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Neighbour kicked my door down/broke in

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Sparklfairy · 22/09/2024 20:51

AIBU to expect the police to arrest/remove him...?

I live alone in a flat in a block of 4. I have met this neighbour just once, and introduced myself. A few weeks ago he knocked on my door, not threateningly, but persistently - consistent knocking for 3-4 minutes... at 1.30am. I was awake as I WFH but nights, and just ignored it.

He went away, and there's been nothing since. Until yesterday at 6-something in the morning. Again, I was working but the flat was in total silence. No tv or any noise that would disturb him, I was literally just sitting on my bed.

Suddenly I heard a bang and froze. I was confused and didn't know what it was and was trying to work out where it was coming from. 3 or 4 further bangs and my front door burst open and he was stood there, swaying, glassy eyed.

I screamed. It's a studio, tiny flat, like one of those micro flats that you see advertised but yes, this is my life and I had no escape, no room to hide in, not even a bathroom with a lock on the door (as there is no lock, and the bathroom is opposite the front door).

I screamed at him, he said I was 'in' his head, fucking with his head (when I've done absolutely nothing), and when he tried to step towards me I screamed again and he suddenly 'clicked', became lucid and said ok and left. I was shaking.

My other neighbour (upstairs, but next door to him), texted me saying he heard screaming, and let me take refuge in his flat. Before I did, I obviously called 999. The police seemed non committal, that someone would come out at some point. 36 hours later I've had no visit.

But here is the kicker. When hiding in my neighbours flat, my friend/neighbour had the bright idea of just knocking on his door and talking to crazy tenant. He has recorded the conversation where crazy tenant admits I did nothing wrong but I just 'remind him' of someone and that's why he broke my door down

I rang 101 with the crime ref to update. The lady was so helpful and checked with her supervisor as she was astonished no one had come out to me yet. She reassured me that someone would attend and it had been miscategorised/recategorised now.

It's now nearly 9pm on Sunday and STILL nothing. I can't go home. The lock has been 'fixed' but obviously Crazy Tenant has proven that he can break it whenever he likes. I live alone. I have stressed every single detail which should have escalated this, but nothing is being done. I have chased with the letting agent but basically they're saying I have to wait until Monday for any action to be done. And even then, they were non committal as to WHAT would happen.

So I'm stuck, and cannot go home, and my rent is due today. I have no idea what to do.

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PsychoHotSauce · 30/09/2024 14:42

What about the police OP? Have they responded yet?

Sparklfairy · 30/09/2024 15:41

PsychoHotSauce · 30/09/2024 14:42

What about the police OP? Have they responded yet?

No they haven't. And I'm annoyed at them too. Because it could have gone a very different way.

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Zimunya · 30/09/2024 16:09

@Sparklfairy - I don't have anything useful to add, but I just wanedto say that I am so sorry to hear about your experience, and the awful response from both the agent and the police. You deserve to live in safety, and I'm so sorry this isn't happening for you right now.

Sparklfairy · 30/09/2024 16:36

Zimunya · 30/09/2024 16:09

@Sparklfairy - I don't have anything useful to add, but I just wanedto say that I am so sorry to hear about your experience, and the awful response from both the agent and the police. You deserve to live in safety, and I'm so sorry this isn't happening for you right now.

Thank you. I really appreciate that.

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PsychoHotSauce · 30/09/2024 16:59

So you've been awake 24/25 hours now?

Autumnismyfavouritetimeofyear · 30/09/2024 18:46

I think it is time to go to councillor or MP - enough is enough. The police are supposed to be up on this stuff after Reneems law - its way over due for them to be responding. This should not be your problem to resolve - there are so many other agencies here who need to step up. So sorry you are still in the middle of this.

ShouldIGoHigher · 30/09/2024 21:29

OP I really think you need to move.

You've had trauma in this building now so may never feel truly safe.

Also due to the flat belonging to a charity and the housing crisis you may now get all sorts of people coming and going in that flat. If it's temporary then you can never truly relax as you don't know who's going to be in their next.

Seriously, move!

PsychoHotSauce · 01/10/2024 07:42

I hope you got some sleep. I'm not sure you need to move though. All that upheaval when presumably you're otherwise happy, and the expense... why should you?!

Cazareeto1 · 04/10/2024 08:58

kittensinthekitchen · 25/09/2024 12:41

An emergency? Yes, I think that's why the OP said "Before I did, I obviously called 999."

It is still an emergency is what I am saying the man is unhinged and if he was willing to break in to her flat once because he thought she was in his head…. The man is likely has schizophrenia, having paranoid delusions, clearly unmedicated, which is highly likely he will do again to her or someone else until his condition is under control so yes it’s an on going emergency which should still be treated as an emergency. Mental health team should have been called by the police to have him assessed but clearly they are not doing their job correctly. The OP should have told the police where she was, that was extremely stupid. As they would have came out to see her at the location and would have seen how terrified she was that she left her home! That is an emergency, but due to her doing that they won’t take if seriously now or in the future on this unfortunately. Which they did not take the correct actions breaking and entering should have had police out that night that is negligence on the police’s part.
my point being until the man is mentally assessed he is an on going danger to everyone around him including strangers which is a reason for an new emergency call. If she hadn’t woke up this could have been something we read in the news..
and could potentially be a future far worse outcome

Merida46 · 22/04/2025 00:55

Get yourself one of these Maglite torches. This one takes four D Size batteries and if Duracell alkaline batteries are used it is quite heavy. Shine it straight in the face of any attacker and it will have them stumbling around in the dark. It can also be used to rap an attacker over the head, once only please!😉

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