Loud parenting and grandparenting that goes on and on...

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Am I unreasonable to be irritated by the unnecessarily loud, fake/ over enthusiastic "cheerleading" style of child-accompanying that seems to happen when multiple family members accompany or look after one or two small children?

Longer background for the few who can be bothered to read below no need to read it obviously:

I'm very tolerant of child noise (as in noise made by the actual children) but my neighbours have had their little granddaughter all summer, while I was off work and at weekends and oh my goodness the grandparents are so loud! At first I told myself it's nice they're so enthusiastic, but they're in the garden basically cheerleading in kind of loud baby voices for hours every day, and when the parents collect the little girl (coincidentally just after I get in from work on week days) they settle in for an hour before taking her home and join in and there are four of them at it!

I've been noticing similar out and about (two parents with one toddler at the pool were trying to work their child up to whoop and scream by doing so themselves going down the (toddler size) slides and then splashing him and each other directly on the pool steps even though the child himself was playing contentedly and fairly quietly, scooping and pouring water from his little bucket just making the odd comments and smiles to his parents until they got him riled up).

Just now I was out for a walk and an extended family coming up behind me were the same - five adults on foot being loud kind of at two relatively quiet small children on little bikes, with lots of shouted baby talk and cheerleading. They were the only other people around and were maintaining a distance about 30 meters behind me and completely ruined the otherwise potentially very peaceful walk.

YANBU to find the adults annoying or

YABU and a grumpy old woman?

I know what you mean. Was staying in a hotel recently. In the dining room at breakfast time there was a group of five adults and a baby. We were treated to a loud medley of children’s songs sung by the adults.

Performance parenting. I am so glad there is a phrase for it now. My kids are at university. It was a phenomenon that irritated the hell out of me when they were little. I used to call it ‘running commentary parenting’ then.

It is the middle-class dads around here that do it. Always so loud. When it is perfectly possible to engage well with your kids at a normal volume like we did.

And the announcements are always so worthy. It is usually something like ‘finish off on the monkey bars and then we are going to go and watch Macbeth at the theatre and we can’t wait for that yummy kale salad mummy has prepared at home can we?’. It is never ‘finish off kids as we’re going to go to McDonald’s and then have a few hours at home on our iPads eating haribos’.

Cat tax picture please. To distract me from the performance grandparenting that's just kicked off next door complete with dire music and trampolining please rain please rain please rain

@CypressPeace
Always so loud. When it is perfectly possible to engage well with your kids at a normal volume

This. I don't think anyone would disagree that it is a positive thing to engage with, interact with, talk and play with young children....but why do people 20 metres away need to hear it, when the child is probably within arms reach.
Similarly I have no objection to people speaking on the phone or listening to music on the train....but (imo) it's quite antisocial and unneccessary for half the carriage to hear!

This thread is about everyone’s views whether you disagree or not, not just yours.
When l read the thread, my understanding was, it’s about the parents, grandparents, not children, of course interaction is positive.
Unfortunately so many people have taken offence, if others give a different view to theirs.
I don’t think anyone needs to be told to cheer, up either.

This is a very particular British hang up. You see a group of adults interacting with children at a volume you deem too loud and your first thought is they are somehow performing for you? Or trying to compete with each other? It's a really bizarre read on a strangers motives.

Ahh. Like “museum parents”
“look William. A fish! Can you count its scales!” “Look Annabelle that looks like stickman!”
if you can’t beat em join em. I call my daughter Lettice and tell her she can have nettle soup after her harpsichord lesson. My son is either Atila or Horation. Nobody bats an eye in London. Nearly brought Booths in Keswick to a standstill.

😂

Anyone can comment on Mumsnet, anywhere in the world.How would you know if any of these comments on here, are just from the UK.
Motives?Now that really, is a bizarre comment

@Lucy25 Give over. Most of Mumsnet is based in the UK and this thread scream British if you've lived in other countries.

I interact like that with my daughter when I'm overtired and have run out out of functioning brain cells. I agree with people who say it's better than the parents/grandparents being on their phone but equally I can see how it would be annoying. I really don't mind kid noise, but living in a flat next to a park, it mildly irritates me to have to listen to children screaming for the last hour of daylight when I'm trying to unwind or get my little one off to sleep, , even worse when parents are encouraging it! I really can empathise with both sides.

It's the combination of being loud and the showy-off content of what is being said that makes it clear it's for an audience other than the child.

Maybe it's just a thing that British people do & that's why it appears to be a British "hang up".

But it is definitely a thing.

Families enjoying their little ones! Stop whinging, if it bothers you that much then get some earphones.