To ask what bedtime for a ten year old should look like?

[Yelloworangetomato]

Aibu to ask what bedtime for a ten year old should look like? What time? What kind of routine is ideal.

I ask because all sense of normality has gone out of the window, it would be helpful to hear from others.

8.30pm

As for a routine, I'd probably aim for them to be up in their room in PJ's with teeth brushed by 8.15...maybe some quiet reading for 15 minutes. All kids are different but I'd expect and want them to be asleep before 9pm.

10 year olds need 9 - 11 hours sleep per day.

When dd was younger, I used to work out what time she needed to get up for school and work backwards - what time I wanted her to fall asleep, time for lights out, time to actually be in bed (allowing for time to read and chat), what time for bath time etc.

Mines nearly 8yo and i aim for. 8.30 but quite often not asleep by 9 these days

My 9 year old daughter is asleep by around 9pm and then awake for about 7am at school She is always very energetic and is a quick sleeper so always gets her 10 hours. We don't really bother to adjust this on weekends as she is always tired by about that time anyway.

Mine goes up at 8.30pm weekdays, 9pm weekends. Wash, teeth and PJs then 15 minutes of chatting with me or her dad and light goes off at 9pm/9.30pm.

How much supervision should be required at this stage? Is anyone reading to their 10 y/o

I was still reading to both 10 year olds. One gave up the bedtime story at about 12, the other carried on to 16.

Can’t remember times though.

I find this helpful
thesleepcharity.org.uk/how-much-sleep-does-my-child-need/

I don't read to my 9 year old, she is an independent reader and enjoys to do that herself. I have 3 older children who I never read for either.

She needs no supervision pretty much. She is capable of having a shower, brushing teeth, washing face and getting into pjs etc. all by herself and then we just say goodnight and tuck her in and maybe have a little chat if she's in the mood but mostly she just falls asleep

For mine it was always approx. 8.30pm with strict lights out by nine at the latest, and knly reading in bedroom ie no screens.
they would wake between 7 and 7.30am. On Friday and sat nights we would sometimes push it to 9.30 but Sunday nights were always shower and pjs around 8pm with lights out by 8.30 to reset for the week.

Depends what time they need to get up! I have 10 and 8. Assuming leaving house at 8.30am, like mine do.

Supper at 8, teeth and PJ's then I read til 8.45. 10 year old gets 15 mins or ill read another chapter if they prefer. We have clubs most nights so it's rarely earlier. They wake themselves between 7 -7.15 am.

I think it's fine to read to a 10yo. If bedtime is taking too long maybe try to start bedtime routine earlier.

I do have sympathy, mine has adhd and getting them to do anything at all the first 10 times i ask is a bloody nightmare. Id love to have them tucked into bed sleep by 8.15 but it isn't happening.

If you say why you've asked the question people might be able to suggest things to help?

I went to boarding school. Y7s had lights out at 8.30, which we laughed at at the time for being early, but I reckon 8.30 at age 10 is about right.

Reading it's up to you. My husband read with our daughter to age 14 but that was a choice, not required supervision.

In terms of supervision, just a quick kiss and hug but they would brush own teeth etc, I wish we'd kept reading together but they were independent readers by then and as we have a younger child we dropped it for them.

Yes I still occasionally read to them at that age. If they didn't want to do that, we would sometimes play top trumps or guess who before they went to sleep.

My 10 year old has a shower before dinner so is already in pyjamas. After dinner we have family time, TV, etc, and at 8.20-8.30pm I ask them to brush teeth and hop into bed. They read independently for 15-20 minutes and then off to sleep.

Mine still likes to be read to. We do that 19:45-20:15, then he has a shower and reads until 21:30.

My 11 year old goes up the stairs to bed at 715.

She brushes her teeth whilst we prep the story. One of us reads to her for about 20 mins or half an hour: lots of snuggles.

Lights out at 745/8 pm.

We are up at 6 for school.

Some late bedtimes here compared to ours!

Constant reminders to stay on task required to get mine through his bedtime shower. We still brush his teeth as his dexterity isn’t good enough. If he’s gotten ready quickly we might have a bit of time cuddled up on the sofa chatting or reading together. Once in bed I read to him for half an hour, then it’s lights out and I wait in bed with him until he falls asleep. Lights out is 10 hours before he has to get up for school.

Depends how much sleep they need and what time they have to get up. I work backwards from that them get him into the shower an hour before. Gives time for shower, teeth, reading, procrastinating etc.

I still read to my 11 year old but my 8 year old reads to himself. It's super kid dependent. Personally I wouldn't want to say no if she still wants me as I'm sure the window is closing!

Upstairs around 830 or so, lights out around 930. She doesn't sleep well so is up by 630 or so no matter what

For my 8 year old

PlayStation gets turned off and stays off from dinnertime. Dinner about 5.30/6

Bath at 6.30 and then into pyjamas and clean his teeth.

We do his reading book from school on the sofa and then he can have another story if he wants, bed about 8. At weekends we sometimes have a movie night.

We read together pretty much every day. Sometimes me to him, sometimes alternate pages. If we didn't do that he wouldn't really read by himself for enjoyment and I love that time together.

That seems really early to me.

Also, just curious - what does 'prep the story mean' ?