Friends Husband sending Me MSG - what to do?

[Coffeeforthee]

My Friend is through a Hobby I do 3x a Week.
She doesn't drive so her DH drops her off and collects, I've met him during these occasions over 3 Years, we've also been at the same social events through the Hobby. I would say I'm relatively close to my friend, outside of Hobby we text a few times a week and have had occasional Girls Lunches together too. I've spoken to her DH plenty of times but only polite chit chat, I wouldn't consider him a Friend. My DH hasn't clicked with him on the occasions they've met either, no bad feelings just very different people.
Now the aibu - Friend obviously goes home and talks to her DH about things we've spoken about when meeting up, all fine, I do the same.
But 3 times now her DH has then sent me a text message about those conversations, for instance, I discussed my Dds current issue at College - he text me and asked about it.
AIBU to think this is a little strange, or is he just trying to make Friends?! I haven't replied, just ignored the messages so far

Honestly, off topic but I was ready to agree that it's super weird someone sending you monosodium-glutamate, I never would have read that as "messages"!

My first thought was why MSG?!

Really want a Chinese now 🤣

It’s is a bit odd. I don’t assume he’s a raging pervert or anything but if you don’t feel comfortable then, yeah, ignore.

Maybe some Germanic language is the OPs first language.

Block his number

He is trying to start a dialogue in the hope it goes in a different direction eventually. Had it happen to me but this was in my pre MN days and I naively thought he was being friendly. First compliments then edgy compliments (bet you get a lot of male attention in that outfit you wore the other day) then it definitely ramped up. I said I didnt like it and he didnt stop so I told my friend and showed her the messages. She blamed me for trying to "steal" her husband and never spoke to me again. He is well know for the amount of affairs he has had in the years since but they are still together.

I wouldnt say anything to her because at the moment he has plausible deniability as the messages are innocent. But so do you, so if he ever asks you if you have received his messages say no and say you really do need to get a new phone as that happens quite a lot!

Or how he got it...

He's testing the waters.

I'd speak with your hobby friend and say something like "John messaged me about my DDs college issue the other day. I guess he got the info from you. I don't mind you sharing our conversation, but I'm not sure why he's private messaging me. I'd rather not be messaging with other women's husbands, so I've not bothered replying".

So he saved your number when his wife used your phone

Thats a little creepy

Either he's interested and trying to make a move or it's innocent and he's a little socially different.

I have a friend's husband who occasionally messages me bits and pieces vaguely connected with mw. I just reply briefly. He met my husband and now messages him bits and pieces too.

Block him. Done.

One thing I notice about mumsnet, you never communicate with the other male person, you would rather come on here because most people will give dramatic responses, should change the this to mumsnetdrama.com.
Simple solution would be to ask wife why her husband got your number, then you will get a really boring non dramatic response, I will be accuser of being a troll now.

I did as well 😆

I wonder, @Coffeeforthee
Are you sure it isn't actually you're friend texting you on these occasions, but just from her husband's phone?
Ie: Following up on from your in-person conversations with her?

(Some couples do treat their partner's phones as extentions of their own, for instance if it's closer to hand when a thought occurs, and given that she knows your number is already in it.)

I think OP would know if that were the case

I wondered that as well

One thing I have noticed on here is people not bothering to read the OPs posts in full to find out the facts. Which in this case are that the he has her number because the friend left her phone behind and the OP contacted the husband to let him know.

RTFTA

She already explained how he got her number. Simple solution to posting irrelevant advice would be to read the OPs posts.

Asking for opinions on an anonymous forum isn't dramatic.
OP isn't sure if he has other intentions or not, so going straight to this man or his wife without giving any thought to how to approach the conversation could increase the potential for 'drama'.
Asking for advice on the best course of action seems quite sensible?

Please don’t go there. Ignore him, block his number

Ignore.
Very weird

I find all the animosity odd, i message my husband's friends sometimes or my gay friends partner. I'm just friendly, not like alot of people on mn 😂

It's one thing for her and her husband to discuss what you talked about but why does he have to call you to ask you about it? I find it weird and would ask her why he is doing it? I mean what's the point?

Can't you just ask your friend why he is texting you about these things? I would bring it up casually and say you were a bit surprised to hear from him about your DDs performing arts course as you didn't know he had any interest/knowledge of that? Has he even met your DD?