her and said that due to my mental health they wouldn’t be able to accommodate me and said mental health need to find me suitable accommodation (basically being sectioned) . My mental health team and the police have told me that they don’t think I need this , I don’t think I need this either .
So my mental health team have spoken to the manager at the council and had a long chat and my mental health team have also sent a long email to the manager and to the manager at domestic abuse at the council saying that the accommodation they provided wasn’t suitable , they don’t think the council should try and pull out of helping and that all of this is causing me distress. They added that all I want is to be accommodated somewhere safe until I get get a home.
Anyway the manager at the council rang me and asked for my view on things . So I told her the main reason being it full of men and ex convicts and she said ‘well there’s 24 hr security’ and I said I know there is but the reason for that is because of how rowdy it is , how many fights break out and the police being called there constantly. She said that I didn’t even go and look at the accommodation. I said I didn’t need to look I had all the evidence I needed Aswell as all the professionals supporting me saying it wasn’t suitable . She said that because I have refused the homeless application that it would seem I lose my homeless status but because of everyone involved they wouldn’t do that. I told her that I am disappointed at how I have been treated by the council and the things that were said to me and their complete lack of compassion and she said ‘well I wasn’t there to hear that so I can’t comment on it’. I also told her that I have made a complaint to the MP and she said ‘you’ve already made me aware of that’ . The whole call made me feel extremely uncomfortable. Anyway she said she will look into it further so that’s where I’m at the moment xx

I’m so sorry they keep being so rude :(

Wow, what a horrible way they have treated you!! It does sound like all the pressure being put on them is paying off though, in that I'm sure before they would not have bothered to be looking into it further.

Massive hugs!!

Glad you've had a chance to get some rest in.

It's horrible how the council have treated you and spoken to you. Huge well done for standing your ground and explaining everything to them. You're honestly amazing. Thank god for your MH team and creative support, they sound awesome and it's so good to know they're supporting you. I'm also glad it has escalated to the manager (as horrible as she sounds!) as it does sound like they're realising they can't just offload the responsibility for getting you a safe place to stay onto someone else. Hope you're feeling OK

I suppose that on the upside, they are being dragged kicking and screaming into finding you suitable accommodation. If all their placements are full, perhaps it will be a case of waiting for someone to leave one of the nicer places, or someone to authorise paying for suitable placement for you.

I remember when covid hit, suddenly every single street homeless person was found accommodation within days.....just because the government had to provide funding for it.

Homeless teams are working within ridiculously tight budgets, however with the pressure being placed on them looks like there may be light soon x

Don’t be sorry TealPoet,
I think when the manager called me and explained there was 24 hr security I think she thought I’d go ‘oh ok I’ll go’ but I didn’t and I won’t xx

Good for you, and well done for pointing out to her the whole issue is that the place is dodgy enough that it NEEDS security!

It’s honestly vile ChoccieCornflake,
They’ve made me feel like I really don’t matter and I already had thoughts of that nature but they have amplified it by 100.
My creative support worker has said they are not happy with her either.
Thank you for the hugs xx

Mmm to the update. Threatening you that they could drop your homeless status because you won’t go somewhere everyone deems is unsuitable. Not ok.

Laura, do you know how long you would likely need to be there for? Is there any way you could stock up on food and drink, go to the place, barricade the door, put earplugs in and just stay there? You’re brave and you’re strong. I know you don’t feel it. In reality, the place probably is safe although of course I understand it doesn’t feel it.

I know you don’t want to, but it might be the only way. See what tomorrow brings.

How are things going with your kids?

Hi RaspberryBeretxx,
Thank you so much .
Actually when the manager called me I was quite shocked with myself that I managed to advocate for myself without getting into a pitiful mess . I made it clear that it was unacceptable about how I’ve been treated and I made it clear I will be taking it further . I’m still here, I’m still (trying) to fight but we will see what they say xx

Hold on to the fact that the manager is just one person, and that far more people think you are awesome than think otherwise. Also, remember it's not that she doesn't like you, ie you as a person. She doesn't like it being obvious her team are messing up, and she's taking that out on you. Which is appalling and unfair, but NOT a comment on your worth.

Hi CleverLemonCat,
They are definitely kicking and screaming and dragging their feet!
I understand about the tight budgets , I really do and I know many others need help but I need help too and I just want a little bit of care and compassion instead of ‘computer says no’ xx

Exactly ChoccieCornflake,
Even the police said they are called there 3/4 times a day so security can’t be that good xx

I can’t do it Apolloneuro,
I just can’t and I’m sorry for that but the thought fills me with absolute fear.
They said they didn’t know , could be days , could be weeks , could be months .
I honestly don’t know what to do if they come back and still stand firm because I won’t be accepting it xx