To forward face 15 month old

[Ohtoeisme]

I know from the point of view of an accident we aren’t as safe; the problem is she has become car sick when rear facing and apart for it being unpleasant for her it’s also a choking hazard.

I don’t think I’m being unreasonable but I am worried about judgement, stupid really. I guess I’m wondering if you would judge!

This is why I can’t reply sensibly to these threads OP!

I am terribly motion sick and the thought of going backwards at all just makes me feel awful. The thought of going backwards in the backseat of a car (as opposed to on a train) is unthinkable to me.

But listen to the other posters rather than me as I don’t think my advice would be good advice!

Well he is and I don't want him RF

Yeah I get that people are judging on this thread but in your actual life it's just you so make the decision that is best for you. Of course other parents on here will judge you, it's all they do.

What about turning off the airbag in the front and putting them rear facing in the front seat ?

I would infinitely rather use an appropriately fitted FF seat than alter a RF seat outside of the instructions.

My 14 month old is still rear facing but I'll probably turn her around soon. My motion sickness is so much worse when I'm travelling backwards.

It's not very, very unsafe. Perspective is needed. The consequences of a crash are worse than rear facing. A crash is no more or less likely to happen.

Try rear facing in the front passenger seat first. This helped DSD’s motion sickness particularly if we opened the window.

Not looked at the stats myself but I know front passenger is least safe seat in the car. Chances are a rear facing baby front passenger is more at risk than a front facing one on back seat.

@Jk987

@rebecca100

It's not very very unsafe. It's marginally less safe. Lease keep it proportional. Those of us with older kids forward faced, in my case dd was in 60mph accident and her well fitted ff seat saved her life, well fitted being key. I'm far from criticising extended rear facing but keep comments accurate,

Have you looked at the Cybex Anoris OP?

It's forward facing but has recently been awarded fantastic results by ADAC.

Rear facing still pips it in safety testing but they created it with little ones like yours in mind.

Not cheap but it's maybe worth it for the peace of mind until she gets a bit older.

Rear facing is safer but you’ve got it tough here OP because I do not know what I’d do in your shoes. Unattended vomiting, risk of aspiration and the distraction of that while you are driving potentially multiple times a day seems like a greater danger to me to be honest. I’m surprised posters are being so dismissive of that.

It isn’t cheap … unfortunately I’ve not long since bought a car seat for the next stage. This one offers both rear and ff as an option and at the time I hadn’t planned to ff her until she was about 2, but things have changed.

Have you read the reason why it's safer to rear face? You don't need to be in some huge crash for your child to die , just one that makes her head be thrown forward with some force. That includes very sudden braking . The weight of her head will snap her spine. That's why they rear face untill their bones are properly developed

With regards to travel sickness, I had it terribly as a child and still have it bad enough as an adult that I've said sayonara to many travel dreams, I won't even look at a coach and sometimes get it whilst playing video games or watching telly. I hate it. People think it's just nausea but it's a whole body sensation it's awful.
People think it's a good idea to travel with an empty stomach in case they are sick, but that can be a mistake. travelling hungry makes it much worse. Give your child a dryish sort of snack before travel. Make sure she does not get hot at all. Remove air fresheners from your car and everyone traveling shouldnt wear scents. Bring rich tea biscuits with you everywhere you go. New car smell can be a trigger, so keep windows open if that's a problem.

Your 2 year old is over 125cm tall? 🤔

I doubt children would care what car seats their friends are in. Not everyone drives to school anyway.

Some people prioritise their children's car safety, I don't get why you should have a problem with that. Not the choice you make for your children, fine, but don't criticise others for putting safety first.

@OhMaria2 i know. But equally, dryish snacks and new car smell (ha, new sick smell more like) notwithstanding I think expecting a child to vomit regularly with a sort of ‘meh, it’s for her own good’ is a bit cruel. Maybe as a one off but regularly absolutely not.

Second the suggestion of the Cybex Anoris - we have one and it’s brilliant. There isn’t a snowball’s chance in hell I would forward face a 15 month old in a standard seat, sorry OP. We bought one as a solution to a fitting issue, but I would really recommend in these circumstances too - but maybe with a waterproof mat over the shield just in case as I don’t think the cover for that bit is removable!

I'd usually advocate for rear facing as long as you possibly can,
But tbh, if she's being sick whilst you're driving there's a risk, I'd assume if you felt she was choking then the panic would increase the risk of an accident also.
I think you also need to think of the damage that being sick regularly can do to her oesophagus and teeth.

Just do all you can to minimise the risks as much as possible to her when travelling which you are, because you have different factors to take into account than most parents.

You say that but there was a thread a few months ago where op was outraged that her 13 year old son was not rear facing when she gave her y9 child's friends mother his car seat. She was just incandescent with rage that her son's friends mum had put her child at risk.

She gave the mother of her child's friend who is in year 9 a rear facing car seat.

You could speak to the GP about medicine?
My son was sick very easily, at car journey over 10 minutes. We kept him rear facing and he naturally got better and fully outgrew it around 4. We FF him at 5.

For me it was never worth compromising on safety in case of a crash. But you have my sympathies. I couldn't ignore the statistics. I think it's very unlikely they would choke.

We were prescribed something at about that age which we used on long car journeys. Moved on to kwells at about 3yo.

I’d be surprised if the GP prescribed anything to be honest. I certainly was never given anything other than travel sickness tablets, which didn’t work.

Internal decapitation is incredibly rare and vanishingly unlikely.

A friend's little girl used to be sick on every journey longer than 20 minutes, they couldn't even leave their village without dealing with vomit. Her GP was able to prescribe something from age 2 for longer journeys that did help (but didn't solve the problem). Friend's car just constantly smelt of vomit.