To think people's manners in public are deteriorating

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Last week til now I've noticed:

• Someone watching porn out loud on the DLR
• People listening to videos and music loudly even on the morning train (it happens on later trains but I've not noticed it before during the morning commute)
• People pushing and not saying sorry. Just simply avoiding eye contact

It's been really unpleasant. Are people boy embarrassed to behave this way?

*not

No they aren't. If they were they wouldn't do it.

YANBU

Hell is other people. And the ninth circle of hell is people on public transport.

Last week I was in the train, chatting to my friend. Our conversation was interrupted by an older lady playing a video really loudly. It was intrusive so I said That's really Loud! Loudly, I might add. She turned the volume down. My friend died with embarrassment, but I don't care! She was the one being anti social! She needed to be told. Same thing at the airport recently. But I just moved seats. Don't know why we put up with it?

Totally agree. Yesterday at the theatre I had a group of young women behind me talking through the play. The woman in front of me turning her phone on every 10 minutes and the woman next to me loudly inhaling a family size pack of Doritos.

Letting another car pass you and the driver just stares blankly ahead without acknowledging you’ve pulled over for them. Sheer piggery

Why didn't you say something? I'm sick of this recent trend of people thinking they are in a bubble in cinemas and theatres. Talking, texting, filming. Oblivious to everyone else gritting their teeth around them Grrrr!

i really hate it when people play music, tv/film or games with sound up loud. There are things called headphones, earphones and earbuds. Please use these.

Anyone caught on public transport etc with no personal listening devices should have their phone, tablet etc crushed.

If it had just been one thing, I would have, but I felt like I was under attack from several directions!

All these examples are rude. But I'm also pretty sure there's been the same complaint about society since time began.

My grandparents remember their parents saying it after the war ended "people don't know how to behave anymore"

I think it's started to become ingrained in some younger people that they don't need to have respect or manners any more.
I notice it a lot working in retail, that so many children and young teens don't say please or thank you, and many don't even make eye contact when being served.

I think if the parents can't be bothered to teach their kids basic manners, then they grow up to be even more disrespectful of others as they become adults.

I held the queue up in Superdrug because the cashier said the price without saying please or looking at me. She wouldn't be shamed into it!!

I think if everyone was like that, it would kinda work, as in everyone did their own thing and accepted the impact others doing the same has on them was par for the course. Or of course if everyone just behaved in a way that was considerate towards other people using the same space.

But we seem to be in a place where some people do what they like, have no consideration for other people, and refuse to behave differently when it's pointed out, yet create an almighty scene when they're subject to the same thing. They're being picked on and bullied if they're asked to modify their behaviour and they're being picked on and bullied if someone else's inconsiderate behaviour affects them.

Omg! And when they ring up your items and don't say a word. So you have to ask how much to pay?

And that made you feel good did it? Trying to humiliate a minimum wage worker in public for not conforming to your standards?

You stop to let someone go past and do they say thank you? Do they hell. Just march past without even looking at you.

Please and thank you isn’t really high standards 🤷‍♀️

Oh for goodness sake. Basic manners should be expected from everyone. Not just high earners.

‘and the woman next to me loudly inhaling a family size pack of Doritos’

😂😂😂🤢

Driving standards have deteriorated so much now that you now have to drive like everyone is out to get you, wrong lanes on roundabouts, wrong (and dangerous) indication, wrong giving way, the worst thing though, is the filthy looks and chuntering you get when you have let that person through or let them out in front of you from a side road, it’s utterly bizzare, like you’ve annoyed them instead of actually helping them by being considerate.
Don’t get me started on supermarket behaviour !

On a plane a few weeks ago, the family in front of me had tabs for the kids where they were all playing games/videos without headphones. The noise was ridiculous! One kid was a teen, the other probably 7. Who teaches their kids that listening to their kit is more important than everyone else's peace?

Inconsiderate a**holes - that's who. But not to worry, those kids will grow soon, and teach their kids the same.

What ive found is people can’t apologise when they are in the wrong. For instance a lady parked so badly next to me I couldn’t open my door. I couldn’t climb over from the passenger side either. It was a massive Tesco car park with loads of spaces. I had to wait 20 mins for her to appear to move her car.

All she said was ‘I managed to get out ok’. I pointed out then when my car was unlocked the wing mirror was sticking out meaning there was no room to open door wide enough for me to get in. She just shrugged.. 🤷‍♀️

If that had me I would have apologised profusely.

Driving standards are appalling now I agree.
I was taught to check if it was safe (mirror) to go before then indicating (signal), then going when it was clear (manoeuvre).
These days people just indicate (if you're lucky) and go. Doesn't matter if there's not a gap or you're not letting them in. They just pull straight in. So you have a split second to react. And if you DON'T let them in they do nuts and start shouting and gesturing at you like you're in the wrong even though they've sped past a queue on traffic and now want to pull straight in on a queuing slip road. And if they don't get in, they just block the other lane or cross the crosshatch bit and sit there.

I was recently in an M & S food hall, heading toward the busy self checkout area, a woman and her teen daughter coming the other way, We reached the entrance to the self checkout at the same time, I stood back to let them go first and they just steamed past me without a word of thanks or acknowledgement. So rude.

This exact same thing happened to me, and when I pointed it out the woman said "I'm parked legally, there's nothing you can do!" I pointed out she was lucky I hadn't keyed her car with a few choice words and that other people would have. That got me a solid glare but it got the point across.