Girls' weekend away

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Is ok for a group of mature mums to go on a Butlins Adults Only weekend just for fun with friends, drinking and dancing? DH thinks they're all about sex with strangers.

Such snobbery on here. They're not seedy, they're just fun music festival type weekends. Loads of my friends go on them (professional women, teachers and the like). They are all married, they have a great craic, dress up, dance and none of them have ever snagged a rando whilst there.

Do people understand that an adults only weekender means no children rather one of those tropical, hedonistic sex trips? Says more about you that your clothes fall off as soon as children are out of the way than the OP.

Your DH sounds like a knob.

My husband is very easy going and actually said the one place he wouldn’t ever want me to go is a butlins adult weekend…apparently full of lecherous men. I believe the word was “sausage fest”

My brother goes every year. He just describes the weekends as a public service of a kind: instead of having a giant house party at home and irritating the fuck out of all your nice suburban neighbours with your loud music and your drug taking, you go to Butlins with all the friends you’d have invited to your giant house party and the loud music and the drug taking is par for the course. You aren’t looking for more than a duvet and a hot shower in your accommodation anyway and you get to hang out with all your friends without bothering anyone. I can definitely see the appeal.

You should go if you want to. But it is....not for everyone.

I once went to an adult only butlins hen do thing for an old school friend and I went home early it was that bad. Everyone was totally smashed when I arrived and several members of the group hooked up with men there - despite all being engaged or married. The bride's GRANNY was asked to leave the premises for fighting. A classy affair it was not 😅

I’ve been to a 90s weekend at Butlins and it was extremely seedy and a meat market. However the two chalets worth of mums I was with managed to avoid the many offers we collectively received. I’ve been to a more genre specific weekend a few times (original artists, more alternative) and it was a completely different vibe. A bit of friendly banter but not as debauched. So maybe it depends on the demographic?

I agree with that. Friends have done the 80’s weekends and the soul ones and said it’s good fun but men are like dogs on heat.

Ive done the Ibiza one and the Southport weekend (at Bognor) which were both more house music specific and attracted a completely different crowd who were there for the music

If you managed to not have sex with anyone, then I'm sure op can too.

Op, you're at least 50 given the length of your marriage. If you wanted to screw others, I'm sure you'd work out how to do it. If he doesn't trust you now, he never will.

Let .e guess, you won't be there at his beck and call?

If my husband insinuated my knickers fall off if he's not watching, he'd be sleeping in his bloody car for a month.

Which weekend are you going to? 😁

His statement is more telling about him.

I'd be assuming he'd already cheated on you.

It's a big 🚩

I’m not implying the OP would have trouble avoiding having sex with someone. She should definitely go if she wants and get DH should trust her. Just replying to some of the comments on how these weekends are just people going for a bit of music and dancing. That wasn’t my experience and I wish I’d been warned because I was shocked at the behaviour.

I’d love a lufe (whatever’s that is!)

I think most people would imagine the scenario you describe. I can see why anyone wouldn’t be happy at their partner attending this sort of weekend “ fun”

Obv username is a throwaway. Def go an enjoy it if that’s what you want

been on plenty of these weekends because they are cheap, cheerful and close to home if needed. We drink and dance all weekend often returning home with sore throats from laughing and Singing so much, and have thus far managed not to shag anyone but will be on high alert next weekend just in case….

I think we already know, so no wonder he’s not happy!

I've been to a Butlins Big Weekend in Skeggy, cheap as chips, lots of fun, good music and as long as you avoid Bingo Bango on Saturday afternoon, you'll be fine.

They are! Have you been before OP?
My husband wouldn’t be keen either.
can you not going somewhere nicer?

Yes it's so fun! I've been twice

I went to a weekend away there with a groups of girl friends. We had a great time.

I've been twice to Bognor for 80s weekends. The worst I got up to was too much wine and karaoke, Had a great time. I still go away with my friends a couple of times a year though normally abroad. We drink too many aperols and talk and laugh too much. It's marvellous. Men only think women want to go off and shag other men as that's what they might do given half the chance.

Bingo was half the fun! I might still have my Butlins dobber in a box somewhere.

Of course it's ok, even if it's a shag fest, isn't this about trust?

Of course it is! Adults only just means no kids as is usual. Unless there is a hidden context involving a pineapple, it's just fun! All down to trust, which is much easier these days to find out about with technology. Me and DH have often gone away for girls and boys weekends, everyone needs some time apart. X