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All the males in my house wander around in their pants.

141 replies

PrettyParrot · 05/10/2024 15:51

I am getting tired of it, particularly now that my sons have hit puberty, so I have mandated that all human inhabitants must wear a minimum of shorts. We have no daughters so I am the lone voice here. The boys are complaining bitterly. Husband is neutral but says he understands my feelings.
AIBU 😂

OP posts:
elgreco · 05/10/2024 23:37

Mine wear jama shorts. Similar but different.

bittertwisted · 06/10/2024 12:13

Dotto · 05/10/2024 22:13

Ewwww. Yanbu. It's your home, not mighty penis land. Get them told.

Correct
It's the home of children who happen to have penises
Why does that matter?
It's their home too, girls arent more important than boys

Dotto · 06/10/2024 12:19

bittertwisted · 06/10/2024 12:13

Correct
It's the home of children who happen to have penises
Why does that matter?
It's their home too, girls arent more important than boys

OP doesn't want to endure penis all day through gaping boxers. It's not unreasonable.

Gwenhwyfar · 06/10/2024 13:16

FawnFrenchieMum · 05/10/2024 19:50

No she and them are in their private home, where I think you should be able to wear the same amount of clothing that acceptable in a public place.

The beach is not just any 'public place' though is it. You can't sit in a cafe (except a beach one maybe) in a bikini so why should OP have to put up with near nudity in her home if she doesn't want to. They should be decent in front of the opposite sex as it's basic respect.

ZiriForGood · 06/10/2024 14:08

Gwenhwyfar · 06/10/2024 13:16

The beach is not just any 'public place' though is it. You can't sit in a cafe (except a beach one maybe) in a bikini so why should OP have to put up with near nudity in her home if she doesn't want to. They should be decent in front of the opposite sex as it's basic respect.

Words like "decent" and "basic respect" are quite subjective in this context.
There is nothing inherently disrespectful in having one layer of clothing on. There is nothing inherently disrespectful in nudity either (thought a case could be made for a hygiene)
It is just a clash of preferences.

Yes, in this case the older son shows he isn't happy to give others the same liberty he is taking, so that's a good point to address, but in general there is no good and bad here, just some people perceive/wish for a social norm which isn't really there

Floogal · 06/10/2024 17:36

Is it briefs or boxers? Because boxers look like shorts whereas briefs are more revealing. Sometimes I just chill out in my knickers and t shirt at home. DH wears briefs and t-shirt around the house if its hot

Fordian · 06/10/2024 22:05

Skipped from 7ish yesterday evening to this evening to now to ask those if you'd wear a bikini to a wedding? Your pants and bra to Asda? Your PJs to work?

But somehow your house, where different people, women, girls, men boys, being related, should somehow be okay with near nudity in the home? Despite people being uncomfortable with it?

SeptemberSunglasses · 06/10/2024 22:08

Wander around in yours to make a point.

SeptemberSunglasses · 06/10/2024 22:10

Also, I empathise as the only woman in my house. I once had a breakdown over wee on the loo seat.

ThinWomansBrain · 06/10/2024 22:10

stop wasting money on having the heating so high

DiscoBeat · 06/10/2024 22:13

That's very odd! DH and 4 boys between us and none of them have ever worn pants in the house (underclothes excepted!) Is the house too hot? I would prompt them to put shorts on.

LizTruss · 06/10/2024 22:14

I remember ony too well.
It's one of the reasons I was quite relieved to no longer have to spend time in the House. 🤮

ToNiceWithSpice · 06/10/2024 23:00

SeptemberSunglasses · 06/10/2024 22:10

Also, I empathise as the only woman in my house. I once had a breakdown over wee on the loo seat.

In the middle of the night when you haven't noticed before you sit down.

Maddy70 · 06/10/2024 23:09

All my family walk around in their undergarments male and female. What is it about the human body you are worried about?

BiMale50 · 23/03/2025 15:20

My step dad, step brother, and I would only wear or FTL basic white briefs in and around the house after or showers. And all day during the summer

Valeriekat · 23/03/2025 19:23

Your husband started this behaviour and so should be modelling respectful (and self respectful) behaviour to his sons.
Those of you who think this male entitlement is acceptable... when they have a flat share will it be OK to parade around, like this in front of other women?
Too hot is a ridiculous excuse.

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