Frightened

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Just been into the local cemetery walking my dog, and felt uneasy about a man who seemed to be watching me.
He went to one grave down the bottom of the hill, went to another all while watching me, he didn't have any flowers or nothing for anyones grave. He appeared to be talking to himself.
He slowly made his way up towards the hill towards me, at this point my back where to him. I felt really uneasy, so faced towards him and he was staring at me and I felt really intimidated he stopped at another grave and then faced me again staring. I felt is was not quite right and my gut instincted was going, so I decided to abandon my walk with the dog and run back to the car. Got in the car and locked myself in and come back home.

Maybe he's got mental health issues schizophrenia there is alot like that and uts very sad but that's why he was maybe talking to himself if you felt nervous you did right. I once as a kid walked my nans dog in a field and this lone dude was pacing up and down acting odd but my dog started proper barking at him and that wasn't like him and the dude got very annoyed but I legged it with dog

I bet the dog enjoyed the run.

I'm not really sure what you're actually asking here. You felt uncomfortable/scared and you sensibly took steps to move away from the thing that was bothering you. That's really all there is to it.

Nobody can confirm to you whether or not the man in question was actually a danger to you. Statistically, he's much, much more likely to have been completely harmless. But you obviously felt scared and uneasy, and in a situation where you feel scared/uneasy/vulnerable it's always OK to leave, whether the person making you feel that way is a danger or not.

I've certainly moved away from people who made me feel uneasy - even when I'm 99 per cent sure they're totally harmless. Conversely, there's also been times when I haven't moved away from people who definitely did have the potential to be dangerous, simply because despite knowing that they could be dangerous, I didn't feel scared of them.

@YourMommaWasASnowblower no I live 1 mile away from the cemetary, and no nobody in this area. My dog does not have a bad reputation.
It was an isolated incident when he bit the cyclist many years ago.

@Kbroughton no it definetly was not the cyclist, this was 100% a totally diffrent man.

@Northernlass44 I did think he had some kind of mental health the way he was acting. Just glad I got to safety.

Always trust your gut in a situation like that. I would log it with 101 just in case there are other instances of this. I wouldn't be going back there on my own.

@ItGhoul I have been in this cemetary walking for the past 7 months, and always felt safe up until today. It would be such a shame if I would not be able to walk in there again.

🙄

For crying out loud!

i don't think it is respectful to walk a dog in a cemetery.
choose somewhere else.

@10storeylovesong It unnearved me him talking to himself and staring intently.
It didn't look like he was visiting graves, because he didn't seem interested in the various graves. More interested in what i was doing and where I was going.

To be honest he was prob thinking this woman was staring at me, ,

"Hello? 101? There was a man LOOKING at me in the cemetery today!"😂

Exactly!

You did the right thing in trusting your instincts.

Hope you're OK.

@alexdgr8 I am going to contine to walk in the cemetary, but I am going to be taking my friend who as agreed to come with me tomorrow.
There is nothing disrespectful about taking my dog for a walk in the cemetary. Loads of people go in there, and like I say there is no bylaw in place at present.

@Chocolatebuttonsandprosseco I don't know, I felt very unnearved. Just glad I went on my gut instinct.

@DramaAlpaca thank you.

Future reference to what? The National "people seen in cemeteries" police database?

because other people do something does not make it right.
and surely you have your own standards, bye laws are a very low bar as to personal behaviour.
there is no bye-law about being kind or considerate either.
or respectful probably.
do you just ignore all those concepts because there is no bye-law.

I think: always trust your instincts.

Also don't think there's anything disrespectful about walking a dog in a cemetery, so long as cleaning up happens. Some of my friends' dogs have attended funerals of their owners or friends.

@ExhaustedHousewife I have logged it with 101. Felt a bit daft explaining that I was unnearved by a man in the cemetary.
They was very understanding & are going to do a patrol round.

I would have done the same.
It could have been nothing but it's not worth hanging round to find out.
If you feel uneasy in a situation it's best to remove yourself.

If it's innocent, there's no harm done.