Is my child in danger at school?

[Softheart15]

Hi, a boy in my daughter’s year punched her friend in the throat and kicked another in her stomach, he recently struck again on another child but this time much worse, kid ended up
in hospital again unprovoked! Turns out he’s got anger issues and does MMA so lashes out randomly and whoever is there gets it! School are brushing his behaviour under the carpet but I’m worried and have raised this with the head only to be dismissed as have other parents.He was suspended for two day so we’re all waiting for him to strike again but he gets worse with each attack. I spoke to
some of the parents and turns out he’s been doing it inside/outside of school for years! His parents are total Aholes and don’t care and his mum even told another mother to talk to her and not the school but I don’t want it to be my child next. Am I making a big deal for nothing?

@Thisismynewusernamedoyoulikeit no it goes up to 18. They claim to be over subscribed but after having a heart to heart with other parents we’re all realising the school cannot handle bad behaviour. Generally the kids are great but that one time leadership has to step up it fails to

"you (the head) and him ( the bully) will both with your mothers had a headache the night you were conceived by the time I've finished."

@Thisismynewusernamedoyoulikeit yes, I don't know what the fuck @Copperoliverbear meant with that gibberish, but it sure sounded like a threat to me.

Then getting the parents to band together to demand action might work.

@GrazingSheepy that's what scares me, they’re waiting for something terrible to happened and then will probably blame it on mental health when there’s a pattern all along

@oakleaffy he definitely doesn’t have needs, just anger issues. Initially we wanted to leave our kids in the school but might move them as school don’t want to take any further action. The thug and his family will definitely be there next year

Parents should be reporting these incidents to the police. The school’s response sounds inadequately shite. Christ knows what’s going on in the boys home, nothing good.

@WearyAuldWumman im going to put it out there, school have a really crap ‘don’t care’ attitude. I know the thug has cousins in the school, actually a girl in our year, so maybe they’re family is threatening the same

Prob need to go above school then. Governors / Local authority. Also include PTA.

@Mmhmmn agree, god knows what happening in the thugs house, his younger brother is also in the school and is known to be tough to so I guess violence is normal in their house but not fare on the other kids

Yep, terrible all round.

Having the anger issue he is having does mean he has additional needs. This isn't "normal". In a state school, a child wouldn't be permanently excluded until a procedure has been followed.

@Notadoormat4 then it may be undiagnosed but for the record he’s definitely not under SEN, that was my first thought to. He’s a video game addict and his parents have managed to keep the noise low and school by going up to parents and saying talk to us not the school. It’s his third major attack in a year (excluding his minor ones) so don’t know what more of a procedure is left that the school need to follow.

Don't talk to the school or the parents just report the incidents to the police, you'll be doing the boy a favour in the long run if he's picked up now.

@Softheart15 I get why you're concerned, but you seem to know an awful lot about this kid and the situation but it seems its all via hearsay?

If a private school, just go via the police.

This situation sounds very unlikely, tbh, but if it is as you say then you may get advice from the Independent Schools Inspectorate.

@Softheart15 pretty sure that it doesnt matter whether this happened in or out of school! you still have the right to report it to the police for action. this child could up killing someone soon. as for the parents, rod for their own back by letting him off for his whole life!

In primary it's really hard to permanently exclude a child in secondary they can throw them out faster my sons bully lasted till October

@allthemiddlechildrenoftheworld it happened in school, but apparently there’s no cctv where the incidents always take place, well that’s what the school says. Thugs word against other injured kids! Parents are too busy keeping up with the Jones to give a monkey about either kid.

I would find a new school and in the meantime see if the assaulted children's parents would be happy to notify the police. If the family are rich they are perhaps giving the school a lot donations and so the school don't want to deal with it. I certainly wouldn't be putting my child in that kind of danger every day. It sounds like the school just aren't going to deal with it.

@Theunamedcat such a shame as god knows what he’ll do to children in secondary school. Worse even a teacher but the head doesn’t seem to care, possibly because she’s scared herself!

@Alongthepineconetrail yes that’s my trial of thought to, before he ends up killing someone and his parents play the mental health/victim card.

Getting the police involved is the only option here.

You know an awful lot about this child (child. Not “thug”) and his home life considering he’s not your child and he hasn’t done anything to your child.

Just because you don’t know what school has done doesn’t mean anything hasn’t been done. School can only talk to you about your child. The efforts going into the other child are none of your concern.

@Owly11 seems really unfair as my children love the school but then turning a blind eye to this does sound alarm bells as to what favour the parents are doing for the school hence the thug gets away with his actions. Really hoping other parents rally together and not just talk.

@PotteringAlonggotkickedoutandhadtoreregister this child thug always stands out for his brash behaviour so yes I do know and will continue to find out more so that I can protect the children of the school, isn’t that a parents duty?