Manners - do you do any/all of these things?

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Is it bad manners to not do any of these things?

Tucking your chair in when you've left a table

Putting your basket back after using the self checkout in the supermarket

Closing doors and drawers after opening them

Stacking plates/bowls and rubbish in a restaurant after a meal to make it easier for the server to collect/clear up

I do all except the bottom one.

I read somewhere that to stack plates is ‘uncouth’ and decent servers would rather you left them tidily in front of you so they can collect in the order they wish.

I'm uncouth, I do all of the above.

I'm not sure any of these are about 'manners' but more about tidying.

And no. I definitely don't stack plates for the server. As PP, that's not good manners.

Yes I'm never sure about the plate stacking one.

I try to tidy up but I'm never sure if I'm making it worse because the waiter might want to collect in their own way.

I do all apart from the latter. I went to catering college and it’s actually harder to sort out when diners do it, although I know they’re trying to be helpful.

I do all except the last one, they are good manners. But I pass the dishes over when they show they want to take them but it’s a bit far to reach.

I wouldn't say those are manners. I'd say they are tidy habits. It's not bad manners to leave your basket in a supermarket or plates on a table in a restaurant as there are servers there to clear up. Putting your chair back under a table or closing cupboards is basic common sense and should come naturally to most people. An open cupboard could cause someone to bang their head and a chair block people's way.

I wouldn't stack plates in a restaurant, although I would leave my knife and fork merkt, as well at the napkin. Also I wouldn't make the bed in a hotel (although I would leave it reasonably neat, so easy to make).

Don't get me started on people
who don't return trollies.

This

Don't stack the plates, it makes them harder to carry so they'll have to do more than one trip. Do the rest though.

I do all except the last one.
I do put the cups and plates back on the tray in M&S coffee shop because the people who work there use a tray to clear tables.

Yes apart from stacking plates

I tuck my chair in after use in a cafe or restaurant, but not at home. I usually only tuck it in once I’ve barged into it and sworn a few times😆 All those other ones, yes, including the plate stacking.

All apart from stacking plates. I do push them all to the edge of the table so they’re easier to collect. I see it as respect for other people’s time as why should they tidy up after me?

Mind you, I also strip the bed when I stay in a hotel which MN regards as ‘doing unpaid work’ but again takes me 5 minutes and that 5 minutes is worth much more to the cleaner than to me.

Yes all except the last one.

So many people forget that what we mostly called manners is simply not being kind to other people and not being selfish

Oops, I generally do the last one and I was a waitress for a long time when I was younger. I think it's a bit dependent on the table layout, so I do it if some seats are difficult to get to. Maybe I'll stop.

I would move something which is difficult for a server to reach, but I don’t stack.

I don't plate stack. I don't always close doors either, it depends on the context. I do the others.

Absolutely - manners are about other people feeling comfortable, which is why it's terribly impolite to point out someone's poor manners.

I don't stack plates. I kind of have drawer blindness though. I can walk past an open drawer and don't notice it.

I’m not sure those examples are ‘manners’, maybe the tucking the chair under the table but certainly none of the others. Stacking plates at the table in a restaurant is a big no no ‘manners’ wise.

I always stack plates. Twice I've been thanked by waiting staff as having good manners and asked if I worked in hospitality.

Customers stacking dishes was my pet hate as a waitress. People did all sorts, like stacking with napkins in between plates or cutlery between dishes and I hated it. Everyone has their own way.

I wouldn't describe those things as having manners (or not). It's just basic common sense to tidy up after yourself, imo.

I wouldn't stack plates at a restaurant though as it can make things harder.

I do all except stack plates, I think they're polite and good manners. I don't stack plates because I assume the waiter will have a preferred method, and quite honestly if I'm paying eg 50 quid each or more I'm sure they wouldn't expect me to. If I go to a cafe where food or drink comes on a tray I put everything back on the tray at the end.