Need a hand hold

[Imbluedalale]

That’s just it really. I really need a cuddle but that’s not possible so can anybody just support me right now? My mental health is on the floor right now I’ve never felt as low it’s making me feel so ill

@Imbluedalale I love the collage pages you have done. Craft can be so therapeutic. Many of the people in my Facebook craft groups say how crafting has literally saved their life at times when life is giving them a hard time. They just lose themselves in it when they get busy with it. 💐

Thank you AdmittowearingCrocs.
Im new to this scrap art but your right you do lose yourself in it and it felt nice just to have something else to concentrate on for abit.
Theres 3 of us residents here at the moment . The man resident I think has had a bad day bless him and the girl resident who came yesterday has been upset today as 3 thugs smashed her car up at home . She’s got a doorbell camera on her phone and she’s got a video of it and showed me . My gosh they was viscous smashing up her car with baseball bats . I said to her it’s not nice it’s awful and I can imagine how she feels but it can be replaced and you can’t be so focus on trying to get better and your insurance will sort it out xx

Your craft is so pretty. Love the Hello Life note. It’s good to hear you sounding brighter but as a previous poster said, recovery is not linear so don’t put pressure on yourself.

Thanks for asking about hobby. I’m re-learning to horse ride. I’m not very good and still nervous but it helps my mental health to really have to focus on something in the moment, with no distractions and to feel as though I’m learning. There are some lovely people at the stables so it’s a nice place to be.

Thank you Ruralretreating 🙏
I know, I’m trying not to put pressure on myself , I know some bad days will come.
Oh wow horse riding , that sounds amazing. I’ve always been impressed at people who can ride horses . I’m sure you’re better than you say you are. You’re definitely right about helping your mental health , they actually reduce depression by 30% and lowers the chance of dementia by 30% too. I’m glad you’ve met some lovely people , I bet they think your lovely too xx

Your collages are lovely! I’m so glad you used butterflies - I was thinking yesterday about how they remind me of you - their wings are beautiful but can be easily damaged. Yet even if they lose a huge portion of them they can still carry on. You are beautiful, have been hurt, and will carry on too.

Awwww TealPoet.
That is so lovely and beautiful thank you so much .
I saw a poem today I wanted to share with you it’s called ‘don’t you quit’.

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Sorry here it is xx

That’s lovely! This thread is such a wonderful collection of positive thoughts now; I’m sure it helps us as much as you!

Morning lovely
I so hope that you managed to relax and get a little sleep last night....my daughter and I have been talking about mind/muscle conne tion this morning, long story but there is an exercise they do at the end of a yoga class where you really empty your mind and then starting with you feet, really concentrate on tensing each tiny muscle group, working up the body....she says even down to tensing you eyebrows without frowning (😂)
By the end of it you are so relaxed you want to sleep - might be worth a go??

Your crafting is beautiful, I so wish I was good at that sort of thing (I'm not!).
I do have some of the adult colouring books tho!

I hope the weather is lovely where you are, we have blue sky and that always makes me feel better
I wish another good day for you today and the 💪 to get past the next bit ....hopefully to a house you can make into a warm and cosy home for you and the kids

YOU CAN DO IT XX

I’m so sorry I’m late with hugs for today! I was up most of g the night being ill, and couldn’t wake up this morning. I truly hope you were able to get some sleep, and that today is going okay, whatever ups and downs it may bring.

Remember that we are here for you and proud of you!

Hi Munchyseeds2.
Hows your weekend been so far?
I didn’t get any sleep last night , it got to 7am and I just gave up and did some crafts instead. I made a birthday card .
That yoga exercise looks very interesting, I will try and give it a go. Thank you 🙏
I’m not feeling as positive today and miss my children more than I thought possible but I am hanging on to hope . Hoping that I will get a house soon and be with them again.
Thank you for complimenting my crafting it was my first time doing that kid of craft but I found it quite relaxing just sticking things on a page really lol 😂
The weather is lovely here too , I love this time of year with the weather and the trees some leaves xx

Hi TealPoet.
Awww I’m so sorry to hear you’ve been ill through the night , you poor thing. I hope you are starting to feel better?
No sleep last night unfortunately but did a lot of crafting instead.
Thank you for being there for me it truly touches my heart xx

Fingers crossed you get the prescription tomorrow. Sorry you didn't sleep much last night. I love your artwork by the way! Did you get back into the craft room today? I also love the Don't Quit poem 😍.

I'm having a good weekend thanks and enjoyed the extra hour of semi sleep (I was sort of dozing!). MN isn't letting me post anything on my phone at the moment which is annoying! I had to wait till I could get to the laptop. Maybe they're trying to make me get the app 🤔.

I went to M&S today but it's not a very big one and they didn't have the perfume 😣only their own brand ones but it's a good excuse for a shopping trip to somewhere with a bigger M&S 😆.

Everything crossed that this is the week things get better for you and you get your house and can be reunited with your children again 💕.

Your collages are fantastic!! Im really glad you were able to do that. I hope you get some sleep tonight. When I can't sleep I try making lists of things - types of vegatable, things you might find in a car, etc. It's very tedious and I think it helps you fall asleep as your brain just wants to avoid how tedious it is!

I went to M&S today and I'm now wearing Black Tulip! Oh my word it's amazing!! I wasn't sure it was my kind of thing when I first smelled it, but as you were so enthusiastic about it, I decided to buy it anyway and give it a go. I put some on this evening and oh my word I love it!! Thank you!!

big hugs! I hope your day went well and tonight you sleep - I’m sorry I didn’t realise it had gotten so late! I’ve been having a tough day, and it makes me admire you all the more - how you keep so compassionate and fundamentally positive in the face of so much is amazing!

This was on FB that I thought was a useful reminder - we can’t control how others react to us, only what we choose to do. We obviously want to focus on doing good things, but if we are, it’s not our problem if others don’t like it! You getting treatment is a good thing, even though it comes at a high price for you of temporary separation from your DC. You know why, and you know that they are safe and well. If others don’t like that, that’s their problem!

Morning lovely
Hope you are ok today and that things go smoothly for you, try not to worry and overthink to much... what will be, will be, and it's not for ever, just a means to a ( better) end.

Not going to ask if you got any sleep last night ( but hope you got a little!)

My weekend was good thanks, nothing exciting but I'm OK with that, did have a yummy Indian take away Fri night, back on the diet today😊

Take care lovely and come and talk to us if you need to

YOU ARE AMAZING XX

Big hugs for you! I hope you’re as ok as possible today. Keep on keeping on, we’re still with you for each step!

You inspired me to do a bit of butterfly-themed card-making; I’ll try to send a picture later :)

Hi all,
I thought I would do a message to update you all on everything as I am not having a good day so far.

First of all I have SLEPT! I can’t believe it and I don’t know how. Late yesterday afternoon I started to feel really tired but I held on as I didn’t want to have a nap and then be up all night again. So I kept myself busy doing crafts etc and the man resident then asked me to come into the kitchen and I don’t know if you remember but we was talking about cheese and biscuits the other day and in the kitchen he had done a huge cheese platter with crackers, olive board , ham, cheese , Italian meats, crisps and dips . Awww how sweet is that. The other girl resident joined us and it was just nice to switch off for an hour and pretend we was having a tea party .
About 11pm last night I was laid on bed and thought ‘right I’m ready to try and go to sleep’ so I went to get a cup of water and toilet but when I got into the kitchen I started feeling really dizzy and fuzzy and I couldn’t put one foot in front of the other and I ended up fainting! I didn’t hurt myself too much just grazed and bruised my arm but there was nobody there , the man councillor was upstairs in the office so I managed to get back up and get back into bed and I can’t remember anything else apart from waking up at 11am this morning so I’ve had nearly 12 hours sleep!
Now onto the not so great bit….
As soon as I had woken up one of the councillors said she has been in the phone to the home treatment team to extend by stay as was only up until today it had been extended and whilst they agreed I could stay another night they are adamant I need to leave tomorrow as it’s normally only for 7 days and I’ve been here 11 upto today . So tomorrow I’m back to being homeless and having to go into a hotel. I don’t know where it will be I’m currently on hold to the council team to see what they say.
Whilst I’ve been on hold I also checked my bid for houses that I bid for last week and I didn't get any of them, I came 4th on one and 2nd on the other 2. So close yet so far.
I’ve been on the phone to the homeless team and they can’t help and find emergency accommodation until the actual day your homeless so got to call them in the morning . Going to be worried all day now though.
So yes that’s where I’m at at-the moment .

RaspberryBeretxx,
I’m glad you have had a nice weekend. Yes I got back into the craft room with the other girl and a counsellor for a few hours xx

ChoccieCornflake,
I’m so pleased you got the perfume , it smells amazing doesn’t it . I hope you enjoy it as much as I do xx

TealPoet,
Sorry to hear you had a tough day , I hope today is a better day for you. I loved reading that from fb. It’s so true , I also read yesterday ‘the people that mind don’t matter and the people that matter don’t mind’ which I liked. And is very true!xx

Munchyseeds2,
I got some sleep! I’m glad you had a good weekend and enjoyed every bit of your takeaway. And I’m trying not to worry , but I am today, a lot xx

Oh big hugs!!! I'm so sorry you didn't get the houses, but presumably as you were so close to the top of the list that bodes well that you will get one at some point soon.

I'm so sorry you're having to move back to a hotel, and that you have to wait until the last minute to know more. Can you get the contact details of the other lovely residents and stay in touch? Even if it's just eating cheese biscuits "together" virtually.

Also, you know we'll all be with you in spirit too - a big cloud of Black Tulip mumsnetters at your back!! (I'm wearing it today, and ploughing through a load of tedious work in a lovely fragrant cloud!)

If you like colouring in, but don't have things to colour in when you're in the hotel, I find the "Happy Color" app to be really relaxing. There are loads of different pictures on there.

Hang on in there, you're doing great!!

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Thank you ChoccieCornflake.
I am gutted about not getting any of the houses but like I said before it just means somebody else needs them more than me. And I just keep going back to that.
I know it’s a negative feeling but I honestly don’t think I’ll be in a new home by Christmas and that thought makes me feel really sad . I’m trying not to think really far ahead but it’s hard not to sometimes. And also my children will be with their other families and I’m worried I’m going to be all on my own in a hotel room. It’s not a nice feeling .
I’m going to take the other residents numbers and keep in touch with them . Think I’ve made friends for life here .
I’m so glad you’re wearing your perfume today .
I will download that app it looks good, thank you xx

Try not to think ahead if you can, although I know that's really easy to say and hard to do! Maybe make a "wish list" (that is such a good way to refer to such things!) of things you would do if you had to be in a hotel room on your own. For example, I think mine would include ordering in my own body-weight in cheese and eating cheese biscuits all day until I slumped into a cheese-overdose sleep! A more productive thing might be to make collages of ideas for your future house though!

Each day brings you closer to the day you move into your new home my darling.

I don’t think you see what we see - you are a strong, brave, creative, kind person. You ARE a survivor.

^ THIS!!!!! ^

You are an absolute inspiration!

I'm so glad you got a good sleep last night.. not so pleased with the way it came about tho! Did you tell anyone??
Hopefully it was a culmination of such little sleep over the last few weeks
Hold on to the picture of you and the wooden spoon in your own home cooking a roast.
IT WILL HAPPEN it just might take a little time xx