Sweet Bobby - My Catfish Nightmare on Netflix. SPOILERS

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So I understand this documentary was based on a podcast so I’m sure some people may know the story already but what the actual FUCK?!

I wish I could say that I felt sorry for her but I just couldn’t. How do you manage to have a friendship and then romantic relationship with someone online for so long? The fact that her cousin was behind it all was so fucked up but I find it even more fucked up that her family just accepted her being engaged to someone online.

My thoughts are all over the place because I just don’t understand how you can be so desperate to be in a relationship with someone that common sense goes out of the window. As for the cousin, pure evil.

Has anyone else watched it yet?

A daft one, but a victim nonetheless.

I've had friends get very angry when I suggested their new boyfriend might be married (spoiler, they were) or that marrying a man you don't love is a terrible idea. People do cling to the fictions that serve them and don't make it easy for others to challenge them, but it is very much on the cousin that she created this fantasy world for Kirat.

I am not Asian so apologies if this is culturally insensitive, but I think that Kirat ended up in a situation where she had the downsides (everyone expecting her to marry above all else) of an Asian family situation but not the upsides (everyone vetting her man). I would have thought that in a truly traditional family, talking online, and considering yourself engaged, to someone who had not been to your house and shown his face and done the right things, and introduced his own family (or the other way around) woudl not have lasted anything like that long

I would have thought that in a truly traditional family, talking online, and considering yourself engaged, to someone who had not been to your house and shown his face and done the right things, and introduced his own family (or the other way around) would not have lasted anything like that long

I agree, and it was very telling that Kirat didn't tell her father about this so-called relationship and engagement.

Surely her father would have been expected to contact Bobby's family in a betrothal situation? I'm not Sikh so I'm not sure, but isn't that the usual course of events?

Yes, I am Asian and agree. She found herself betwixt and between. Too modern to agree to a proper arranged marriage. Too traditional to date outside her community.

Just watched this on Netflix, what a disgusting and twisted thing her cousin did to her… but at the same time I just wanted to shake Kirat!!! Witness protection!!?

I think it was easier for her to go along and believe it, than to be ‘single’ or for her parents to possibly bring up an arranged marriage. Even her partner before was not good to her but she could not seem to end things. She says she wants marriage and kids but I think she was scared… she lived a social and care free life with little responsibility. I’m not sure she really wanted to give that up.

I’m going to listen to the podcast this week at work.

I remember at the end of the podcast her talking to a male relative/friend saying she tried to break it off with Bobby multiple times but him and the (fake) friends/relatives and Bobby would keep sucking her back in so i.Don't think it's as clear cut as she believed everything & was really gullible, she was definitely being highly manipulated

I found it odd when she saw him in a club in Brighton and was repeatedly saying ‘it’s me Kirat’ but he didn’t show recognition.
But the story fell apart when he was in witness protection but could contact her face to face or switch on a camera and didn’t have a voice. Then suddenly his ex was pregnant. This era of the story was wild. I had to keep rewinding to keep up and understand.

The cousin must have made it a full time job to pull this kind of elaborate scam. It was cruel as the fake personas were fueling what Kirat desperately wanted to be true.