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What's your job and is it stressful?

202 replies

FlippertyFlopperty · 23/09/2024 07:46

I am stressed to high heaven with mine. I think it might be time for a change. What is your role and how stressful is it?

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BeatsAntique · 23/09/2024 20:29

Political Advisor. Extremely. But I love it.

Gianne · 23/09/2024 20:31

Mumteedum · 23/09/2024 19:55

I'd love to know what role you do. Our admin team are poorly paid and stressed. Library staff seem the happiest perhaps.

I'm a senior lecturer. Highly stressful Althea with the occasional lull ( though I have healing issues which doesn't help).

I'm similar to the previous poster, I'm qualified to teach but my previous and current roles come under support staff as I earn more than the lecturers with no stress, flexible hours and no requirement to work outside normal hours.
It's good as I still get the holidays so don't to pay for nursery outside term-time which is helpful!

Goldenmemories · 23/09/2024 20:33

Primary school teacher in a naice school. Stressful +++++ but I love it.

GonnaBeYoniThisChristmas · 23/09/2024 20:36

I’m a lawyer working in house. It’s stressful - short deadlines, difficult people, mistakes get made and need to be fixed.

But I have learned to manage stress by focussing on two things: (1) no one’s going to die and (2) is anyone else around here stepping up to do a much better job at this task than me? The answer (in my job) is always no. So crack on and do your best.

Hats off to all whose jobs involve real life impact on real life people eg nurses, doctors, teachers, homeless charity. That I would find really stressful.

timetodecide2345 · 23/09/2024 20:37

I'm a senior lecturer in a RG university. I have a slightly odd role in an area that I've developed and that generates income so people tend to leave me to get on with my own stuff. I manage my own time and my own workload and that's just the way I like it.

Edizzler25 · 23/09/2024 20:39

LoobyDoop2 · 23/09/2024 13:17

Project Manager for a large household name company. Very stressful, because the directors I answer to are completely unrealistic in what they expect to be delivered, and just don’t hear bad news. So I’m caught between a leadership team who pile on constant pressure to achieve the unachievable, a project team who are utterly burnt out and demoralised because it’s been like this for years, and a bunch of stakeholders who know that absolutely nothing is going to happen or change, but are happy to hold me responsible because there’s no point saying anything to the bosses, and having a go at me at least ticks a Doing Something box.

I’m a project manager too in private sector and this literally describes my job to a tee. Solidarity to you! Not sure if I will stay on this career path after mat leave no 2.

Iwouldratherbemuckingout · 23/09/2024 21:01

Public sector CEO. Yes, very stressful!

Ap42 · 23/09/2024 21:02

I'm a nurse, I work with a brillant team. Also a single parent, so I'm juggling 2 children too. I love it, and although the hours are long I work part time, so only at work 2 days a week. It's perfect work/life balance. But full on and stressful.

JennyForeigner · 23/09/2024 21:04

GonnaBeYoniThisChristmas · 23/09/2024 20:36

I’m a lawyer working in house. It’s stressful - short deadlines, difficult people, mistakes get made and need to be fixed.

But I have learned to manage stress by focussing on two things: (1) no one’s going to die and (2) is anyone else around here stepping up to do a much better job at this task than me? The answer (in my job) is always no. So crack on and do your best.

Hats off to all whose jobs involve real life impact on real life people eg nurses, doctors, teachers, homeless charity. That I would find really stressful.

Love this about no-one else stepping up to do a better job. Good for you.

samlovesdilys · 23/09/2024 21:06

Teaching. Yes.

LaurieFairyCake · 23/09/2024 21:07

Camhs. Yes
Children trying to kill themselves is always going to be a bit tense

Frenzi · 23/09/2024 21:08

Patient Services Manager at a GP surgery.

I love my job but the stress is horrendous.

WhitegreeNcandle · 23/09/2024 21:09

Farmer. Incredibly stressful as so many things are out of our control. The weather. The price we’re paid. If our staff go sick there’s no one else to help except us. Electric problems in the middle of the night. Activists if you’re a livestock farmers. Hare coursing if you’re not. The relentlessness of 365 days a year 7 days a week. Holidays interrupted.

BUT it’s the best place to bring up a family, I’m part of feeding the nation, I care for the land that generations have before me and will after me. Feeling a part of nature and seeing the most amazing sunsets.

BoxOfCards · 23/09/2024 21:16

I work in publishing for a highly specialised trade publication. So researching, writing & editing content.

Odd days here and there can be stressful but on the whole it’s fine. That’s mainly because my current colleagues are great.

(However my previous manager was awful and I was very very stressed - I was literally on the verge of leaving when ex manager left and meant I didn’t have to!)

worth adding that I only have the expertise required to do this job because I’ve spent almost 25 years studying and working in this area, and some of my previous jobs were very stressful (ended up on anxiety medication at one stage). So yes I have it easier now but it was a long road to get here.

BoxOfCards · 23/09/2024 21:17

But I have learned to manage stress by focussing on two things: (1) no one’s going to die and (2) is anyone else around here stepping up to do a much better job at this task than me? The answer (in my job) is always no. So crack on and do your best

I also have a similar philosophy to this

BlueEyedLeucy · 23/09/2024 21:20

Structural engineer in private sector consultancy. Not too stressful unless it’s a deadline week!

Auburngal · 23/09/2024 21:23

Working for a supermarket which I will be leaving next week after almost 17 years (the 17th anniversary would be 22nd). I am mainly work on the shop floor but help out on checkouts/kiosk.

It's so stressful because of:
. Short staffed
. Bully store manager. I will be the 11th colleague to leave under him. Not counting colleagues who left due to going to uni as 2 of the 3 got roles in stores in their uni town. Various colleagues have raised grievances but NFA. He did make a similar ratio of staff leave under his management in previous store manager roles due to his behaviour. So why on earth have the supermarket chain decided to keep him?
. Rude/impatient customers
. Customers who try to pull wool over our eyes. Had a woman on Saturday who tried to return an item bought from Primark and put one of our price tags on it. Plus the thing was on the price tag, it said green when the item was black. Besides a basic t-shirt from Primark won't be £16! She caused a scene and security guard who did stints in Primark recognised the brand and asked her to leave. Also when the PS4 was released, had a customer try to return it but I opened the box and there was a PS3 in there. He said that was a PS4. No it's not as the console has PS3 emblazoned on the top. He was banned. Store manager at the time emailed stores in a 50 mile radius not to refund him.
. Head office stupid procedures which won't work for our store

Then minor issues
. Customers who 'claim' to buy a certain item most weeks from the store, when we haven't had it in for many years
. Customers who 'claim' that we keep moving the eggs. No they have been in the same place for 15 years!
. Customers who keep dumping stuff everywhere. THEY picked it up THEY changed their minds therefore THEY should put it back where THEY picked it from. It's annoying when they put fresh in frozen, frozen in fresh, greetings card in the rice etc. The first two we have to dispose of as damaged.
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USaYwHatNow · 23/09/2024 21:23

Midwife Non clinical Matron and yes at the moment I'm accountable for a national agenda at our maternity unit.

MurdoMunro · 23/09/2024 21:28

Public sector, technical specialist, I’m not going to define it too closely as there aren’t many of us. Incredibly busy due to some recent legal and regulation changes and there’s just too much work flying in to get it all done. But I don’t feel stressed. I work in a team of good people each with their own specialisms, we’re all in the same boat and have a great service lead. We just get on with it the best we can. I think we have a lot of strength in being specialist, required for statutory duties, rare and hard to replace and that helps a lot.

ChorizoDog · 23/09/2024 21:34

I have been covering another role for almost a year. When I was asked to do it, I jumped at the chance. Aside from the pay rise I was really relishing doing something new.

In reality, I think I've crossed my line of work / life balance. It looks as though the person I am covering for will not be coming back and now I’m contemplating whether I want it permanently. Not sure I could go back now. I'd be bored in my old role and I've got used to the money, but I know that at least for now, I wouldn't want to go further up this chain.

I always thought I'd automatically want to progress, but this has definitely changed my perspective.

Goinggreymammy · 23/09/2024 21:37

Primary school teacher, teaching 5/6 Yr olds. It's busy when I'm at work, non-stop really and im always physically and mentally exhausted at the end of a day, and I have a good bit extra prep etc to do which I'd tricky with my own children to mind, but I wouldn't say it's stressful as such.
However, I do jobshare so only teach part time.

Newmumburnout · 23/09/2024 21:39

Financial underwriter, WFH 4 days pw. I do not find it stressful

Goinggreymammy · 23/09/2024 21:46

Goldenmemories · 23/09/2024 20:33

Primary school teacher in a naice school. Stressful +++++ but I love it.

I'm also a primary school teacher. (Disclaimer ... in Ireland). I think it's incredibly busy and exhausting with a big workload but I wouldn't say it stresses me out though. I've been qualified for going on 30 years (eek , only just realised that) though, and worked in other sectors of education, so am very confident in my professional ability, so maybe that helps. What do you find so stressful?

Kw1234hhggf · 23/09/2024 21:51

Finance and HR director in education. Yes I find it really stressful. Though i’m completely over-invested in my job, feel very personally associated with the establishment, and burden myself with too much overall responsibility without delegating properly…the dept is understaffed so I take on more than I should without complaining…so in the words of Taylor Swift ‘hey! It’s me, I’m the problem it’s me’ 😂

RedHelenB · 23/09/2024 21:52

catlovingdoctor · 23/09/2024 18:35

Dentist. Yes, very.

What sort of dentist?