Girls' weekend away

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Is ok for a group of mature mums to go on a Butlins Adults Only weekend just for fun with friends, drinking and dancing? DH thinks they're all about sex with strangers.

DH isn't going so who cares what he thinks

He's projecting massively. This is only because this has happened on every lads weekend he has been to or knows of.

Either he has shitty mates, or he's a shit himself.

If he's trying to stop you from going due to his own. Literally manmade insecurities, please don't let him put you off.

I've been on a few weekends at Butlins such a laugh with friends. Get it booked.

He’s being ridiculous. Go and have fun.

Dh sounds jealous and controlling, red flag

Adults only just means no kids. I’d want to know what he’s been doing on lads’ weekends that makes him think any different.

Absolutely nothing wrong with going away with your friends.

But why on earth are you calling yourselves " girls"? You are doing yourself and you friends a total disservice.

How many threads on this do you need, particularly when you aren’t engaging with the replies?

Standard expression that doesn’t require explanation, same as a lads’ weekend. It’s common usage.

Of course it’s fine. Mums allowed a lufe

Reported both threads. Is it half term already?

@Sundaymondaytuesdayetc But why on earth are you calling yourselves " girls"? You are doing yourself and you friends a total disservice.

Disagree, I’m not doing any disservice to myself by calling myself a “girl”.

Apologies. I'm new to MN and not that tech savvy. I sent the same message twice and MN Admin stopped my account. They have now reinstated me. A lesson not to post in the early hours whilst upset. I just want some impartial advice as it's causing a lot of distress in our 34 year marriage.

You couldn’t pay me to go. They all sound rough 😆

Well you could shag some one you met whilst shopping in Tesco you don’t need to go to butlins! You know dh is being an idiot and in worst case scenario projecting his behaviour onto you. The question is will you Put up with it?

I go away with girls and worst thing we do is talking shite, kitchen dancing and hangovers resulting in a day in bed

Yet you sound like the model of decorum 🙄

Your DH is being silly; it’s just a fun weekend of music and drinking! I’ve been on a couple; they’re really good fun especially the 90s one; and a mix of all ages.

Me and my friends used to go to the now defunct Caister Soul Weekends twice a year for many years and managed to completely avoid shagging random strangers.

Ive got mates who go to the Butlins weekends at Bognor and they just go to have a fun weekend not looking for sex.

Your DH is being an idiot

Yes, get him told. There is no way my DH gets to stop me seeing my mates ( no childcare planning needed now). We haven’t been to Butlins but if we did he wouldn’t think I was going to include sex in the itinerary.

It might be standard usage but it's ridiculous when a woman reduces herself to the status of someone who doesn't deserve the respect and consideration of an adult. Who is not competent to behave in an adult way.
Similarly the use of the term lads which is usually used to excuse adult men's bad behaviour.

If you want sex with strangers then it can definitely be all about sex with strangers. Do you want sex with strangers? If not, then it’s not going to involve sex with strangers. The bigger problem is why your DH seems to think so little of you that he assumes you’re off to have sex with strangers.

I’m sorry your DH is being like this.

Unless there is a history of cheating your end in the past I think he is being totally unreasonable and controlling.

I would be concerned that after 34 years of marriage my DH didn’t trust me enough to have a fun weekend away with my friends.

Go and have fun, don’t let him stop you.

My sil goes on plenty of these butlins weekends and none of them have fucked anyone, she had many times though that she's never had a weekend or mini break with her group of friends where married men have not tried it on with them so I think maybe the pp is right, he's maybe projecting and it's him and his mates who are the type who try and fuck randoms on lads breaks.

I have no idea what these weekends are like, but I assume you're capable of not having sex with other men. Go and have (non-sexual) fun.

I personally couldn't think of anything worse than a seedy adults weekend at Butlins. However, that doesn't mean that your husband is allowed to dictate where you go.

Would he have the same issue if you sent 5 times the price at Centre Parcs?