To send this to the parents of the kids who are being horrid to my Y9 son every day

[Spondoolie]

Do you realise that your child is nasty and cruel to my child every single day? Is that the kind of child you wanted to release into the world? Do you realise that you child makes fun of and is vile to my child just to entertain themself?

Yes that would be unreasonable as they probably don't give a shit and think their child is perfect

I hear you but it WBU to send it, mainly as they most likely won't give a shit.
Speak to the school and keep doing so until it is dealt with.

Sometimes these parents need a hard truth

Don't.

Do you know the parents?

Have you talked to the school?

What are the school doing about it? I wouldn’t send your message as much as I might want to in the heat of the moment.

I'm sorry to hear your son is suffering in this way, it must be awful for you all. I think you need to focus on th best way to improve things and I'm not convinced this is it.

What have you done with the school and how are they addressing it?

Your child will be further tormented if you send that.

Why are you letting him go to school if he is suffering abuse on a daily basis?

Take him out of the school unless the school can actually do something about it.

No don’t send it. Keep on at school and don’t let them slack when it comes to bullying. Anything physical, report to the police.

No. But the are in the form whatsapp group!

YANBU to think it, but YWBU to send it. You need to go through the school, especially at secondary which I'm assuming year 9 is.

They won't give a shit, and you probably won't feel better for sending the message as it won't change anything.

School is the way to go.

I'm sorry this is happening. Please do speak to the school, I know mine would want to know.

Would it help to move form at all? Mine did at the end of year 9, it made such a difference. I appreciate it doesn’t remove all chances to be vile but it may help.

If it were me I'd want to lie in wait and ambush them with some sort of large blunt implement. But the reality is I can't and you shouldn't either. Chances are the kid is either a complete asshole or there's other reasons for their behaviour. If the kids an asshole then the chances are it's because of how they're raised. If there's other reasons then the parents could be going through similar frustrations to you. Keep on top of the school, keep supporting your child, keep breathing and rant to someone who cares about your son but isn't attached to the school.

To be honest, my DS told me that when he was 8 or 10 he used to bully his now best friend. If his mother had said this to me I would have been absolutely horrified and set him straight. The boy beat my son up one day and they became friends after that

Keep it within the school and let them deal with it. Never ever approach a parent outside the school re any issues within the school. Your dc and your safety here.

I’d be less emotional.

‘Hello Sarah. Tom tells me Harry has been unkind to him every day over the last few weeks, it’s really affecting him. Can we chat? He’s starting to say he doesn’t want to go to school as a result, thanks Jane”

It's horrible when your child is being targeted and I'm sorry but absolutely don't send that message. It's not good.

You need to be rational about this because that message won't get you anywhere and I think will achieve the opposite of what you want it to.

They won't recieve it though. They'll just be like what a weired cringey message. Much better to speak face to face

This sounds so stressful and can't continue . I don't think talking to the parents is usually the best option and parents often might get defensive or react badly . I would always start with the school but I imagine you have?
if nothing is sorted I would remove my dc rather than tolerate this , unless your Dc is coping and able to handle it but it sounds awful .
i do like Midnightpatrol's suggestion above though but it really depends what the parents are like so is too high risk imo; it's possible the mature and kind sort of parent who'd respond helpfully is less likely to have a child who bullies and possible the behaviour can stem from home as just too hard to know .

And? You don't know them really. They might be violent thugs

I am so sorry, OP. It is so hard to watch this happening to our kids. Don’t send the message, but I hear you. I have spent hours of my life wanting to take revenge on my kids’ bullies. It is sheer hell. I never sent the messages but it felt good to write them sometimes.

Really not a good idea.

Parents are people and like all people some of them are reasonable and some are not.

I used to work in a school and it wasn't unheard of for parents to get involved in their kids' fallings in and outs

Having parents going at each other verbally or worse physically does not improve anyone's situation.

It doesn't @Octavia64 , but you shouldn't equate daily bullying of one child with failings out. It minimises it, even if accidentally..