Aibu to think confident children are from very middle class backgrounds?

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In my childrens school the children who get chosen foe everything are very confident & are from very middle class backgrounds (state school).

I can see why these kids are picked, they do a wonderful job but what makes them so much more confident then mine? They are attending the same school so therefore getting the same education..

I also should've added he's fairly mature for a teenage boy and reasonably articulate too. He's certainly not perfect and has many faults but can certainly hold his own with different groups of people/colleagues etc.

Hahaha no. I'm UMC with very little self confidence and I don't think it has anything to do with class. I have met people confident to the point of bumptious, obnoxious arrogance from all backgrounds and walks of life. I've never noticed it being more prevalent in any one particular group.

People don't necessarily notice I'm not self confidence though thanks to years of speech & drama. Conversely, this means I may be more confident in situations that give others stage fright. I get nervous but can get through it. I'm also an only child. People comment that I'm "brave" doing things alone. I simply don't mind doing things alone, I'm used to a certain level of solitude.

Uhhh… can you send me a link to this alternative thread when you start it? Just… y’know… for literary interest?

I don't think it has to be any of these things necessarily, just as long as you're taking them to adult places as well aa specifically children places, having them socialise with adults as well children (non-family adults), putting them in a wide variety of situations. My son gained all his confidence at pubs, gigs and festivals i think!

Yes will do - no worries 🤣

OP, your statement shows you've met or know hardly any none-middle class children. And that you know nothing about psychology/genetics.
What utter rot.

Edit to add: sorry OP. I mis-read your post. I still disagree with you but I'm clearly talking rot myself to say you've hardly met any none-middle class children. 😬

I used to teach in areas of deprivation. There were plenty of confident (perhaps bordering ona arrogant) children in those schools.

I was thinking this too, mine have ordered since 4 years old

Everyone has class prejudices, and belongs to a social class, whether you like it or not.
It means we make quick assumptions about others based on presentation / speech etc.
Better to accept and work with it (as you have with your DC) than to accuse people of being prejudiced, simply for talking about it!

@Bushmillsbabe liking the sound of that school!! They have the priorities right.

I've lived and taught in Scotland for many years. My children are now grown up and did well at school and uni. We used to just have fairly everyday conversations with them.

I see some parents on Instagram showing clips of their 10/11 year old children speaking very confidently and having opinions on politics, world affairs etc. Mine would never have done this.

I don't know if it's a regional things as we were always brought up not put ourselves forward or appear "bold" which could be the same as appearing confident.

@Msmbc totally agree with you - my post didn’t include everything, but definitely socialising with adults in adult spaces as well!😊