Would you be offended if someone asked you whether you were over 60’s?

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I’d really love to hear people’s opinions on this!

If you went to the cinema to purchase a ticket to watch a film and the sales assistant said, ‘Is that 1 Adult ticket or 1 Over 60’s ticket?’ would you be offended by that? Bearing in mind you’re not actually over 60’s but 53.

For context, an Adult ticket costs £13.70 and an Over 60’s ticket costs £10.70. How would you feel about that line of questioning?

YABU - that’s a really offensive question and shouldn’t be asked.

YANBU - there’s nothing wrong with the question as the staff member needs to charge the correct price

It's not offensive.

I'd think it was stupid of the person to ask. Leave it to the customer. Or be more tactful. Say we have concessions for X Y and Z.

But, if it were asked if me and I wasn't over 60, I'd chalk it up to so many over 60s looking so young these days. Then I'd probably fib for the discount. Win win. I'm not 60, but I got a discount anyway. Whatever.

It’s just a standard question, ticket sellers possibly not paying that much attention to you, nothing to get uptight about. So no, I wouldn’t get upset, they are just doing their rather boring job. I certainly wouldn’t have me peering in a mirror and desperate to get Botox.

Anyone over the age of 40 could appear to be 60 to a person in their teens or 20s . It’s not offensive, they are doing their job and potentially trying to save you money.

Well I get she's trying to save you £3 but that's a bit tactless. I actually am 60 but like to think I look a few years younger (may be delusional of course!!) and even I'd be a bit miffed at the question.

They're trying to give you a discount!

Judging ages is hard, especially for young people who may have a limited reference range. They're probably trying to be helpful rather than judgemental.

We went to a Classic Car show with our neice a few weeks ago. Ticket seller took our money, peered into back of car, and decided our neice was under 14

She’s 49🤣

If I had grey hair I'd shrug and probably lie for the discount. If I didn't I'd be a bit miffed, but certainly not offended. I'm a similar age and it hasn't happened to me .....yet.

I’m in my 20s and honestly someone could be 45 or 65 and I wouldn’t know. Maybe the ticket seller had just been given out to by a 60+ because they charged them as an adult.

Maybe easy for me to say but I don’t think there’s anything offensive about being 60 vs 53. People would probably guess I’m anywhere been 27-33.

No I wouldn't be offended. I have always thought it bit daft to place your self esteem on what age you are/look.

I’d be a bit bemused, but I’m 10 years younger than you.

Was it a young person serving you? I remember being 18 and thinking that anyone over 40 seemed 60+.

It's really hard to guess someone's age - I'm in my 60s and often find I'm wrong to a good 10 years each way. Don't take offence OP, maybe she was just being nice re a potential discount - better to offer it than not.

I'd be gutted to be asked that at age 50. If I was say 68 I'd be pleased that they thought I might be younger.

Yes probably, I was in a famous high street chemist and they were offering blood pressure checks for the over 40s that day with the pharmacist, a customer services person looked at me and this other woman looking at the toiletries and dismissed me as too young, I am actually mid 40s but the woman next to me got asked and was really offended and quite sharply refused asking the customer services person if she looked way over 40 and explained that she was in her fifties but she was too busy and had to be somewhere. I thought that was bizarre as she looked late 50s and she confirmed she was fifties so why worry about not looking in your 30s essentially!

I am over 60, but I see it as my responsibility to ask for a concessions price, not theirs. Also, I didn’t realise cinemas were over 60 fir concessions, none of our local ones are

It isn't at all offensive. (I haven't answered the poll because the options looked the wrong way round so I wasn't sure which to click.)

I'm 61 and had the question asked once or twice before I was 60. Of course it made me feel a bit self-conscious.But it really isn't offensive. People need to do their job, and there is no reason why they should be super-sensitive to the signs that put someone just under versus just over a specific age.

As far as they are concerned, they are just trying to make sure you benefit from a possible entitlement. They aren't forming an opinion on how well-maintained you are.

The Customer services woman asking was probably on her 20s so I'm not sure all you her people are inaccurate.

What's offensive about being over 60?

Wouldn’t bother me. I am over 60. Then again I was quite pleased when DH and I went to look at the Royal Palace in Stockholm recently, and asked for two senior concession tickets and the bloke behind the counter said “you do realise they are for over 60s?”

Well I'd not be turning cartwheels if I thought someone thought I looked older than I was. I'm not sure anyone over the age of 20 would, would they? That said, if the person was young and the light wasn't great, they'd could easily get it wrong by a decade either way.

My Mum was obsessed with folks not knowing her real age. She also liked a bargain. Cue much hilarity the day she got her bus pass. It was hidden from the view of all but the poor bus driver. I used to tease her once she had sat down, and would ask her if she had put her bus pass away safe🤭🤣

I agree! Especially as you're only 53!

When I was about 58, I went with my 60 year old sister to a museum, and the person selling tickets said something like "Are you eligible for the concession rate?"

"I wonder why she thought we might be students?" I naively said to my sister afterwards, still feeling decades away from old.

Lots of places don't offer concessionary tickets anyway, and if they do, it tends to be for the 65+ age group. So it wouldn't occur to a lot of people in their early 60's to even ask if there was a senior concession.

It wouldn't bother me to be asked at all. I'm not vain enough to be insulted by it.