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All the males in my house wander around in their pants.

141 replies

PrettyParrot · 05/10/2024 15:51

I am getting tired of it, particularly now that my sons have hit puberty, so I have mandated that all human inhabitants must wear a minimum of shorts. We have no daughters so I am the lone voice here. The boys are complaining bitterly. Husband is neutral but says he understands my feelings.
AIBU 😂

OP posts:
ZiriForGood · 05/10/2024 19:52

PrettyParrot · 05/10/2024 17:24

A pretty wide range of opinions then!

A few answers:

  • They started doing this at the age of 4 or so - I have only been bothered by it recently, with the advent of pants with holes on the front. I don't need to see your bits thank you!
  • Our house is not warm. God only knows how they are not hypothermic.
  • They have oodies but tend to only wear them sporadically.
  • I tried to demonstrate my point by doing a round of the house in bra and pants. 13yo almost vomited, 12yo was clearly somewhat fascinated, DH amused. Not a long term option as I would freeze to death.

This is not a major source of distress to me, it's just mildly irritating. We have had steady battles over the years to reach the (to my mind) extremely lax status quo of 'wear pants when sitting on the sofa' and ' no dinner until you are wearing at minimum a tshirt and pants' 😂😂

Ok, if the 13 yo almost vomited, you have the answer. It you can't, he can't either

FawnFrenchieMum · 05/10/2024 19:53

PrettyParrot · 05/10/2024 19:20

This isn't a dripfeed I promise - I think I was just blotting it out! Ds1 has a tendency to put his hands down his pants legs (for want of a better word) and hoick the whole lot up so it looks like Borat's mankini. He also routinely tucks the rear side of his pants into his bum crease sumo wrestler style and bends over. This is entirely intentional and is part of what has driven me to the edge....

I mean that’s totally different to walking round in a pair of boxers that covers these arse crack and balls.

suburberphobe · 05/10/2024 19:54

Tell them to fuck off to a nudist camp.

ToNiceWithSpice · 05/10/2024 19:58

Marblesbackagain · 05/10/2024 19:48

Because the sky fairy gang shaped your culture whether you like it or not.🤣.

They literally are the differential in history between the cultures. It's a human body we all have them. 🤷‍♀️

Total bollocks

RedRobyn2021 · 05/10/2024 20:03

Gross

RedRobyn2021 · 05/10/2024 20:05

God reading this thread I'm so grateful I have girls

Lolatusernamesuggestions · 05/10/2024 20:14

In my house it's two females versus three males. Females are sensible and often frozen. No problems there. The boys act like it's summer all year round. DH and the boys try to live in underpants at home. They own clothes, lots of them, but no. There's lots of fgs go put some trousers on from the females. DH loves the Lego movie because the guy keeps saying where's my pants? That's all I ever hear. In a way I'm glad it's not just my family. Anyway I have bigger problems, the five year old is starting to flash for attention. None of the others did it. He's going to be 18 one day, I dread to think what he will be like. We have to be very firm and say it isn't acceptable. The underpants thing looks tamer in comparison but still not great.

BirthdayRainbow · 05/10/2024 20:17

I read threads like this and wonder. I have sons. They always had clothes on. Two layers. Except just the one sock. Both of them 😆.

edited to add, as in both sons.

MagdaLenor · 05/10/2024 20:18

RedRobyn2021 · 05/10/2024 20:05

God reading this thread I'm so grateful I have girls

I had boys - they never did this.

Twototwo15 · 05/10/2024 20:19

I take it all the people who wander around in pants don’t get many deliveries, or have to put something on each time they do.

Marblesbackagain · 05/10/2024 20:21

jannier · 05/10/2024 19:52

With males playing with themselves

I know this may be shocking but they manage to adhere to normal common decency. Serious others manage to live without these hang ups.

Marblesbackagain · 05/10/2024 20:23

ToNiceWithSpice · 05/10/2024 19:58

Total bollocks

Yes bollox is present for one sex, correct. It is a well held anthropologic consideration in cultural comparison research but hey why let academia get in the way.

Wellingtonspie · 05/10/2024 20:24

we run by the rule of out side of the bathroom/bedroom don’t show what you wouldn’t want to see.

so undies is fine as long as your ok with everyone else in the house doing the same. If you don’t want to see sister/mum dad/brother in their under crackers you don’t come out your room in just yours.

emergencies excluded.

ToNiceWithSpice · 05/10/2024 20:27

Marblesbackagain · 05/10/2024 20:23

Yes bollox is present for one sex, correct. It is a well held anthropologic consideration in cultural comparison research but hey why let academia get in the way.

Yeah you're right, we should all be able to wander around naked, can't see any issues with that at all

We don't live in a society where its acceptable and I'm glad about that

Aix · 05/10/2024 20:30

I'm outnumbered 3 to 1 in our house, kids are still very little (Nursery age), but I couldn't care less how much or little anyone wears. As long as the neighbours aren't seeing more than they should I'm not fussed.

Marblesbackagain · 05/10/2024 20:32

ToNiceWithSpice · 05/10/2024 20:27

Yeah you're right, we should all be able to wander around naked, can't see any issues with that at all

We don't live in a society where its acceptable and I'm glad about that

Edited

And we are glad that you don't live in ours touchè.🤣

ToNiceWithSpice · 05/10/2024 20:33

Lolatusernamesuggestions · 05/10/2024 20:14

In my house it's two females versus three males. Females are sensible and often frozen. No problems there. The boys act like it's summer all year round. DH and the boys try to live in underpants at home. They own clothes, lots of them, but no. There's lots of fgs go put some trousers on from the females. DH loves the Lego movie because the guy keeps saying where's my pants? That's all I ever hear. In a way I'm glad it's not just my family. Anyway I have bigger problems, the five year old is starting to flash for attention. None of the others did it. He's going to be 18 one day, I dread to think what he will be like. We have to be very firm and say it isn't acceptable. The underpants thing looks tamer in comparison but still not great.

I wouldn't worry too much about it, I'm sure he will grow out of it if you keep telling him not to !

ToNiceWithSpice · 05/10/2024 20:34

Marblesbackagain · 05/10/2024 20:32

And we are glad that you don't live in ours touchè.🤣

Unless ypu are in a nudist camp somewhere you are not all wandering around naked, give over

idrinkandknowthings · 05/10/2024 20:35

Nah I don't think I could be arsed to be bothered. Mines 13 years old and his dad 47. Both in T-shirts and pants often. I just don't care! They're both clean, they both comfy. If I catch a glimpse of anything, well it's a body part not an AK-47.

NitroNine · 05/10/2024 20:47

Marblesbackagain · 05/10/2024 19:42

I fail to see how the underwear isn't sufficient. I find the British attitudes to the naked body hilarious

It's perfectly normal and healthy in Scandinavian countries to be naked. It's not like we don't know what the body looks like. Religious control has a lot to answer for.

Sorry, the Scandinavian countries of [Evangelical] Lutheranism? Are you really trying to argue countries that have not just a majority Christian population but one of the same denomination are free from “religious control” because there’s been a separation of church & state in two of the five (2017 for Norway & 2000 for Sweden)?

The countries recognised as privileging the Lutheran church over other religions? Where Lutheranism underpins how the modern States function?

2921j2 · 05/10/2024 20:52

I don’t really see the problem. My dh does it sometimes, particularly in summer. I’ll do tshirt and pants in summer. So will my teens.

Tootsurly · 05/10/2024 20:53

MagdaLenor · 05/10/2024 16:37

Right. I didn't know.

The name is a bit of a clue. 😉

greyfoxy · 05/10/2024 20:57

CardiffCassie · 05/10/2024 16:37

I don’t get the issue? They’re your husband and your sons, not some random stranger or house guest. Surely you’ve seen them in less than pants on many occasions. And they’re wearing pants so it’s not like they’re rubbing their bums all over the sofa.

Yes this!!! I find it odd to be offended by pants! No pants I can see being strange but surely in the house pants are fine?

Marblesbackagain · 05/10/2024 21:00

ToNiceWithSpice · 05/10/2024 20:34

Unless ypu are in a nudist camp somewhere you are not all wandering around naked, give over

Plenty of people from my culture are quite comfortable in their homes you do you. I know it must be a shock to think others live differently outside the UK.

RareitySparkles · 05/10/2024 21:01

My sons do this ( well eldest doesn't) dh doesn't dh doesn't like it but I think it's their home too. It doesn't upset me. But it would if dh did it. Ds16 is tshirt and boxers or his pjs. My 12 year old is just his boxers which is worse but he is disabled so has bigger worry than looking presentable at all time.

They will get dressed when asked without a argument.