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Baby shower guests

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dec20 · 23/09/2024 23:17

My sisters planning my baby shower and has asked me who I'd like to invite.

My fiancés friend has had a girlfriend now for almost a year. I've met her a handful of times and not the biggest fan. Every time I've seen her she's never asked how I am, and I always find it difficult to make conversation with her. I feel a bit pressured to invite her as my best friend invited the friends girlfriend to hers.

What would you do?

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Silvertulips · 23/09/2024 23:18

Not have a baby shower?

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Pandasnacks · 23/09/2024 23:21

I don't get it, what does your best friend inviting the guys girlfriend to her house, have to do with the guest list for the baby shower your sister is organising for you? She's not a friend, and most people don't like baby showers anyway so just don't invite her.

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dec20 · 23/09/2024 23:26

Silvertulips · 23/09/2024 23:18

Not have a baby shower?

lol not have a baby shower just so I don't invite one person 🤣??

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dec20 · 23/09/2024 23:27

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Yikes

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dec20 · 23/09/2024 23:28

Pandasnacks · 23/09/2024 23:21

I don't get it, what does your best friend inviting the guys girlfriend to her house, have to do with the guest list for the baby shower your sister is organising for you? She's not a friend, and most people don't like baby showers anyway so just don't invite her.

No my best friend invited her to her baby shower! I don't want to upset anyone but wouldn't enjoy her being there Blush

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PolePrince55 · 23/09/2024 23:28

I won't be having a baby shower or gender reveal. 🤮🤮🤮

Lazzylegs · 23/09/2024 23:29

I see you're already getting the dickhead responses 🤣

PolePrince55 · 23/09/2024 23:30

Just let her go.
Maybe she's misunderstood! Have you ever asked her how she is?

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Montydone · 23/09/2024 23:31

Only invite people you feel comfortable with; who you can be yourself around; who you might want to be involved in baby’s life!

If you wouldn’t enjoy them being there, that is more than enough of a reason

Pandasnacks · 23/09/2024 23:31

Your best friend invited her to her baby shower... again what's that got to do with you? Just don't invite her!

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dec20 · 23/09/2024 23:31

PolePrince55 · 23/09/2024 23:30

Just let her go.
Maybe she's misunderstood! Have you ever asked her how she is?

Constantly asking her questions to get to know her and her responses are always one sided! 🙈

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dec20 · 23/09/2024 23:31

Lazzylegs · 23/09/2024 23:29

I see you're already getting the dickhead responses 🤣

Honestly 😂😂

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Diamond345 · 23/09/2024 23:32

@dec20 difficult one, id say don't invite her if you don't know her that well & dislike her. Id only invite close friends and family to my baby shower.

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dec20 · 23/09/2024 23:32

Montydone · 23/09/2024 23:31

Only invite people you feel comfortable with; who you can be yourself around; who you might want to be involved in baby’s life!

If you wouldn’t enjoy them being there, that is more than enough of a reason

Thank you

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KitsyWitsy · 23/09/2024 23:32

I think baby showers are lovely. Nice to make a fuss of a mum to be. I hope you enjoy it OP.

PolePrince55 · 23/09/2024 23:32

@dec20
What would make you feel worse, inviting her or not inviting her!
It's your baby shower, I'm done with people pleasing. Don't get you anywhere & is not appreciated.
Just do what makes you happy x

cheeeesey · 23/09/2024 23:33

Why would you invite her to shower you with gifts when you don't even like her? Confused

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dec20 · 23/09/2024 23:34

cheeeesey · 23/09/2024 23:33

Why would you invite her to shower you with gifts when you don't even like her? Confused

It's not about gifts to me, it's about spending time with all my loved ones to celebrate baby and having a nice time Smile

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Normandy144 · 23/09/2024 23:34

Don't invite her. Just keep it to close friends and family and keep it intimate.

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dec20 · 23/09/2024 23:35

KitsyWitsy · 23/09/2024 23:32

I think baby showers are lovely. Nice to make a fuss of a mum to be. I hope you enjoy it OP.

Thank you. First baby so I am looking forward 🥰

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NewName24 · 23/09/2024 23:35

Pandasnacks · 23/09/2024 23:21

I don't get it, what does your best friend inviting the guys girlfriend to her house, have to do with the guest list for the baby shower your sister is organising for you? She's not a friend, and most people don't like baby showers anyway so just don't invite her.

This (whatever the detail of the sister / friend).

Whatever you are hosting, you invite people you like and are close to. It is irrelevant who has been invited to a completely separate 'do' by someone else.

Lazzylegs · 23/09/2024 23:35

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Or the ones saying don't have a baby shower they are tacky. As if that's what the OP asked. So no mine isn't a dickhead response at all, I wouldn't answer a completely different question to what the OP asked because I'm not a dickhead.

Babycatsmummy · 23/09/2024 23:36

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My partner organised a surprise baby shower for me, helped by my best friend and it was lovely. Definitely not "tacky" at all being surrounded by friends and family celebrating my first baby was a sentimental experience