To feel slightly suspicious of dp

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Hi, I'm looking to know would YOU be suspicious? I'm not really suspicious but maybe a bit slightly?

So, dp works for his dads business and has for the last 10 years. Dp doesn't start work until 9. Usually he would set an alarm for 8:30 which sounds really late but his workplace is a 2 minute drive from our home. And he's really easy going 🤣. His dad doesn't drive but a workmate would always collect him.

About a month ago dp started setting alarms at 6.45-7:15 getting up and leaving the house within 10 mins of those alarms. (Extremely early from before) I've been with dp 5 years he's never up that early for work.

He says it's because he's starting to give his dad a lift to work every morning. His mum and dad live a 5 minute drive from our home. That's not too suspicious. But the thing that's making me go 🤨 is he's leaving home in the mornings in his normal clothes. He says he gets ready in his parents house just before he leaves for work as it's easier?

He has a specific work uniform. He would always get ready here before leaving.

So he's started leaving the house over an hour earlier than usual and not getting ready here?

Would you be suspicious?

You wouldn't have got the eye roll if you hadn't defended your theory.

OK. So. Anymore updates? I'm investing now and wished I hadn't seen this until tomorrow 😩

Oh god, I feel sick, the same sick as I felt when I saw a message on my exs phone that I wish I hadn't seen 😞 I hope there is a reason that's not an affair 😔

Same, I keep refreshing, I’m so confused and intrigued!

Me too!

It might sound daft but do you think he could be getting a McDonald's breakfast? An addiction to junk food?
Maybe he tried it once and loved it.
Told you it sounded daft!

Did you ask to speak to you OH?

Oh god, I feel sick, the same sick as I felt when I saw a message on my exs phone that I wish I hadn't seen 😞 I hope there is a reason that's not an affair 😔

Not daft at all. I hide my love of mcdonalds from other half. It's the only secret I have. I always feel so bold when I eat a sneaky sausage mcmuffin

Did his dad say he was at work or not?

It does sound suspicious. So he's not an early bird but all of a sudden he is leaving the house to collect his dad an hour and a half before the work starts. Unless he wants to spend some time with his parents before work...

Any chance at all he could have lost his job, one that doesn’t involve a uniform, started a new one with much earlier hours, been too worried/ashamed to tell you?

Are you my long lost identical twin? If not, you should be!

why can’t OP ask him outright “why are you going to your parents house so soon and dressed as though you’re going on a date, complete with a £400 watch then changing into your work clothes?”
Im starting to think we’ve all be had 🤷🏼‍♀️

I’m starting to think the same …

Didn’t op say she had? He says he has to leave early to collect his dad and he laughs at her and calls her crazy.

Well he's not collecting his Dad, as Dad was at work & the car was still outside his house.
I would stop trying to prove anything.
I would tell him to stay at his parents from now on as something is up, & he is lying about the lifts & lying by omission & you are not playing.

I understand the desire for proof but I would push past the bullshit about how he's going to work and you're crazy, to say you know he's lying about something and you're going to proceed on the basis that it's bad enough to be marriage-ending.

Follow him or have him followed.

Alternatively talk to him!

I think it's highly suspicious esp the over affection....

Your last post is gutting OP. Whatever you have found that is painful, I’m so sorry. Look after yourself well. If you’ve had a big shock, just keep trying to look after your body the best you can, keep hydrated - and try and eat - sip water, regular small snacks if you can’t eat, keep breathing and lean in those you trust. Good luck 💐

We know it's two minutes' drive from the OP's house to the DP's workplace. We don't know how far it is from OP's house to the in laws' house, do we? and then how far from there to the workplace?

I feel if I knew this I could channel my inner Ludwig and come up with the answer to the problem.

It can't be far surely, I'd be suggesting they should walk, so that'd put pay to any shenanigans.

His dad answering the work line also doesn't tell you anything, maybe he is there and busy. You/friend should have specifically asked to speak with him.
maybe the ‘this is painful’ is they did exactly that and he isnt there.

need to confront him OP and tell him you don’t believe him and see what he says…

enough detective work has proven he is not being honest with you!

Hi, what makes you think it is made up? I'm interested what the red flags are you spotted