I’ve never lived alone

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I’m 46, lived at home until 23, when I went to live abroad with Dh, lived with him since.
Is this a bit pathetic?
I worry in the future if I ever had to live alone, I’d find it hard, I don’t even like when he’s away, although it’s been easier since I had my Dd

Me neither. Parents house then husband. He worked away quite a bit bit not same as being alone as such

Me neither. I moved out for uni, lived with a friend for a year after then moved in with DH.

Me either, moved from my home with my parents to living with DH at 19.
I would probably go stir crazy living alone.

I’ve lived alone since I was 21, I’m mid-40s now. I will never live with someone, it’s not for me.

Never lived alone either - I don't think it's that unusual.
Most of us did house shares before we coupled up. No way I could have afforded to rent or buy on my own 😁
Don't worry OP, you don't know what you're capable of until stuff happens.
I actually fantasise about living alone some days (sorry family!)😬

As much as I adore my other half, I very much miss living alone at times.

Lounging on the sofa on a Sunday afternoon right under the window in a winter sun puddle napping to your hearts content, with no worry as to who’s going to come stomping in at any time with all their own thoughts wants and needs. Bloody loved it.

Sounds like absolute bliss to me!
I'd probably add the cat, but only if he agrees not to be so vocal 🙂

I'm 48 and never lived alone. Went from home to uni halls, multiple house shares for years (eek!) to living with partner. Living on my own is something I fantasise about. Often!

Yes she met him at uni and she have him money for certain bills like electric, gas, broadband. She paid others. She didnt even understand how to use he heating cos he managed it all the time

It's not weird there are people who don't know these basic things as the other person always did it.

I lived alone from 24 to 47.

Bloody loved it and am not remotely fazed by the idea of being alone again in the future! There isn't a thing DH can do that I can't, if not better, than him.

I can imagine it might be a scary prospect for those that haven't ever lived alone though. If your DH does some home related stuff (organising home insurance for example) I suggest you find out what he does, when, and how, and make a note for future.

Respectfully, it’s deeply weird being so helpless you can’t operate your own central heating in your own house because someone else always does it. I mean, suppose she wanted to turn it on or change the settings when her boyfriend was out? It’s hardly an unlikely scenario.

I've lived in properties with less than straight forward heating systems and it can take some fiddling - but never just not known. If boiler went know the company who service to call as does my DM.

So I agree it sound more like learnt helplessness.

I lived alone between my divorce and remarriage, about 5 years. Because my exH was abusive I found living alone absolute bliss. Did what I wanted, went where I wanted, and the silence and peace in the house was wonderful. I really didn't 'fear' being alone at night, even when we had a serial killer in the area. Just made sure things were locked up tight.

It was an adjustment when DH and I married. I was so used to having it all my way that I had to remember to think in terms of 'us' instead of 'me'. I still treasure the times on my own, though. DH has hobbies that take him away for 3-5 days which is fine with me! 'Alone-time' is bliss. He's a wonderful man, and though I'm happy to see him go, I'm even happier to see him get home.

If I should ever become single, I will NEVER share a home again.

I don't think it's unusual .

I lived alone between first house shares and meeting DH, but I don't think that living alone in my 20s would protect me from the shock of having to live alone again after 30 years of marriage. I guess the difference between then and now is that in my 20s I worked full time and went out several evenings as well so probably actually spent very little time alone. It would feel very different now, although I'm quite happy for the odd couple of days as long as I've got my dog.

I've never even had my own bedroom.
I'm 67.
Went from sharing with sister to sharing with dh.

I think there's a big difference between living alone by choice or if you are alone because your partner has left or you are widowed.

Why is it weird, they had the nest system. he sorted it all out. She never had to since it was all programmed in and he would sort out the changes on the odd times it needed it. I rarely change my settings but I know how to use mine since I live alone.

In alot of relationships there are some things one person does that the other doesn't know own how to do or let's them get on with it because they don't like to do it...like mow and trim the lawn, finances etc.

Me too!

I think it's a good idea for people to live alone at some point in their lives but get that it isn't always financially viable. My mind is blown though when I read about MNers who've never even spent a night alone in their own home though. Ever. At any point in their life.

I’ve lived alone twice, first time when I was 20 and a student in France. It was tough! I’m 48 and the majority of my friends have lived alone - but then they were similar to me and quite adventurous in our youth.

I don’t think it matters tbh if it just hasn’t happened - I suppose I have something to compare it to and I did enjoy the second time. But I’m married with dc 10 and 12 so the thought of living alone is alien to me, so I don’t know how I’d feel if and when it happened.