To be frustrated with my friend who’s become a “guru” after a trip to India?

[Silentfriend]

My friend recently went to India and has returned with a completely new attitude. She now acts like she’s a life guru, constantly telling people to quit their jobs, disregard their managers, and dismisses “first-world problems” with a “you just don’t understand” attitude. She even created a separate Instagram page to give out life advice, though it seems more like she’s having a mid-life crisis rather than offering genuine wisdom.

I’m getting really tired of her constant preachiness and the way she’s acting superior. AIBU to feel frustrated with her attitude and the way she’s using her trip as a platform to push her new “enlightened” persona?

Admittedly I'm about as spiritual as a dead dog

But wouldn't these people find inner peace quicker if they stayed off of Instagram and other social media?

I wonder how she'd feel if you suggested that OP?

OP, I know how frustrating it all is because one of my relatives is heavily caught up in Pentecostalism and has the irritating tendency to interpret all kinds of minor occurrences as a message or blessing from God…

e.g. a minor piece of good fortune occurs: ‘It’s a miracle!’

That said, I lived in India for 2 years about a decade ago.

It did not leave me any more (or less spiritual) but it did cure my fear of UK spiders. When you've woken up enough times to a dead (or live!) cockroach in the room/bed then you stop worrying so much about our benign eight legged housemates here

Pmsl at Jamaican Al 🤣🤣

She sounds like Jez from peep show 🤣

They all seem very happy. He calls himself Master X (not actually x, but his name), and they all call him Master 🙈😆. I just looked on insta, he has 768k followers and refers to himself as a yogi. Promotes manifesting and law of attraction

Janey Mac, that's mad altogether! The locals would have thought he was a bit of an eejit anyway, whilst probably being a bit flattered at the same time! They would never see him as Irish anyway! I'm 2nd generation Irish, living in Ireland for nearly 2 decades and am still known as "the English Wan" or at the very least "a blow-in". Sure even native indigenous Gaels who've moved to another townland a few miles away from their "home house" are called "blow-ins" so yer man doesn't stand a chance, God love him 😁😉!

Spot on! She was there for two weeks.

You say 'begosh' and 'begorrah' a lot.

Did you write like that ironically? 🫣

I’d be tempted to point out that going on a lifestyle holiday fortnight, and then telling people not to bother about working to feed and clothe themselves and their family, is very much a symptom of first world entitlement and privilege

I would tell her she's insufferable and to knock it off.

Two weeks 😂

Ok, I had a similar experience with a friend who went to Nepal. He was insufferable when he returned, even organised events to meet some Buddhist monks and all with the "change your life" tag. Well, roll on a few years and he's currently flying very high in a huge international corporate firm and showing very little signs of abandoning his material possessions. I'm sure he is still "spiritual" but thankfully he's stopped ramming it down our throats.

She was there for two weeks 😂

Can you get her on here to do an AMA? I want to know what the next stop after quitting my job is!

Did she give up her job? How does she support her mew enlightened self 😆

Oh god.
my sisters ex boyfriend went to India and came back with a whole new name 😂
he went there Neil and came back and insisted everyone called him Bjorg. Went no contact with his parents for being materialistic (they have a normal 3 bed semi),
then promptly moved to Norway. He posts an awful lot of insta posts now of him swimming in a freezing lake in a bobble hat.
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I had a friend who went to India and talked about it non stop afterwards , how she felt it was her special place, loved everything about it, the people, the culture, etc etc it was like listening to someone post gap year but in their fiifties - quite annoying and so self. centred in her case droning on for hours about it ..lol

You have a grand parent who is /was Irish.
Live in London. Drink Guinness.
Plastics...

‘That’s nice dear,’ - and ignore.

It is a known psychological syndrome -

''India Syndrome''

www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2022/jan/13/india-syndrome-lost-in-the-valley-of-death-harley-rustad

he went there Neil and came back and insisted everyone called him Bjorg.

Does he know that's a woman's name?

Oh it’s a hard one, I wouldn’t laugh at her, I’d probably just not engage. Who knows what she’s really going through internally. I don’t think she’s really doing anyone any harm, in that she’s not building a cult of followers!

Ha!

When I was at secondary school I had a (newly qualified) maths teacher with a really strong Liverpudlian accent- and being a proud Liverpudlian was like a core part of his personality IYSWIM (always talking about how great Liverpool is. Liverpool FC merch on his desk etc)

Just always assumed he was from Liverpool. why wouldn’t you?

Found out from a random mutual friend a few years later that the teacher was in fact where we were from, had worked in Liverpool one summer, come back to the south with a strong Liverpudlian accent and then just kept it forever- and seemingly adapted his personality to go with it 😂

Proper laughing at this!

I spent a few months in India after university. Amazing country. Luckily I managed to avoid coming back as a twat (I think!). But I do remain Facebook friends with a woman I met out there because she went full India syndrome. Posts all about enlightenment and spirituality, has reinvented herself as a lifestyle guru/singer who releases very heavily auto tuned songs. Doesn’t post so much about Daddy being a big time NFL agent and new husband being a record label exec, it’s rather easier to float around babbling about the mysterious feminine when you have rich men funding your every whim!