To ask son to reduce water consumption

[VestPantsandSocks]

My adult son leaves the water running whilst shampooing his hair and soaping himself during his 20 minute shower.

AIBU to ask him to switch off the water at these times?

The cost of metered water and electricity would be around £41.67 per month for a 20 min shower. You want him to reduce that to what exactly? Can you ask him for £42 rent instead each month to ensure you're covered?

It's not about the money.

It's the lack of respect for a precious resource that we are lucky enough to have.

Theres nothing wrong with any adult household members sharing the utilities.

If that is what OP is upset about, she should be asking for money for bills anyway regardless of the length of shower

That's how you feel, guess he doesn't feel the same, and you can't force him to care about the same things as you.

We rarely have water shortages in this country so I don't see the issue.

You may have that opinion, but not everyone else does, probably including your son - let him have his shower and stop timing it.

Continue the conversations to maybe organise a contribution to the water cost if you want to but otherwise just let him be.

Water is not a precious resource in the UK, water companies may tell you that because they wont want to spend share holder pension money on diverting money from wetter areas to dryer areas.

Focus your outrage and energies on the scandal that is privatised water.

Misbehaving? Are you a 17th century Puritan? 😂

Water isn't a finite resource. If you want to blame someone for its cost and scarcity, blame the rapacious private water companies, not your poor son who just wants to have a bloody wash in peace.

@SunsetSkylane Yes, but as an adult living in the OP’s house without contributing to the bills, it’s not unreasonable for him to respect the OP’s opinions. If she’d prefer him to take shorter showers, it’s not an unreasonable request. If it’s important to him, perhaps he can offer to pay part of the bill.

not contributing to bills, either he shuts the water off or starts paying the water bill.

Male, 20 minute shower = wank time. If he turned the water off you might hear him!

You not using water doesn’t make it available for someone living in a desert.

That’s not how it works.

You can if he's living in your house not paying a penny. If he feels so strongly for a 20 minute shower then he can do it in his own home

Yes

OP has stated he doesn't pay towards the bills.

If the money doesn't matter, then you're being utterly ridiculous.

Some poster here must be complete nightmares to live with. People who want the OP to escalate this non-situation, turning the stopcock off or making demands.

Living with other people means tolerating a bit of annoying behaviour as no two people want to live their lives the exact same way.

For clarity, highly temperature dependent but I just calculated that about 6% of a shower is likely to be lost as steam. Some of it will drip back down regardless. You're creating fights with your kid because you're worried the water company will lose 7.5 litres of water each day. Thames water alone loses 602 million litres each day to leaks. They have 16m customers, so are are losing 19 times the amount your son loses just proportionally for your household alone. Locate reality for a second.

It's £42 monthly, and she says it isn't about the money.

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂sorry but your post made me laugh . You sound hilarious 🤣

If it isn't about money why would you begrudge your son a longer shower?
Do you have chronic water shortages where you live?

@samedifferent It sounds as if water consumption is something that the OP feels strongly about.

Her adult son doesn’t agree perhaps, but when you’re an adult living with your parent and not contributing to bills, who gets the final say?

Assuming he doesn’t have mega long hair that he spends ages shampooing and conditioning whilst not needing the water running then I don’t think he should have to turn off the water. I personally do turn off water intermittently whilst I’m showering but that’s because I spend a long time on things like conditioning my hair/shaving legs etc. and I’m conscious of not wasting water, from an environmental perspective.

However, 20 mins is way too long to have the water running constantly. So wasteful! Totally unnecessary length of time for a shower and I’d insist that he restricts it to 5 minutes with the water running. Whatever he’s doing in there, he’ll have to do it somewhere else because a quick hair wash and washing/rinsing his body should not take that long.

I'm on page 1 and already people are making up rubbish competing to say they have the shortest showering time.

There is literally nothing on here that people will not try and outdo others on.