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What's your job and is it stressful?

202 replies

FlippertyFlopperty · 23/09/2024 07:46

I am stressed to high heaven with mine. I think it might be time for a change. What is your role and how stressful is it?

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useitorlose · 24/09/2024 14:22

Assistant Principal in a premium international school. I don't know if stressful is the right word, but the workload is manic. At least the salary matches the demands made.

whiteremote · 24/09/2024 14:40

Private lawyer for a family. Very stressful. Also very flexible. So I work fourteen hours a day but it is completely up to me which fourteen hours I work...

blackrabbitwhiterabbit · 24/09/2024 14:42

Teacher - yes- incredibly

blackrabbitwhiterabbit · 24/09/2024 14:48

Magpiecomplex · 23/09/2024 18:21

FE and HE lecturer (mostly FE, same place for both). It's brutal.

Same . Brutal is the only word.

LouH1981 · 24/09/2024 14:53

I am a dog groomer. I love it. I left law (for various reasons including stress) to start my own dog grooming business. So in comparison it isn’t stressful at all and the dogs are far nicer than my previous clients.
I sometimes get anxious if I am grooming a new dog but I am an anxious person so this isn’t surprising!
If you can afford a change then do it because life is too short 👍🏻

Holidayshopping · 24/09/2024 14:55

A frustration is that education settings are not necessarily inclusive or want to be inclusive. Inclusion does not always have a financial element to it

As a SENCo who knows a large number of other sencos, I don’t think it’s anything to do with schools not wanting to be inclusive. Schools are incredibly inclusive but it nearly always does boil down to money.

When you are directed to take a non-verbal, extremely physical pupil, in nappies, who is working developmentally at the level of an 18m old into a year 2 class, but only provide enough funding for them to have a 1:1 for 10 hours a week, then of course it is a financial issue.

LouH1981 · 24/09/2024 14:57

Eileen101 · 24/09/2024 14:19

Solicitor, yes. I'm 37 and not sure I can do this until I retire....

You’ve done well! I applaud you because I only managed until I was 32. Then I started my own dog grooming business. Far less money but the anxiety was eating me alive xx

CharlieRight · 24/09/2024 15:12

Metallurgist by training. GM of a foundry now. Taking on all of the new responsibilities from technical director was mind blowing but things are going well. The biggest stress is the guilt of balancing home and work feels like I’m falling behind on both fronts. In my earlier career I worked with an exceptional GM and she taught me a lot, which I’m drawing on now

ElsaLion · 24/09/2024 15:13

WhitegreeNcandle · 23/09/2024 21:09

Farmer. Incredibly stressful as so many things are out of our control. The weather. The price we’re paid. If our staff go sick there’s no one else to help except us. Electric problems in the middle of the night. Activists if you’re a livestock farmers. Hare coursing if you’re not. The relentlessness of 365 days a year 7 days a week. Holidays interrupted.

BUT it’s the best place to bring up a family, I’m part of feeding the nation, I care for the land that generations have before me and will after me. Feeling a part of nature and seeing the most amazing sunsets.

I take my hat off to you and everyone who works in farming, especially at the current time when it seems the government are actively trying to undermine and restrict farmers, instead of giving them the credit and slack they deserve.

TheAquaMentor · 24/09/2024 17:53

I'm a volunteer therapist with a veteran's PTSD mental health charity, I also do the networking promoting the organisation , it can get stressfull

Helena39 · 24/09/2024 18:04

HR Advisor for a charity. Not stressful but challenging and I love it.

BevMaker · 24/09/2024 18:05

I work for a major international airline as cabin crew. I took VR 4 years ago (well, pretty much forced out plus my mum was dying )
decided to go back to it 2 years ago and it has changed beyond all recognition. Fortunately I’m only part time but the way rosters are built now is absurd and actually dangerous. First time in 26 years I’ve actually had to go fatigued due to constant delays and minimal days off…

Habbadab · 24/09/2024 18:09

Hospital doctor.
Can be extremely stressful.
(The early part of the Covid pandemic lives in my head in a box I try not to open).
But mainly, an absolute privilege.

StuckHurtDone · 24/09/2024 18:26

CosmoMango · 23/09/2024 08:49

im a vet and it’s so stressful. I genuinely feel like my life isn’t worth living at the moment so I’m doing my best to get out

Oh my this breaks my heart. I have worked in veterinary practice for 10+years, and I feel the stress, but my vets and nurses have way more stress than me; and this is what hurts! You are all wonderful and work so hard. Your heart and souls goes into every case. You deserve way more credit than you get 💕

Mumteedum · 24/09/2024 18:35

Mumteedum · 23/09/2024 19:55

I'd love to know what role you do. Our admin team are poorly paid and stressed. Library staff seem the happiest perhaps.

I'm a senior lecturer. Highly stressful Althea with the occasional lull ( though I have healing issues which doesn't help).

God typos. Health issues not healing 🙈 Healing would be nice 🙂

Mammyloveswine · 24/09/2024 18:36

I'm a senior leader in a small primary school so teach full time alongside extensive leadership roles including sendco, safeguarding lead and behaviour. Very stressful!

Mary46 · 24/09/2024 18:40

I do bus escort help kids on bus. Meet driver later then for pickups. Yes I enjoy it. Got tired office work and endless emails and filing lol

ThatAgileLimeCat · 24/09/2024 19:10

Business development..public sector bidding. Very stressful due to deadlines and unrealistic commissioner and employer expectations. Long hours but also flexible and remote and good career progression. Pay is good (but not high in MN terms).

Flozle · 24/09/2024 19:26

Idratherbepaddleboarding · 23/09/2024 15:46

I’m a Probation Officer and yes it’s really stressful! Particularly now due to all these early release schemes. Our caseloads are farrrr beyond what they should be and you live in fear of someone committing a serious further offence or dying. A lot of my colleagues have had to take on extra jobs due to the cost of living and I genuinely don’t know how they do it!

Also a probation officer. Workload has pretty much doubled in the last twelve months. The timescales for completing tasks are getting tighter. Colleagues are on their knees with stress.

Arcadia · 24/09/2024 19:37

4YellowDaffodils · 23/09/2024 09:01

I used to be a family law solicitor. I hated it beyond measure.

Now I am a temp for an agency. I do whatever looks interesting. Currently I am working on a 3 month charity project. Previously I have done exam invigilation, or reception work for a few weeks or Christmas cover in a shop. I love it. I pick and choose what I want to do and I don't have to care too much or take my work home emotionally.

The pay is shit though and I need to figure out how to sort my pension. But I am relatively stress free.

ETA because I said I did reception for a year - jus t a brain fart.

Edited

@4YellowDaffodils I'm a family solicitor and have recently gone from employment to self-employment, where I'm a consultant. I've doubled my pay and halved my workload! No stressful targets or politics either. The nature of the work is still stressful though, and lots of distressed and angry people.
I'm kind of addicted to it though!
I'd find something else to be stressed about if it wasn't work.

MinnieMountain · 24/09/2024 19:44

Title lawyer at a conveyancing firm. Not stressful as I don’t have my own files.

Ilovelurchers · 24/09/2024 19:57

Middle management in a large secondary school. I love it and wouldn't say it is stressful generally, tho it has it's moments, but that is true of all jobs I think. Even if you were a cake taster, there would be days when it was your least favourite cake you had to taste......

Horsemum40 · 24/09/2024 20:05

Used to be full time nursing for nhs. Found I was hating it and stressed all the time but the team are fab. Covid didn't help, it was a horrible time! I'm still doing one shift a week and 4 days with top level competition horses. (I've spent my life around horses and have 4 of my own) Love having the best of both worlds now! The horse job is busy but not really stressful 🙃

Stardustmoon · 24/09/2024 20:11

Teacher and stressed. Buuuut I love it. I love that everyday is different. Love my colleagues and management.

TheGoddessMinerva · 24/09/2024 20:15

I’m an engineer on a big infrastructure project. It is massively stressful, and I love it.