I've booked the trip of a lifetime

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DH & I have been looking for ages and after a few drinks we have booked to go on a holiday of a lifetime, however I need to tell my manager next week. I will need 3 weeks off including over Christmas /NY

I work for a smallish team and we have to split the leave between us as we can't all be off at the same time, so it will mean that some of their Christmas plans will be affected if they were hoping to have time off. I know he might tell me I can't have it off in which case I would leave my job.

I feel awkward about it but also I've just got to that point where I just want to do what makes me happy. Aibu?

Yes, YABVVU, in my job, it would be declined unless it had been agreed upon for an exceptional reason. We are only allowed 3 weeks leave for your own wedding or a special holiday (big anniversary or to visit family in Aus/NZ, etc), and it must be pre-agreed. Both Christmas and New Year would be very unlikely.

What's the weather like in Mexico in December?

Fuck, yes, you are being very unreasonable.
Jesus christ on a bike. You are prepared to let your colleagues down, or will flounce if they don't get your way.
Does nobody have manners any more!?

Because YOLO

You have guts to book a holiday before annual leave is approved, especially over the festive period. So I bid you good luck with that 😀

However if you are happy to resign over this then you are already prepared for the potential worst outcome and you surely don't have too much to worry about?

Have a nice trip 🙂

If you are prepared to leave then I think you should do so and hopefully a replacement can be hired.
There aren’t many employers who could authorise 3 weeks leave over Christmas so I think leaving is the best course of action.
We only live once and I think you are right to go away, but it’s not fair to expect your colleagues to fill the void.

Tbh I'd just hand in your notice now

How is Mexico ‘once in a lifetime’ and why does it have to be over this Xmas?

Because loads of people can only afford to go once in their lifetime??

If you’ve been looking to leave anyway, go for it. You leave when’s best for you not the company otherwise you would be staying!

Right. But I’m wondering if there’s some once in a lifetime event that will only happen in Mexico over Xmas 2024. Or what in OP’s life means they have to go now. EG if someone is about to die, she is absolutely NBU.

@PleaseAskSomeoneWhoGivesAFuck No they don’t. It’s me me me. Most offices or places of work that need to staff over seasonal holidays often run a rota and people take it in turns. It’s not acceptable for parents to expect to be off the whole time or those taking extended holidays. However this can work on a rota basis so everyone gets a chance at a long break occasionally. Some might want to work and get extra pay and use leave at another time of year. The main thing is to respect others and ask first. Leaving or not being around inevitably leaves others picking up the pieces and it’s clearly a me first attitude. I would mention this in any reference I wrote as it’s factual and not an opinion.

I don't think anyone thinks she owes her colleagues anything. It's more of the f### it attitude about screwing her colleagues she has.

Oh another one of those threads with a selfish OP who wants time off over Christmas and New Year and everyone else just has to suck it up.

I think YABU to book a holiday like that without applying for leave first.
But if you really don't give a shit and want to leave the job anyway you might as well resign and at least give them time to find someone else to do your job.

People leave jobs all the time - if you waited until you'd never be screwing anybody over, you'd be there until you died.

Exactly this.

Most don't boast about it on mumsnet

I think you should resign

really shitty if some colleagues now get screwed over because of your impulsive decision

So why go for 3 weeks and at the most expensive time of the year??

As long as you’re happy with the risk of being jobless for a few months, that’s fine.

Remember, if you dropped dead today, your manager would have advertised your job before your poor husband had arranged your funeral.

And to everyone calling her selfish etc, if she (or you) was offered a better job somewhere else, she would hand in her notice anyway. I don’t really understand what’s wrong with that? Your own life (holiday, promotion, whatever) comes before your colleagues personal holiday plans surely?

Mexico sounds fantastic!

To make it special

Then they'd be wise not to book in peak period. 🤷‍♀️

Personally I couldn’t do this to my colleagues.

They want to go for christmas/new year. How are they going to do that at any other time of year 🤷🏼‍♀️

What difference does that make to anything?