You didn’t “win” this battle. It was just a skirmish in what will be a long war.
Basically he is satisfied with the way his life works: he works hard, earns a lot, and spends a lot on your family, his family, the second house in your home country. All these things he HAS to do to keep up appearances. He is, in his own mind, juggling all the spinning plates and knives and his buddies and this trip feel really important to him as a thing that he gets to do for himself, a treat, just for him. Not the dutiful son or the hard working paterfamilias. He resents you for trying to take this treat away from him.
You won’t get anywhere acting out. He will just dismiss you as “mental.” It puts you in a very weak position socially and will cause your own potential supporters to withdraw from you. This is why domestic abuse and male control is so insidious. Your own family will not necessarily support you.
Back up and start reorganizing your life. Tell him to go or not but that your respect for him is lost and he will have to earn it back.
Start planning to go back to work full time, or spend his money more freely to enjoy yourself and build up your support network of friends. Start putting money away in a separate account for emergencies. Men who have a major asset like a house in the home country can also hide assets there that will not be available to you if you divorce.
He doesn’t intend to divorce you snd even if he and his buddies are seeing prostitutes abroad he sees that as a vacation activity. But you may not be willing to accept this compartmentalization of male and female roles.
The question is how do you communicate or negotiate with someone who has such different goals than you? Who won't have an honest and caring discussion of a family crisis? He is not showing you any intention of putting your romantic/marital relationship first. He isn’t caring that it is in danger. He just sees you as a household fixture who has inconveniently come to life and is making unreasonable demands. Like an appliance that keeps beeping and refusing to work properly.
Take charge of your emotions and begin to take charge of the marriage. Be cool, cslm, cold, and reso. He thinks he can outlast your temper tantrums but he can not outlast your coldness.
Let him know that discussion, compromise, and shared family time are very important to you. He can refuse, he can ignore you, he can prioritize other people but it comes at the cost if estrangement. He has to decide what he wants and he can’t have his cake snd eat it too.
But stop trying to dominate or end the conflict by grabbing his phone or dumping his clothing or anything else physical. It won’t work and it puts you at risk socially and physically.