Leaving the house, would this annoy you?

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My DP was working late last night, I was upstairs with the kids, they were being quite noisy and I was trying to calm them down so they were quiet as I knew he had to get something done and then was trying to get them to bed. Managed to do so then my DP calls me on my phone which I thought was strange so I answered, he had gone out the house 15 mins ago and was calling to see if we needed milk. I wasn’t even aware he had left the house. This really annoyed me, I think it was rude and it’s common courtesy to tell your partner if you are going out.

i wasn’t going to say anything when he h
got home but he kept asking me what was up and I told him I thought he was rude for leaving the house without telling me. Cue his defensiveness telling me he shouted me 3 times - obviously I didn’t hear him or acknowledge him as I would have done if I had actually heard him

I know it’s petty but would this annoy you? Also annoyed that he can’t accept this annoyed me and started arguing with me about it, wish I hadn’t said anything.

I didn’t ask why there were going to bed at 9pm, I asked why they were being so noisy.

So stifling. So controlling.

Why couldn’t he have come upstairs to tell you he was going out? This is what my DH would have done.

Presumably because they’re really young and not wanting to go to bed, mine used to have a mad half hour before they would settle

Like I’ve said on my pp their bedroom is above the office, they can sound really loud in there but when you go into their bedroom they aren’t actually being overly noisy, it just sounds really loud in the office and I was mindful that he was trying to get something done for work and I knew the noise would bother him and he needed to concentrate.

they all go to bed at 9pm and they were asking if they could finish their game before I put them all to bed. I didn’t hear him shout up and if I had of I would have acknowledged him. Of course he can go out, I’m by no means controlling by expecting him to just nip up the stairs to let me know he is going out for half an hour. if i have gone out and he has been busy I always text as I’m leaving to say just going the shop or whatever I’m doing, I just like to let him know where I’ve gone but I respect that there are other views on this.