To ask if there are certain “red flag” AIBU topics which you avoid?

[Thepeopleversuswork]

I know, without having to open them, that I will be bored or irritated by threads about:

• Parking (why do people find this interesting?)
• Anything involving a diagram
• Anything describing someone in the thread title as a narcissist
• Anything about Brexit
• Any thread in which someone describes themselves as “fuming” (or fumming)
• Weddings or hen nights. Discussion about the etiquette of having children at weddings makes me want to put myself in front of a firing squad
• Most of the trans related threads (though I think there are some important discussions)

I normally open them anyway 🤣. Anyone else?

Yes! These are the ones I hate. Often a good dose of ‘YOU’RE his family now’ as a good reason why OP’s partner should become just as insular and isolated.

Ugh breast vs formula feeding ones. They're so fucking judgemental and horrible

Things that are clearly posted because people want to “spread the word” , probably even made up for this reason or blown out of proportion. Can be anything transrelated or political. Subjects that do deserve a decent discussion, but not like this in AIBU.

Israel / Palestine

It is many things, but it’s not simple.

A bit like discussions relating to trans people really.

I tend to avoid them both because people on all sides get upset at the suggestion of any nuance or complexity.

Car seats, especially if it involves a child under age 8 who is not ERF.

The multiple 'I hate dogs' threads.
I actually got to the point I was nervous taking my two springers out as I was convinced 99% of the population hated them!
In reality most people want to fuss and stroke them, I have a friend who really doesn't like them but she is in the minority.

Yea these people need to piss off. I genuinely think that others judgement plays a big role in PND and anxiety

Yep 100%

The multiple 'I hate dogs' threads.

I also find this totally hysterical and bizarre.

Understand people not wanting dogs imposed on them but do not get the level of vitriol. So unnecessary.

Any post that starts with “changed my username for this and can’t share too many details as otherwise too outing” and then expects us to be mind-readers.

All the "Can I afford a 10p mortgage when I only earn £2000000?" or similar threads.

Also the inheritance ones they are so horrible or the ones where people are upset their parents haven't given them money to buy a house.

The ones where people are upset because they expect family members to look after their children (often without this being agreed) and are then resentful when they can't/won't.

Also all the cleaning, how often do you wash ones.

Anything involving poo or farts

Anything involving a 'comment' or 'remark' made by a third party

I mainly like S&B. I feel sad on all the threads on women dating losers/ 🚩/having no standards and then end up having kids with them 🤐

Anything where the opening posts mentions the words
Triggering
Neurodiverse
ADHD
Should I eat this?
Baby names
Hubby

These are my favourite threads.

Except Brexit and trans ones.

Although Mumsnet totally changed my views on trans.

Competitive cleaning ones are awful

I always appreciate when someone's gone to the effort of a diagram

Yes. Or: “How do people afford xxx?”

Well, obviously they have more money than you do?

‘Does this sound like ADHD/austism/other medical condition’ threads

Any brexit threads, they were tiresome at the time. Just let it go now.

Anything MIL related. Usually it's a petty complaint, like MIL won't respect my boundaries because she gave my DC a chocolate biscuit 🙄

Anything about "mental load". It's just called life! We all have to do it. Stop complaining.

A more niche one is that I don't like the advice on the alcohol boards or dry threads that come up here, encouraging people to stop drinking cold turkey. Dependant on the level of alcohol (which is lower than people think) it's bloody dangerous! I can't read those as I get angry at the recklessness.

Royal family ones, particularly Meghan and Harry
MiL ones
SAHM ones, always smug corporate types who love saying how they brought up their ten children without any help and do all the housework and family admin and why can't everyone else and SAHM should simultaneously genuflect to their husbands and work 24/7 in the home
Political scandal ones when it's about someone using paperclips for personal use or something equally pathetic
Tax ones where people with loads of money want to avoid paying any tax on it.

Parking ones I often enjoy, as well as wedding ones. And I've learned a lot from the doormat ones about how not to be one.

I've lost count of the categories I have hidden.

Anything really serious or to do with health, or mental health. AIBU should be fun, lighthearted, not too serious (as in you don’t mind a bit of a ribbing/sarcasm).

Anything about ‘gaslighting’…there are a lot of people who a) use this incorrectly and b) don’t seem to appreciate that being a dick doesn’t need a special name to be bad.

Grey rocking

And parking/neighbour ones are boring to me.

Any form of seasonal moaning - Halloween, Christmas, Bonfire night, kids playing outside in summer, the fact that, shock horror, it starts to get cold in autumn. Bore off!