Would you be offended if someone asked you whether you were over 60’s?

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I’d really love to hear people’s opinions on this!

If you went to the cinema to purchase a ticket to watch a film and the sales assistant said, ‘Is that 1 Adult ticket or 1 Over 60’s ticket?’ would you be offended by that? Bearing in mind you’re not actually over 60’s but 53.

For context, an Adult ticket costs £13.70 and an Over 60’s ticket costs £10.70. How would you feel about that line of questioning?

YABU - that’s a really offensive question and shouldn’t be asked.

YANBU - there’s nothing wrong with the question as the staff member needs to charge the correct price

Same tbh😂

I’m surprised at those saying, ‘you must be young if you don’t know the difference between 53 and 60.’

Picture this. You’re a staff member in the box office of a cinema where it’s naturally dark and has low lighting. When someone comes in and approaches the tills, you have about 5 seconds to analyse them before they say what film they’d like to see. Once they’ve done that, you’re looking at your till straight away and asking what ticket they want to purchase.

It’s not as if the sales assistant had anytime prior to really look at this customer and guess their specific age. Even if it was me, I’d probably guess what age group they could be instead of trying to guess their specific age. How the hell would I do that?!

I think people generally don’t know how old people are judging by looks. I got IDd when I was in my early 40s, there was no way in a million years I looked under 25!

It’s rude to make a mistake now?

At 53? I’d be gutted!

I'd be flipping mortified.... not even going to sugar coat it to make myself sound reasonable....I'd be raging !!!!!

I have the opposite problem. I'm in my fifties and have a plethora of lovely debilitating medical conditions that make me very weak, unsteady, breathless and fall over a lot. I tend to get dismissed quite often because I look a lot younger than I am. As in, "it wouldn't be THAT. You're too young for it to be THAT". Shock...it was THAT. I've also been told I can obviously walk perfectly fine and can't use patient transport because that's only for the "over fifties". The fact that I only look about 35 apparently supposed to help me not fall over, like some sort of invisible rollator.
This is from nurses and ambulance drivers who really should know better than to think all disabilities are not only visible but only happen to those over 50. It's insane. For heavens sake there are little children in wheelchairs so what's age got to do with it.

As for OP, maybe the ticket seller was pissed off at the management and wanted to deprive them of the extra few pounds by giving out extra concessionary tickets.

I agree about darkness, in our Vue I wouldn’t recognize my own husband if he would be buying a ticket - bloke in jeans and navy jacket with greyish hair could be anything between 30 - 70.

I would be distraught if asked but then would pull myself together ask for an adult and go in. I wouldn’t complain. What about? I know I’m not young any more.

I was buying a ticket for an exhibition and the young male ticket seller said ‘ any concessions ? I looked up at the price board and was quickly skim reading when he helpfully added “ like 60 + ?” I said ‘“ unfortunately not quite there yet, but what about my student card ( full time 1 year course) ? “ He started to apologise, I said not be silly and thank you for the kind reminder and so all ended in a OTT British apology fest and I had my discount.

My friend ( with membership card ) didn’t see the funny side and was outraged on my behalf all the way around the first room - said she’d have been deeply offended. I pointed out her son was about the same age as the cashier and could he or any of his mates reliably judge older ages ?

My cousin was always assumed to be a senior, when buying a cinema ticket, from around 53/54. She didn't care, she just liked the saving! She always said she looked older than she actually was.

YABU - they are just trying to give you a discount! It's not offensive at all. I'm 60 next year, I'll be taking all the concessions I can get!

The problem with asking 'any concessions?' It could be taken as insenuating they are old/too young/look poor on low income/seem disabled. It might also open up a whole new conversation delaying customers waiting. I think having the prices very clear, ie not far away on a board in frilly fancy font or chalk handwritting is the best way. Those interested in discount will look for it and ask. Maybe a poster with "reduced prices for x y and z please mention when booking"

Age is notoriously difficult to judge if you don't know the person. I've thought that someone who was 48 was over 60,but then again I've thought that someone who was 76 was only about 60!

I wouldn't be upset. I'm 72.

But why guess at all? Just say "two adults for James Bond?" or whatever. No analysis needed here.

I’m late sixties and useless at guessing ages. Work was a nightmare - doing home visits and sometimes not knowing if the people in the house were husband and wife / mother and son/ father and daughter/ any other combination ……….and then trying to work it out without offending anyone!

Honestly!😅

Yes this is so true! All of the prices in our cinema’s aren’t exactly clear, as there’s different prices for different people and depending on what day/time it is, those prices vary. Clear pricing is important but hey, I don’t get to make the big decisions all around the UK😆

We can definitely consider it in our location though so thanks for the idea of the poster!

And we say the younger generation are too easily offended!

I’m mid-sixties so I would be delighted.
I wouldn’t have been delighted ten years ago, no.

There are various different tickets at different prices. So it doesn’t make sense to say ‘two adult’ tickets when that adult can get a cheaper ticket whether they’re a student or over the age of 60. Unless people don’t mind being ripped off a few quid then it’s no problem at all really

Are you the customer that complained? You have a right bee in your bonnet😂

As I said upthread, many people don’t know about the cheaper tickets. You charge them the price of a standard ticket and they’ll come back pissy that you didn’t mention the discounted ticket. It’s not that easy either

I’m hopeless at guessing ages and will simply not do it! I saw a ‘boy’ getting on the bus today in full school uniform and I would have put him at 25. He did have a very fine moustache though.

But technically they were right - he was with his child.