AIBU to be sad that I'll never have a daughter?

[kizzie]

I think I probably know the answer from most mumsnetters from similar threads. (Ie. be grateful for what you've got!)

I've got gorgeous twin boys born as a result of ICSI. Ive got a great relationship with them and they are just lovely. For a long time i thought i'd never have them because of fertility issues and DH and I both feel absolutely blessed to have them.

For medical reasons we've been told that IVF very unlikely to work in the future so we cant ahve any more children. I would really love another child (boy or girl) but slowly coming to terms with the fact that it isnt going to happen.

But I just feel sad that I'll never have a daughter.

I know I am very very lucky (apart from fertility issues, my sister has just had a miscarriage adn im desperate for her have a healthy pregnancy and baby - far far more than anything for me.)

Im very rational about it - as i say i know Im lucky. And I know its not going to happen. But its just a sadness that im guessing will just go away one day?

x

It's not unreasonable, just honest - that's how you feel. If you don't acknowledge your feelings you can't come to terms with them and move on.

Girls,

I'm about to start ICSI (6 week waiting list apparently) so it looks like I might miss my first day 19 on 10th of Sept and have to wait until my next likely day 19 on 10th Oct.

Only trouble is, I'm about to be made a job offer for a new company and I'm worried about the amount of time off I'll need! Can anyone advise me how often I'm going to need to go in to the clinic so I know how much holiday to book? Timing isn't great....but I don't want to delay treatment as a baby is more important. I don't really want to tell my new employer what I'm doing so does anyone have a good excuse as to why else I might need to be in and out of hospital that sounds plausible?

Thanks!

Think about how metrosexual men are now. In 15 years time it will be even worse and you and your boys can do all the spa days/ shopping/ lipliner trying on that you want :)