Would you be offended if someone asked you whether you were over 60’s?

[WhatDoYouThink789]

I’d really love to hear people’s opinions on this!

If you went to the cinema to purchase a ticket to watch a film and the sales assistant said, ‘Is that 1 Adult ticket or 1 Over 60’s ticket?’ would you be offended by that? Bearing in mind you’re not actually over 60’s but 53.

For context, an Adult ticket costs £13.70 and an Over 60’s ticket costs £10.70. How would you feel about that line of questioning?

YABU - that’s a really offensive question and shouldn’t be asked.

YANBU - there’s nothing wrong with the question as the staff member needs to charge the correct price

As I said upthread, many people don’t know about the cheaper tickets. You charge them the price of a standard ticket and they’ll come back pissy that you didn’t mention the discounted ticket.

And can’t you just say the prices are stated on this big sign here? Sorry you missed it because you’re ancient and your eyesight is so shit.

That's how you see people over 60? Nice

They aren't being ripped off at all. Where on earth do you live? Beginning to think this is a regional thing. I worked in hospitality for bloody ages and never thought it was on me to tell people about advertised discounts. They have to find them and then tell you about them where I live (near london). If they get pissy, that's entirely ridiculous. If they thought they were entitled to a reduced ticket in the first place they have to say so. How are they even finding out only AFTER they've paid and then watched the movie and then decided they've been ripped off? Nuts

Meh, I can remember when I was a teen and in my twenties, I thought anyone 40 and over was ancient. Now the reverse is true and I think most of the young people I see should still be in school!

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Fairs!!

Well, I wouldn't be offended - I'd be flattered as I'm over 60!

In all truthfulness, it’s one of those cinemas where the prices are written in chalk, on a board, that’s full of other shite and announcements. It’s actually not clear to see the price for the specific day and time (and age group) unless you look online! A bit rubbish really

South London. As I said, a lot of the customers aren’t regulars so don’t actually realise they can get a cheaper ticket.

No clue how people all of a sudden find out that they could have got a cheaper ticket but they do! They either mention it on their next visit or again, send an email to the customer service team.

Anywho, I’m not losing sleep over it! Just interested in what others thought

That's so weird - I'm just southwest of London and never got told off by a customer for not suggesting they get a reduced ticket on the off chance they're eligible. You'd have to do it to everyone in that case as you can be a student at any age for example

I'd be dead chuffed, but then I hit 60 over a decade ago.

What's wrong with being over 60? I am 66. Love any and all age-related concessions I can get. Who wouldn't?

On recent visit to a very overcrowded A&E a doctor was attending a patient mere inches away and my elderly (deaf) mum asked “is he really a doctor?” When I nodded in the affirmative (inwardly cringing, because I knew what was coming) she announced to all assembled “BUT HE’S SO YOUNG!” 🤦‍♀️

I knew the results would be that most posters think it's not unreasonable to be asked that. 🙄 In real life, EVERYone would be offended by this. There would just be different levels of how offended they'd be...

It's happened to me a few times, and frankly it has really pissed me off and offended me. You are right @WhatDoYouThink789 do NOT offer an over 60s - or pensioner discount to anyone! Put a sign up saying you offer them, and the onus can then be on people to ask for it.

I was offered a 'Silver Saver card' in a store this one time - (for over 60s,) and I was 46! Forty fucking six! I was like What? I said 'why would I want an over 60s card? I'm in my mid 40s.' And I was like

The (middle aged) woman serving said 'oops. I am not very good at telling peoples ages.' Just like this woman in the pharmacy who offered me a 'pensioners discount' when I was fucking 48! Again a middle aged woman. She said she is not very good at telling ages either.. If that's the case, why didn't these women think I was 35?!

I don't claim to be a babyface, but no fucking WAY did I look like I was in my 60s at 46-48 FFS!

I also had a woman - again middle aged! - offering me an over 65s discount several years ago when we went to a local visitor attraction. I was 55! I said 'umm, no thanks - I'm not over 65!' She just said 'I have to ask.' WHY? Why does she 'have to ask?' And does she 'ask' people who are 33?

Upshot is, don't assume people are pensioners or over 60. It's rude. And as I said, it's always been middle aged women with me. (early/mid 40s to around 60.) Men never do it to me. I have NEVER had a man ask if I want a pensioner discount! And no-one in their 30s or younger has asked either. Funny that!

Also, a few years ago (when I was early to mid 50s,) I met a woman who was walking her dog (when I was on a walk in the woods.) She told me she had just come off a cruise with her sister to celebrate her 60th and her sister's 65th birthdays. She asked me 'are you retired?' I was 54. 🙄I said 'yes I retired last year when I was 70.' She was like >>> 😕

I thought I would just go with the flow, and if these women make out they think I'm a pensioner/retired (when I'm in my late 50s,) I will humour them and say I'm in my 70s! I'm no longer going to let them see it's annoyed me. Again though, it was a woman between early/mid 40s and around 60.

(By the way, I have been mistaken for 5-8 years younger quite a few times, so I am pretty sure that I just pretty much look my age!)

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Utterly ludicrous thing to ask! Didn't take long did it? 🙄 There is NOTHING WRONG with being over 60 FFS! But no-one wants someone to think they look over 60 when they're a decade or more younger! And certainly not if they're 3 years out of their 40s FFS!

But you know that of course. Pedants Corner is that way >>>>>>>>

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Nothing but I'd be mortified if someone thought I looked older than I am tbh

Seems an over reaction. Given that it’s really hard to date anyone with accuracy, especially so the further from your age they are, I don’t think I’d be embarrassed or ashamed about it. And cheap tickets are a win. I’m 60 later this month and can’t wait for my bus pass (in Wales, so still get it at 60)

It would depend on the age of the server. I think id initially be a bit disappointed to look older than I was because that's just how society is, but then I remember being in my 20s and not really being able to work out anyone's age over about 40. I could spot people in theirs 20s like me, a good stab at 30s but somewhere in the 40s they were all just middle aged.

I know it's better than the alternative blah blah but no, sorry I'd prefer to be 40 than 60 tbh . Not because it's 'embarrassing' but it feels like yesterday that I was 40 and suddenly I'm a year off being 60 and it's gone in the blink of an eye. It's scary and depressing.

Id have jumped at the cheaper ticket (54 here)

Oh, I’m with you in time going fast and it being a bit scary! Still wouldn’t be upset or embarrassed because someone who didn’t know me got my age wrong by a few years. ( I’m 60 this month).

Did anyone think you were 60 when you were in your early 40s though?

@GladiatoooorsReadyyyy · Yesterday 16:14
I went swimming with my pensioner dad last week. They charged me child entrance. I’m 43

PMSL! 😂 Clearly you're joking. No-one of 43 looks like a child FFS! Not in ANY kind of 'lighting.'

I’d be offended as I’m a decade off it, but I’ve a male friend who always tells folks he’s over 60 and takes the discount. He isn’t. He’s your age. He finds it amusing.

Nope, it 100% happened! It definitely wasn’t because I look like a child, I can assure you of that 😂